Post # 1
So I am pretty superstitious and I was wondering wether or not you think that your wedding dress should be worn when signing the Ketubah prior to the ceremony? Initially I wanted to get into my gown after, because I would prefer my fiance to see me in my dress for the first time when I walk down the aisle. However, I was told that when we sign the Ketubah is when we are actually married and the ceremony itself is just for show. Whats the proper ettiquite for this?
Post # 3
most brides wear their dresses for this. there’s also a bedeken (veiling) before the ceremony, which is the first time your groom will see you.
the ketubah is your legal jewish wedding. i have heard of the bride and groom signing the ketubah separately (i think it was for an interfaith wedding where one person really wanted to keep the christian tradition of not seeing each other until the aisle). you’ll have to talk to your rabbi to see what he or she is okay with.
Post # 4
You will traditionally already have your dress on. The men and women will each have a separate get together prior to the ketubah signing (tisch and kaballat panim) and then the two groups come together for the ketubah signing and bedeken.
Post # 5
We are interfaith and we want to be together when signing the ketubah but at the same time I don’t want him to see me (in my dress or not) before I walk down the aisle. I don’t get much during the ceremony because Christians don’t have much so I am determined to keep that tradition in tact and he understands. Our rabbi agreed that we could sign the ketubah after the ceremony. I am still going to push for a during the ceremony signing though. And I want our minister (my Dad) to sign it as an officient too. I think you can do it however you want. But I would definately talk to your rabbi.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
My mom had a traditional, Orthodox wedding… she didn’t sign the ketubah at all. I know other people where bride and groom signed in different rooms. My husband and I signed it after the ceremony, at the same time as we signed the marriage license.
Post # 7
Jewish tradition does not include the superstition about the groom not seeing the bride until she walks down the aisle. In fact, the tradition is the exact opposite: at the bedeken, the groom puts the veil over the bride’s face.
Post # 8
Thank you for the replies guys! I am aware that it isnt a jewish tradition to wait till I walk down the aisle… Its just a personal superstition that Ive always felt he shouldnt see me till then. I like the idea of signing it during the ceremony… I think I will talk to my rabbi about that!
Thanks so much!!