Post # 46
I worry more about my Darling Husband when he’s at home alone than when goes somewhere. He frequently works from home but sometimes he goes in to work, freelance stuff that’s generally pretty safe. But the reason I prefer him being anywhere around people than alone is that he’s a Type 1 Diabetic. Logically I know that he’s lived with it for over 20 years, and lived alone for 3 years, and he’s very responsible, but sometimes I suddenly get irrationally worried.
If you regularly feel really stressed, you should seriously consider doing something about that. Stress is really terrible for your mental and physical health, especially as you age.
Post # 47
Safety at work no. However, my FH is black. And sadly, at least evrry other day has to deal with ignorance, sterotyping and can at any moment fall victim to someone’s blatant or subconsious racist projections. Those situations can easily escalate to a harmful situation. So I’d glady trade work safety issues in a heartbeat.
Post # 48
My Fiance works for a subcontractor of CN Rail, and he does a lot of work with big machines and heavy pieces of railway (they tear up old rail lines across the country). He’s gotten a few minor injuries at work, but he’s generally pretty careful so I don’t worry too much about him when he’s at a job site. However, he has to drive 2 hours to another city (where his company is based), pick up a work truck, and then drive anywhere from 8-16 hours with his coworkers to another province to work. They’ll often do these long drives AFTER working a 12 hour day, and that makes me nervous.
Two and a half weeks ago, he was driving back home from the city 2 hours away in his truck. It was clear there, but there was serious snowfall here. He got caught in the storm about an hour away from home. He lost control and rolled three times into the ditch. He wasn’t wearing a seatbelt (he’d just pulled out of a gas station on the highway). The roof of the cab was completely crushed in, except for a small area right where his head was. The doors were mangled, and three of the tires were blown. He broke out of the driver’s side window and, miraculously, walked away without a scratch. He went back to work 4 days after his accident and I spent the entire night crying and throwing up. He left again last night, and I’m still sick with worry (but no puking this time, thankfully). I’m praying that this doesn’t become a long-running issue for me.
Post # 49
I could of written this post word for word.
It’s not normal.
SO doesn’t work in a dangerous industry – he does drive around for meetings occasionally. If I don’t hear from him for extended periods/he doesn’t answer his phone/he hasn’t been on faceboook for a few hours I get very intense anxiety which is only alleviated when I hear from him.
I will often send him a message simply saying “anxiety – confirm not dead” – I am going to start seeking professional help for this as it is really damaging my quality of life.
My mother passed away when I was a child and I went through a traumatic event with my dad and recently divorced and I have abandonment issues. Really hoping I can overcome this.