Post # 31
From my experience in Vietnamese culture, you call your in-laws mom and dad after you get married. I’m marrying a White/Mexican guy but from the get-go, I always called his relatives Aunt *name* and Uncle *name* as a sign of respect and they all love it. But I actually never thought about whether I should call his parents (who are divorced but remarried with other people) mom and dad. And how would I address his step parents? It’s a thinker! I would ask his mom or dad whether they would like that!
Post # 32
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
I call them by their first name.
Post # 33
njbride1102: exactly!! Lol it’s so weird to me
Post # 34
I address them as Mrs. First name and Mr. first name
Mom and dad is weird lol
Post # 35
My parents called their in laws mom and dad. I call mine by their first names. Never even thought to call them mom and dad, would feel a bit awkward for me personally.
Post # 36
Nope. Mom and Dad were taken. We use Mama and Papa X like most of the grandkids do.
Post # 37
No way. Call my Father-In-Law by first name. But it’s highly influenced by the fact that I find him intolerable (along with the rest of the world – lol – he doesn’t get along with anyone and is rude) and was very close with my dad, who passed away.
Post # 38
I LOVE my in-laws and I still don’t feel right calling them mom and dad, I don’t see the point nor do I think it makes sense.
Yet, my Brother-In-Law calls me SIS all the time and it doesn’t bother me at all…. Then again, I’ve referred to some of my best friends as brothers and sisters, so it doesn’t seem as weird.
I guess I just take MOM and DAD very literally!
Post # 39
I just call them by their first names…don’t think I could ever call them mom and dad.
BUT my dad called my mom’s parents Mom & Tom (her mom and her stepfather Tom – grandma was a widow & remarried shortly after my parents).
Maybe it’s an old fashioned thing
Post # 40
Never, I try not to call them anything – honestly but if I had to, I’d call them by their first names. My mom passed away so I would never call another woman mom. My Father-In-Law does say, “hey daughter!” everytime he sees me and I think it’s sweet but I’d never call him “Dad”. I already have a dad.
I do remember my mom calling my dad’s parents mom/dad though and always wondered if she felt weird.
Post # 41
I’ve been married for several months now, and I’m still not sure what to call them officially. They are really nice and have said I can call them whatever I feel comfortable with. I want to call them a blend of mom/dad and their first names (e. g. Dad+Robert=Dobert), but I think they thought it was weird. We’ll see what I actually end up calling them.
Post # 42
My in-laws are deceased now, but for the years they weren’t, I never called them anything. Sounds stupid, but it just never happened that I called them by their names or anything else. I would just come in their house and call out “HI!”
I wouldn’t have called them Mom or Dad in any case. My Darling Husband called my mom by her first name, my dad died before I met Darling Husband.
Post # 43
I call my Future Mother-In-Law by her first name and I called my Future Father-In-Law by his first name before he passed. My Fiance calls my parents by their first names. It would be incredibly odd to call my ILs “mum and dad” – I already have a mum and a dad, plus a step mother.
Post # 44
We call each other’s parents by their first name. My daughter’s boyfriend has always called us mom & dad, but not in front of his parents. I was surprised but found it very sweet. My daughter calls his parents by their first name, but calls his grandma and grandpa by the same nicknames he uses.
Post # 45
We refer to “Mama J” and “Mama R” for each other’s mom’s..still very odd to use their first names.