(Closed) Do you wear your engagement rings to interview?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
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  • Post # 31
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    Bee Keeper

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    misste :  Your boss sounds like my old boss, a dried up old hag who hates people who are happy.

    I did wear my ering to interviews and even my wedding set when I was married.  I never once thought that was what took me out of the running.  I figured they found someone better than me at the time.

    Post # 32
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I too am interviewing at different jobs, & I have never even thought to take off my e ring. When applying for jobs, you are choosing the employer just as much as they are choosing you. This might not be the right place for you.

    Best of luck!

    Post # 33
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I wouldn’t. I work in a male dominated industry and there are 100% prejudices that people hold about women in the workforce, especially one about to be married / already married.

    Post # 34
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    Helper bee

    If you really need or want a specific job, and you are female, you should never wear a wedding or engagement ring to an interview.  

    Sexism is a fact of life.  I’m an attorney, and the amount of casual sexual harrasment or discrimination  is astonishing.  I’ve experience it first hand, witness it occuring to others, and heard third party accounts.  (As a rule, its usually in the court houses with judges or the opposing side.  My office environments have always been fine.)

    If you are worried about office culture and have the luxury of turning down an opportunity, wear your ring.  Recently, an older friend of mine with an extremely large book of business turned down an offer because she was asked about children in the interview process.  She took an offer at a more diverse firm, and has doubled her business since. 

    Post # 35
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    Helper bee

    When I was interviewing this crossed my mind briefly. But I didn’t take off my ring. Think about it – do you really want to work at a place that wouldn’t hire you based on that discrimination? I’d think of your engagement ring as a filter for you to find a place that’s not scared off by hiring a woman who might one day get married and have children.

    Post # 36
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I only wore my wedding band…I felt if they saw my engagement ring they might think I had money and didn’t need the job as much. 

    Post # 37
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    That’s craziness. I wore my e-ring (engaged at the time) to my interviews and got several offers. The quality of my work isn’t related to my e-ring, and if someone were to judge me based on my ring, I wouldn’t want to work for/with them anyway. That said, my e-ring is average sized, and my industry isn’t as traditional as some others. 

    Post # 38
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Although employers aren’t LEGALLY allowed to discriminate based on marital status, they do, myself included. I find myself wondering how much time off that woman will require in the next two years  it’s never stopped me from hiring someone I liked, however it does make me wonder. I assume other employers DO pass on offering those women jobs, so I’ve taken mine off in interviews before. You’ve got nothing to lose by taking it off, but keeping it on could lose you a job you might love!

    Post # 39
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    Bumble bee

    I’ve never even given this a thought, I would without doubt wear my e-ring to an interview. 

    I’d honestly rather not work somewhere that might judge you on something like this, it would be the kind of place that expect you to have no life outside of work and working at those places never works out well.

    Post # 40
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

     I would never want to work somewhere that would discriminate based on this (or on any arbitrary factor) so yes, I always wear my engagement & wedding ring to office job interviews. I used to be an actress, so I wouldn’t always wear my ring at auditions (if the role was for a single girl, for example), and I try not to wear my rings when I go to the gym or yoga. Other than that, I always wear my rings. 

    Post # 41
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    Bumble bee

    I work in a male dominated field and it never even occurred to me not to wear my rings. I interviewed at three places and was offered a job at one. 

    I did have a weird question asked in one of them (not the place that offered me the job) they said “you don’t plan to take any long vacations any time soon? Like you don’t come in one day and say I’m going to be gone for 3 months!) My initial thought was that they were hoping I’d slip up and say something about maternity leave. Turned me off and I wouldn’t have accepted the job if they offered.

    Post # 42
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    If I were looking for a real career job that I intended to stay at for several years, I would absolutely wear an engagement ring. I have no interest in getting hired by anyone who discriminates illegally based on marital status. If I were in dire financial straits and just needed a job to put food on the table,  I would probably leave it off, just to increase the chances of getting employed somewhere – even if it wasn’t a great work environment.  Those bills have to get paid! 

    Post # 43
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I just interviewed for a new job and I did not wear my engagement ring but I did wear my wedding band. I am an RN so I don’t wear my engagement ring to work anyways.

    Post # 44
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    Bee Keeper

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    rae718 :  I wore mine to an interview and didn’t get a second interview. But I also stupidly mentioned upcoming time off I needed so I think it was that and the fact that after interviewing there I really didn’t want the job anymore and it probably showed.

    I once had a man tell me that family and kids gets in the way of work and that it’s good I’m single (soooo freaking illegal). This was a huge national bank too. I never got the interview I wad promised and I have no doubt they wanted a man for that role. 

    Post # 45
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    Sugar bee

    I wouldn’t. Employers make all kinds of tiny judgements (not all of them conscious or intentional) that they wouldn’t normally during interviews because they have such a tiny window to judge your commitment and credentials. They might even do it subconsiously, or it may come down to you and one ALMOST indistinguishable candidate, and they’ll use it as a deal breaker – well, she’ll be focused on her wedding this year rather than her job. It’s sexist and bullshit, but you only have so many ways to communicate your commitment in that window of time so I’d probably skip it. 

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