(Closed) Do you/did you regret any of your wedding party choices?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Did you regret any of your wedding party choices? And what is the reason?
    Yes, and we regret more than one choice. : (8 votes)
    21 %
    Yes, we regret one person. : (10 votes)
    26 %
    Yes, but we regret not ADDING a person/people. : (8 votes)
    21 %
    Nope, we made the perfect choices! : (12 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I don’t regret including anyone, but I do regret NOT including some other people. Which I guess is better than the other way around? Basically, if I had asked two other girls to be in the wedding party, I wouldn’t have lost them as friends (but then are they really such good friends to begin with if they would end our relationship over that…?). 

    Post # 5
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    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We each had one.

    One of DH’s groomsmen we haven’t seen since the wedding. About 3 months before Darling Husband asked if it was too late to kick him out. He ended up causing so many problems and not participating in anything. Including sitting in his car during the bachelor party. Really? He was engaged and then slept with a mutual friend of all of ours who is now a bridesmaid in his wedding. Someone told his fiance through anonymous email or something and he thought it was me or Darling Husband that told her. He’s a loser. 

    I asked DH’s sister and one point actually kicked her out of the wedding and let her back in. She was running around telling people she didn’t think we would make it. I don’t regret it completely because her and I are now closer, but she was an absent Bridesmaid or Best Man including bailing on the rest of the bridal party during shower planning and not attending my bachlorette. My bridesman did more to help than she did. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    377 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We’re not having one and I love it. It seems to me like expectations of brides and expectations of bridal parties often don’t match up and it seems to ruin many perfectly good relationships. Plus, our wedding is very small, so singling out guests would probably just look silly.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1489 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I have yet to get married but so far the wedding party is working out really well…..

    Post # 9
    Member
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

    Well, my vote’s wrong now. 🙁 I had no regrets at all.

    Post # 10
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    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My wedding isn’t until September and I regret asking my cousin to be a bridesmaid after she made me feel bad for not asking her in the first place.  I think the only reason she wants to be in the wedding is to wear the dress and show off her weight loss.  She didn’t RSVP to my first shower and is not attending my Bachlorette party nor did she RSVP to it.  We will see if she comes to the 2nd shower at the end of the month…

    Post # 11
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    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No regrets here.

    Post # 12
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    810 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I met one of FI’s female friends from high school and immediately clicked with her. We had a whirlwind friendship, if you will, and became instant best friends. All of our friends (I’m pretty tight in his group of old high school friends) told me to watch out because she’s drama, but I refused to believe them. I asked her to be a bridesmaid and she was thrilled. For a few months, it was amazing! Then one day I get an e-mail from her saying that she was NOT going to be a bridesmaid for me! She said I was too attached to my fiance and that I should not be putting *any* man before my friends. HELLO! I met her through him! Did she think I was gonna ditch him and marry her? The worst part was when she told me that she was NOT under any circumstances going to pay me back for her dress (Which I paid for, with her promising to pay me back when she had the money) So now my bridal party is lopsided, and apparently everyone and their dog *knew* she was going to do this. She’s my only regret, everyone else is perfect!

    Post # 14
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    810 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @Wannabe-diy-bride I wish! She is literally the skinniest person I know, of course! We’re just gonna deal with the lopsidedness and the dress store said I didn’t have to pay the other half, but they’ll keep the dress. So I’m not out the full cost, but it still sucks.

    Post # 15
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    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Nope. I chose my son and SIL to stand with me, and Mr. LK chose his best friend, whom he has known for almost 2 decades. We wanted the people who would always be in our lives up there with us, and we made the perfect choice for us.

    Post # 16
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    3241 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Nope. Both happy with the people we chose.

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