(Closed) Do you worry/get pissed when you can't immediately reach loved ones?

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Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@worldtraveler:  I totally get what you’re saying.  When my husband doesn’t pick up his phone, I try calling him many more times in a row to try and get ahold of him.  I irrationally worry because he always answers when it is me, so if he doesn’t, I panic a little bit.  I sound like a nut.  Hahaha

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

LOL YES, and I am as big of a phone flake as you.  I am horrible about taking people’s calls, yet if I can’t get ahold of Darling Husband for 30 minutes, I will naturally assume the worst.  

The other night he went out to pick up some dinner, and I felt like it was taking too long.  He didn’t hear my call, so for about 15 minutes I was frantic he got hit by a car.

Completely irrational! 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I not only get worried when I can’t reach someone, I start to freak out if I see I have several missed calls from a loved one, even though it’s just the same thing of me missing their calls. Glad I’m not the only paranoid one!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@mrscash:  I’m like you too.  My heart jumps a beat basically any time one of my parents call me.  They don’t usually call me too much (I call them often, they live nearby and I see them frequently too).  This stems from getting bad news via phone before.  I have let my mom know about this and she knows to leave a message telling me to call her back if it is something urgent.  Otherwise, she doesn’t leave a message and I know not to freak out.  I still get nervous whenever I answer the phone when they call though!

 

 

Post # 7
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263 posts
Helper bee

I’m experiencing this right now! 

Post # 8
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1227 posts
Bumble bee

Not at all. I refused an office BB because I hate being expected to be reached anytime. My cell is almost always on silent. Just got back from a weeks vacation and still haven’t checked my email. 

I don’t want to accessible on demand to anyone and I don’t expect anyone to be accessible on demand for me. I get enough of that 40 hours a week at work. I don’t want it on my time. 

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@SeaSalt:  “I don’t want to accessible on demand to anyone and I don’t expect anyone to be accessible on demand for me.”

Same here!  Part of why I’ve been resistant to even getting a smart phone is I don’t want to be contactable all the time.  When I get home from work, my phone stays in my purse on the counter and I frequently don’t hear phone calls.  It’s no big deal to me.  People have lives outside of being glued to the phone or computer (or at least they should)!!

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Not really. I get more irritated because when I don’t answer the phone when my mother calls, she immediately thinks I’m dead. But if I need to get in touch with her, it’s A-OK for her to never answer the phone. Then I get pissed.

My husband has freaked out a couple times in the past when I didn’t immediately answer the phone/responded on Skype/text/Steam/whatever and he has panicked, but nothing drastic.

I’d be more likely to freak since my husband is military and flies all over the country, but it hasn’t happened yet. I remind myself that his job is stressful and changes frequently, so he’s usually wrapped up in something.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

My Dh works in a job where he cannot bring his cell phone into the security-clearance building.  He HAS to leave his phone in the car every day.  So if he is not at his desk, then I just have to wait till he gets back.  In an emergency I can call his office mate- I did that once when I was pregnant and almost fainted and went to the hosptial to get checked out.  But other than that – I have to wait!

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@worldtraveler:  Yup, I worry when I can’t get a hold of people right away.

I try to make sure my phone is always on etc., but there have been times where I’ve not been reachable for a few hours like if I leave my phone on vibrate and forget to check it.

I’m usually at work or with my SO so it is really hard for me to be completely unreachable.. like if someone needs to find me it may take more effort but it’s not like I’m totally off the map.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@nantes14:  haha, this is me too. My fiance always (well usually) answers my calls even if it is just to say “I’ll call you back”. So when he doesn’t pick up, I repeatedly call him until he answers.

My mind wanders to the worse possible scenario. I wish I could stop it, but I can’t help it!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I totally inwardly freak out, and sometimes even outwardly freak out. I know it’s not reasonable, but it doesn’t change the fact that I do it. Darling Husband knows this, and he’s gotten so much better about at least letting me know he’s still alive. He used to be the world’s worst about absolutely freaking me out. 

Post # 15
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859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Not really.  Sure there are sometimes like if he hasn’t texted me back and it’s been hours and I know he’s not busy but normally I just assume everythings okay.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t worry about most people (I prefer to use email/facebook messages/texts, so they can respond as soon as is convenient) but I do generally expect FH to be available, phone on and noticeable at all times that he possibly can be. As I am to him. 

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