Post # 1
I am currently applying for new job roles. I got engaged a couple of months ago. My question is do you wear your engagement rings when meeting new employers?
My current employer, who is female, has judged ladies that have worn their engagement rings to interviews. Stating that they would be taking a lot of time off, would not be 100% dedicated to the role, will be wedding planning during office hours and will leave the job in a few years to start a family. My manager has never had children or been married.
This, of course is so discriminating, and the applicant is always told something else about why they have not got the job.
So, knowing this and seeing it come from a female employer. I ask, should I wear my engagement ring?
Thank you in advance.
Post # 2
misste : I work as an engineer, which is a male-dominated industry. I have taken mine off during interviews before, but only because there’s no disadvantages to not wearing it. You honestly have nothing to lose by not wearing it, but as you described, wearing it could submit you to someone’s latent discrimination. By the way, your current employer sounds like an HR nightmare and an old, bitter hag.
Post # 3
- Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada
Wow, that would be illegal pretty much everywhere. Many already married people only wear one ring and many others wear fashion rings on that finger, they’re sure losing a lot of potential employees for no reason. I have never taken my ring off for any social situation as I would hope that woman is a rarity!
Post # 4
misste : Does your employer discrimiate against all younger women then? Even if someone is wearing an engagement ring and a wedding band do you think she would still think “well they are young and married so soon they will be taking maternity leave to have babies?” Or even for younger women who aren’t married, tons of people in modern times have children before or without getting married at all.
Obviously her thinking is disgusting and discriminatory anyways but it doesn’t even really make sense. Does she only tend to hire males or older women?
I always wear my engagement ring to interviews (including for the job I have now). I wouldn’t want to work for someone who discriminates like this anyways.
Post # 5
sapphire27 : Thank you for your reply. She has previously employed school leavers with not a lot of experience as she thinks they will stay in the job for a long time and are very appreciative for being given a chance. (I am one of those, and have been with her for 5 years)
She has also employed a 30 year old single female who has expressed no desire for children and/or relationships. They get on very well.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t wear it, but that’s just because I don’t think my marital status should be part of the consideration in hiring me or not.
I would wear my ring once I got the job, assuming it was the type of job where it was appropriate.
Post # 7
misste : never even considered not wearing it! From the sounds of it you need to run from current employer, that’s awful what they’re doing!
Post # 8
I’d wear my wedding band that is rather plain, but not an ering.
Post # 9
misste : I have worn my engagement ring to an interview before, and straight after glancing at it, the male hirer started asking me about if I had children, and when I was planning on having children! Since that experience, I will not wear my engagement ring to an interview. Absolutely you shouldn’t be discriminated against for it, but doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t want to work somewhere that decided not to hire me due to my marital status. So yes, I wear it. I know not everyone has the luxury of being able to be so choosy, though, so I can understand doing whatever needs to be done to secure a position, as much as it infuriates me that it’s yet another thing women need to worry about.
Post # 11
happyhappywife : The thing is that you would never really know why you weren’t hired. No potential employer will straight up tell you they didn’t hire you because of your marital status.
Post # 12
youngbrokebride : omg is that not illegal? I’m not sure where you are but that is completely against the law in Ireland. In an interview you can not be asked
Gender: this means man, woman or transsexual
Civil status: includes single, married, separated, divorced, widowed people, civil partners and former civil partners
Family status: this refers to the parent of a person under 18 years or the resident primary carer or parent of a person with a disability
Sexual orientation: includes gay, lesbian, bisexual and heterosexual
Religion: means religious belief, background, outlook or none
Age: this does not apply to a person aged under 16
Disability: includes people with physical, intellectual, learning, cognitive or emotional disabilities and a range of medical conditions
Race: includes race, skin colour, nationality or ethnic origin
Membership of the Traveller community.
Although a ring is visual so the interviewer can note it. I’d leave my rings on, at lease if they hire you, you’ve been 100% honest & they show they are a genuinely interested in you as a candidate
Post # 13
rae718 : But because I wouldn’t have gotten the job, I still wouldn’t be working there and be free to go somewhere that doesn’t disciminate haha.
Post # 14
Yes I definitely would wear it! I would’ve though that married women if anything might be taken more seriously/ viewed more positively (I do NOT think that’s true or should be the case, just thought maybe it was a general stereotype potentially internalized by some) but maybe I have it all backwards! Either way, a woman should not be judged my something like this, but I would’ve never thought to not wear an e-ring or wedding ring for a job interview.
Post # 15
Absolutely. I do not want to work anywhere that discourages vacation as travel is important to me. I want to work somewhere with a good work culture. Also, I look extremely young so it is an advantage to me to wear it. Luckily, my employer is amazing and very excited for me to get married. They are so supportive of vacation and in fact encourage it.