(Closed) Do you want your daughter to wear your dress?

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
497 posts
Helper bee

I actually gave that thought before buying a dress..the though being that if I purchased something that was made with extraordinary fabric, than at least maybe she would want to use the fabric someday…but as it was, I went with a less expensive dress…and therefore the fabric is nothing to write home about…so I don’t expect her to wear it at all…but I am saving it so that if she wants to see it, I have it.  And who knows, maybe she’ll want to use the veil.

Of course, I say all this and our baby due July 3 is a boy…so who knows if this is all moot anyway 🙂

Post # 4
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I didn’t consider it, really. I never thought that I would wear my mom’s dress, and I’m just assuming any future daughter I have will be like me and will want to pick out her own. I would like to save it, and especially the veil, so that she would be able to incorporate it in some way if she wanted to.

Post # 5
253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Nah.  I’d be shocked if wedding dress styles from today are "in" in 20-30 years, and I had a lot of fun dress shopping, so I pretty much thought the same as ES123.  But I plan to sell my dress after the wedding, so it won’t really be an option!

Post # 6
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Agreed! Maybe the in thing for wedding dresses will be something totally not in style in 30 years! i hate to think my beautiful white Maggie will be that "dated" but who knows. I only hope I can be as helpful and supportive as my mom and that she can get the dress SHE wants and perhaps incorporate a piece of mine or something from my wedding (our cake topper or something cute) into hers. My mom recently gave me a crystla decantur and wine set (real lead crystal!) she got as a wedding gift and I LOVE them. They’re so pretty to set out. I thought about turning my wedding dress into something for a basinett though or something of that nature.

Post # 7
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

It would be really sweet if she did, or maybe a granddaughter if I have all sons. My dress was actually my grandmother’s, and while I did have twinges of wishing that I could just go pick out my own gown, I knew that for what I was able to spend I would never get anything so unique and personal as what I already had in that dress. I would have worn my mother’s dress as well, if we weren’t very differently sized. She got married in the 80s, but her dress is still beautiful, if not trendy.

Mostly I just think it would be cool if the dress would survive that long to have that many generations of women wear it. 🙂

Post # 8
1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Probably not. She’ll want her own, I certainly did. I may sell mine or possibly use in a Baptism gown, but I have the gown I was baptised in. I think my daugther would be more likely to re-waer my first communion dress.

Post # 9
2640 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with most posters.  I never planned on it.  First, how do you know you’ll have a girl?  Secondly, how do you know she’ll be around your size?  Sure you can get it taken in, but my daughter (yes, I did have one) will likely be several inches taller than I am. 

And I agree with the dress styles being different at that point.  And wanting to shop for her own dress.

Post # 10
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I saved the dress just in case she wanted to play dress-up in it, or maybe wear all or some of it on her wedding day.  If she wore it, I would be flattered, but it is certainly not a requirement.  Mostly, I just see it as a memento of the day and I kept it mostly for myself.

Post # 11
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

as a kid a used to slip into my mom’s wedding dress when she wasn’t home.  she didn’t preserve it well, so it had yellowed a bit.  If i could have, i would have tried to wear it or some parts of it at least.   

Post # 12
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Outdoor ceremony, banquet hall reception

I definitely don’t expect my future daughter to wear my dress. I’ll probably keep it for her to play dress up in, or maybe so she can use some of the lace if she likes, but I know styles will change and she might have different taste than I do!

Post # 13
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Because my mother didn’t have a traditional wedding dress for me to even consider or try to incorporate into my dress, I would like my daughter to at least have the option of using a swatch of fabric from my dress, if not wearing it. I know that nothing in style now is likely to be fashionable in 30 years, but she’d have the option to modify it or use the fabric.

I’m sentimental, so I hope she will be too. 🙂

Post # 14
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m not making light of my past, but my daughter (if we have one or could let T’s daughter, my stepdaughter when we marry) will have the choice of TWO gorgeous dresses..both very different most likely.  She could have her pick!  Or if we have a daughter then each one could pick which "vintage" (by then anyway) gown she desired! (my mom saved my old dress, had it sealed and it’s in top condition and gorgeous and made for some awesome pics and I kept the ones with me and my family and friends only)      

Post # 15
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I briefly thought about it — as it stands I’m not entirely sure what I will do with my dress after the wedding. It’s a gorgeous Vera Wang and would certainly make quite the keepsake, but because I’m of average height and Fiance is super tall, I have a feeling my daughter will end up tall as well aka the dress might not even fit her since I’m wearing low heels =P. Anyway, we’ll see. I might just try to sell it to recoup some of the costs since it was such a splurge but a part of me wants to keep it to have some part of it to give to my daughter, if she wishes to include it in her wedding. It would be really meaningful =).

Post # 16
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I doubt that my future daughter would want to wear it, but I want to keep it. My mom’s dress got lost in a move and I never got to see it in person. I wish it was still around so I could at least use part of it in some way. So I’m going to keep mine. Plus I still have my baptismal gown and my first communion dress-I’m pretty mushy and sentimental that way!

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