(Closed) Do you/ When did you start calling your in-laws mom/ dad?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: When did you start calling your in-laws mom/ dad?

    After we got engaged

    After we got married

    They felt like family from the beginning

    Never, I call them by their first names


    Never, I call them by a nickname

  • Post # 2
    2538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I call my Future Mother-In-Law by her first name. I’ve never known anyone who calls thier inlaws mom/dad. Maybe its just an old fashioned thing but to me that would sound sooo weird! 

    Post # 2
    499 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    The idea of calling my in-laws mom and dad is so weird to me. They’ve never asked, I’ve never done it! Not gonna happen. 🙂

    Post # 4
    25 posts
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I don’t. I’m actually still not sure what to call my Father-In-Law. I hope that by the time the wedding rolls around that we’ll be close enough for me to call him dad

    Post # 5
    1202 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I don’t really address my in laws as anything… But I don’t envision myself ever calling them “mom” or “dad.” 

    DH and I have an awesome relationships with my parents, but his parents still refuse to treat us like the adults that we are. I think calling them mom and dad will only continue to reinforce their view of us as children instead of mature adults who can manage ourselves. 

    Post # 6
    2956 posts
    Sugar bee

    I have 3 older siblings who have all been married for decades and I have never heard my sibling-in-laws call my parents mom or dad nor have I heard my siblings call their in-laws mom or dad.  I call my in-laws by their first names.  

    Post # 7
    800 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel

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    njbride1102:  My inlwas are separated. I call my mother in law mom since we started dating, for some reason it always felt normal,we are also very close. However, my father in law I call him and his wife by their first names. I’m not as close with them.

    Post # 8
    548 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I love my in-laws, but I would feel weird calling anyone but my parents “mom” or “dad”. 

    Post # 9
    1323 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

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    njbride1102:  My Future Mother-In-Law would love to be called mom (and signs off with “Other Mom” when she writes me), but I won’t be calling her Mom. I don’t typically call my parents mom and dad, though. I usually call them by their first names.

    Post # 10
    5046 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    njbride1102:  There’s no way I could call anyone else Mom or Dad. No. Not for me.

    Post # 11
    312 posts
    Helper bee


    Post # 12
    2595 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    His dad asked me to call him pop as soon I I met him (I had only been dating fi for 6 months then.) My dad wasn’t in the picture so I have no problem calling him pop. His mom is from Peru and speaks most of the time in Spanish unless she is calling to guilt trip me. So I kinda just float by her.

    Post # 13
    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I call my mother in law, mom. Before we got engaged. 

    Isn’t weird for us. Very common in our country as well.

    Post # 14
    661 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I call Fi’s mother “BFF *first name*”, she started calling me BFF Ashley a while ago so it just happened. I call FIs Dad by his first name though. I don’t like the whole Mom/Dad thing, weirds me out.

    Post # 15
    27 posts
    • Wedding: November 2016 - Fire Hall

    I address them by their names when I am talking to them or about them.  I reference them as “your mom/dad” when talking to Fiance.


    Now, FI’s grandma asked me to call her “grandma” from the start.


    I lost my mom and I am not sure that I will ever be able to call them Mom/Dad.  Probably will switch to Grandma/Pap when we have kiddos.

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