(Closed) Do you wear your dress when you sign the Ketubah?

posted 8 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

most brides wear their dresses for this. there’s also a bedeken (veiling) before the ceremony, which is the first time your groom will see you. 

the ketubah is your legal jewish wedding. i have heard of the bride and groom signing the ketubah separately (i think it was for an interfaith wedding where one person really wanted to keep the christian tradition of not seeing each other until the aisle). you’ll have to talk to your rabbi to see what he or she is okay with.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

You will traditionally already have your dress on.  The men and women will each have a separate get together prior to the ketubah signing (tisch and kaballat panim) and then the two groups come together for the ketubah signing and bedeken. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We are interfaith and we want to be together when signing the ketubah but at the same time I don’t want him to see me (in my dress or not) before I walk down the aisle. I don’t get much during the ceremony because Christians don’t have much so I am determined to keep that tradition in tact and he understands. Our rabbi agreed that we could sign the ketubah after the ceremony. I am still going to push for a during the ceremony signing though. And I want our minister (my Dad) to sign it as an officient too. I think you can do it however you want. But I would definately talk to your rabbi.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

My mom had a traditional, Orthodox wedding… she didn’t sign the ketubah at all. I know other people where bride and groom signed in different rooms. My husband and I signed it after the ceremony, at the same time as we signed the marriage license.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Jewish tradition does not include the superstition about the groom not seeing the bride until she walks down the aisle.  In fact, the tradition is the exact opposite:  at the bedeken, the groom puts the veil over the bride’s face.

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