Post # 1
In this age of instant communication, it seems that it’s more and more expected that people will be contactable at all times and as much as I hate it, I have found myself having those expectations myself!
For example, I will inwardly freak out if I can’t get in touch with either my S/O or my mom as soon as I call them. If it goes past an hour or so and they haven’t called back, my mind starts racing with worst-possible cases (accident, heart attack, brain aneruysm, in my S/O case running off with another woman…) They are the only two I worry about though because I KNOW they are both glued to their iphones and it’s very rare for either of them not to pick up right away. I never get angry at them though because shit happens, people leave phones in purses, to charge in another room, or are somewhere where they can’t answer their phone.
I will never count on reaching my dad on his cell since he barely knows how to use it, my brother is not a phone person so we usually just communicate via email/FB, my nephew is 13 so he’s not going to be reliable about his phone and my friends are all so busy that I never call them spontaneously-we have to set up “phone dates” in advance. I wouldn’t worry unless they were unreachable for days and never called me back.
And myself? I used to be the world’s biggest phone flake. I would leave it in my bag for days, forget it at home, lose it under my car seat. I’ve gotten drastically better about it since a)I started dating S/O-before then I didn’t have anyone calling me with regularity b)I got an iphone and want to keep it with me so I can browse FB when I’m in long lines and c)I started job-hunting and don’t want to miss any important calls. But I still will sometimes forget to turn the ringer on after getting out of a meeting, not hear it when I’m listening to music in the car and leave it in a different room. So I guess that makes me a hypocrite that I expect other people to be a slave to their phone when I’m not a slave to mine. At least I keep my feelings to myself!
Post # 3
@worldtraveler: I totally get what you’re saying. When my husband doesn’t pick up his phone, I try calling him many more times in a row to try and get ahold of him. I irrationally worry because he always answers when it is me, so if he doesn’t, I panic a little bit. I sound like a nut. Hahaha
Post # 4
LOL YES, and I am as big of a phone flake as you. I am horrible about taking people’s calls, yet if I can’t get ahold of Darling Husband for 30 minutes, I will naturally assume the worst.
The other night he went out to pick up some dinner, and I felt like it was taking too long. He didn’t hear my call, so for about 15 minutes I was frantic he got hit by a car.
Post # 5
I not only get worried when I can’t reach someone, I start to freak out if I see I have several missed calls from a loved one, even though it’s just the same thing of me missing their calls. Glad I’m not the only paranoid one!
Post # 6
@mrscash: I’m like you too. My heart jumps a beat basically any time one of my parents call me. They don’t usually call me too much (I call them often, they live nearby and I see them frequently too). This stems from getting bad news via phone before. I have let my mom know about this and she knows to leave a message telling me to call her back if it is something urgent. Otherwise, she doesn’t leave a message and I know not to freak out. I still get nervous whenever I answer the phone when they call though!
Post # 7
I’m experiencing this right now!
Post # 8
Not at all. I refused an office BB because I hate being expected to be reached anytime. My cell is almost always on silent. Just got back from a weeks vacation and still haven’t checked my email.
I don’t want to accessible on demand to anyone and I don’t expect anyone to be accessible on demand for me. I get enough of that 40 hours a week at work. I don’t want it on my time.
Post # 9
@SeaSalt: “I don’t want to accessible on demand to anyone and I don’t expect anyone to be accessible on demand for me.”
Same here! Part of why I’ve been resistant to even getting a smart phone is I don’t want to be contactable all the time. When I get home from work, my phone stays in my purse on the counter and I frequently don’t hear phone calls. It’s no big deal to me. People have lives outside of being glued to the phone or computer (or at least they should)!!
Post # 10
Not really. I get more irritated because when I don’t answer the phone when my mother calls, she immediately thinks I’m dead. But if I need to get in touch with her, it’s A-OK for her to never answer the phone. Then I get pissed.
My husband has freaked out a couple times in the past when I didn’t immediately answer the phone/responded on Skype/text/Steam/whatever and he has panicked, but nothing drastic.
I’d be more likely to freak since my husband is military and flies all over the country, but it hasn’t happened yet. I remind myself that his job is stressful and changes frequently, so he’s usually wrapped up in something.
Post # 11
My Dh works in a job where he cannot bring his cell phone into the security-clearance building. He HAS to leave his phone in the car every day. So if he is not at his desk, then I just have to wait till he gets back. In an emergency I can call his office mate- I did that once when I was pregnant and almost fainted and went to the hosptial to get checked out. But other than that – I have to wait!
Post # 12
@worldtraveler: Yup, I worry when I can’t get a hold of people right away.
I try to make sure my phone is always on etc., but there have been times where I’ve not been reachable for a few hours like if I leave my phone on vibrate and forget to check it.
I’m usually at work or with my SO so it is really hard for me to be completely unreachable.. like if someone needs to find me it may take more effort but it’s not like I’m totally off the map.
Post # 13
@nantes14: haha, this is me too. My fiance always (well usually) answers my calls even if it is just to say “I’ll call you back”. So when he doesn’t pick up, I repeatedly call him until he answers.
My mind wanders to the worse possible scenario. I wish I could stop it, but I can’t help it!
Post # 14
I totally inwardly freak out, and sometimes even outwardly freak out. I know it’s not reasonable, but it doesn’t change the fact that I do it. Darling Husband knows this, and he’s gotten so much better about at least letting me know he’s still alive. He used to be the world’s worst about absolutely freaking me out.
Post # 15
Not really. Sure there are sometimes like if he hasn’t texted me back and it’s been hours and I know he’s not busy but normally I just assume everythings okay.
Post # 16
I don’t worry about most people (I prefer to use email/facebook messages/texts, so they can respond as soon as is convenient) but I do generally expect FH to be available, phone on and noticeable at all times that he possibly can be. As I am to him.