(Closed) Do you want your proposal to be a surprise?

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
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  • Post # 3
    4801 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I thought I would love for it to be a surprise, but now as bad as it sounds I don’t really care anymore!  I just want it to happen.  I know he has my ring and I am dying!!  He told me it would probably be in the summer (which seems a looooong ways away), so I guess if it did for some reason happen sooner then I would be somewhat surprised.  That being said, I will be on pins and needles about any sort of occasion that is remotely special/romantic so I don’t think I can get too surprised at this point.

    Post # 4
    2088 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Kind of.. while I don’t want a total surprise proposal, I don’t want to know the exact time/day either. Ideally I’d love to be given a “over the holidays”/ “end of May”/”middle of March” type of deadline. Something where I know it’s coming, but I don’t know exactly when!

    Post # 5
    2408 posts
    Buzzing bee

    it has to be a complete surprise for me because if i catch wind of anything i launch into super-sleuth mode and do my best to figure out what’s going on even if it means ruining a surprise. i don’t know why i have this crazy drive to figure things out but i do it everytime i find out i’m getting something i can’t help myself. sometimes i’m able to curtail some of the sleuthing but then i drive myself and everyone else insane with my constant “tell me what it is. no don’t tell. wait, tell me. no, don’t tell me.”

    let’s just say for the sake of everyone’s sanity, it must be a surprise.

    Post # 6
    359 posts
    Helper bee

    Would I like a surprise proposal?  Yes – within a timeframe.  He’s said we’ll be engaged by the end of October – I’m expecting a Halloween proposal ’cause that’s how he rolls.  Do I want to be tortured with an arbitrary, never-ending, “Just relax – I got this,” and have absolutely no idea if it’s coming in the next month or the next year?  NO…

    Post # 7
    5653 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I don’t want it to be a complete surprise, but I guess I’d like to be caught off guard at that moment.

    Post # 8
    6013 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I voted yes… i loathe surprises … totally and absolutely but this is one of the exceptions.  Which works out well cause he isn’t saying annnnnnythingggggg

    Post # 9
    7581 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I didn’t think that I wanted it to. I had expected it and then it didn’t happen. I was totally in shock the day that it did happen and now I’m so glad that I can remember those feeling of shock and happiness!

    Post # 10
    3125 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    Near the end of my waiting period I just wanted it to happen. I didn’t care if it was a surprise or not, he had the ring or not, I asked him or not… In the end I had an idea he might be proposing that weekend but I had no idea when or how and I was still surprised when it happened!

    Post # 11
    3311 posts
    Sugar bee

    I really don’t care if it is a surprise or not- as long as I am not waiting another 6 months. Many women want the whole surprise she-bang but I am more of a low key person. If he came into bed, unsuspectingly with the ring and propsed right then, I would be more than content and that would be surprise enough for me.

    I don’t have many people to tell an engagement story to and many of them would be more interested in the ring anyways.

    Post # 12
    1543 posts
    Bumble bee

    Like several of the other PPs, I too want it to be a surprise, but within a timeframe. I wouldn’t want to know even the exact month, because that would be too much on my nerves, but a ‘by the end of winter/spring’ etc etc type of timeframe would suffice plenty.

    Post # 13
    7298 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Vegan: Believe me, it’s going to be a surprise even if you know about the ring. I knew Mr. T had ordered the ring. I knew when it was in the house. What I didn’t know is when he was going to do it. There were two times when I thought for sure that he would do it any minute.
    The night he did it was a complete surprise! I was so shocked!

    Post # 14
    302 posts
    Helper bee

    YES! I’m kind of sad bc due to our situation (us buying a house but me not moving in until we are engaged and he wanting it to happen as close together as possible) and the fact that he has let me in on the ring shopping, timeline, and even talking to my dad, I don’t feel like it will be much of a surprise at all. I just want what every other girl has gotten–that fun, super exciting surprise and the excitement from everyone you love being so happy for you. I feel like at this point people are going to be more relieved that he finally did it and not surprised at all. I know he can still surprise me kind of by doing it when I am not expecting it, but I know when to expect it by and there are some big things coming up for us that I suspect he may do it at. He knows i want to be surprised, lets just see if he can pull it off…

    At this point I just want it to happen, so I guess if i am not surprised it isn’t the end of the world, as long as the moment is memorable in some way

    Post # 15
    1056 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @Flutterbybee!  Man we are alike!!! 🙂 LOL  I’m so with you!!!!!!! 

    Bring on the engagmement and make this real!!


    I wish this site was like FB and it had a like button on peoples remarks.

    Post # 16
    870 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I honestly don’t care as long as he does it. 🙂

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