Post # 1
When I read some posts it seems that some bees SO know when they are ovulating.
We are TTC and I use OPKs so I know when I am ovulating, but I never tell DH and he doesn’t know I am using OPKs.
I don’t know why, but I can’t think I would ever tell him for fear of causing him anxiety or making him feel like I am just interested in love making to get his sperm!
He has never turned me down for sex so it hasn’t been an issue till now. He has a trip planned this weekend and he might be away, there is a chance I might be ovulating then but I still didn’t want to tell him as I didn’t want to stop him going away (and I think it would really freak him out if he thought I knew when I was ovulating off the top of my head!).
Just curious, does your SO know when you are ovulating?
Post # 3
I didn’t vote since we are not TTC. But if we were, I would probably tell him.
Post # 4
Yes my DH knows and he just likes to have sex in general so he doesn’t care WHY I initiate it just that he’s getting some. 🙂
Post # 5
My DH knows…I promised him before we started TTC that I would try to be casual about it so we could keep things fun, but that may be a tough promise to keep. This past week I was like hmmm…I’m ovulating so we should probably just do it. and he was all…OKAY! Haha
Post # 6
Well when we were TTC the first time, I didn’t use OPKs or chart… but I knew I was ovulating because my sex drive was off the charts! I mean, we did it before work, after work, then before bed, and I would wake up horny again… we had a 3 day sex marathon because I kept forgetting that we just did it…
So.. yeah.. I never told him, but I’m pretty sure he knew. We got pregnant that month.
Post # 7
I don’t tell him the exact day, but I hint that it’s ‘time’ for lots of BD… 🙂 I don’t really share a ton of the details at this point bc I’m trying to keep it casual (& being crazy on the side, haha). I did opk’s last cycle, but didn’t tell him about those.
Post # 8
My DH asked to know, and I get so excited when I see that smiley face that I couldn’t hide it from him even if I wanted to 🙂
Post # 9
We’re not TTC yet but I don’t think I’ll tell him when we are. I think him knowing (at least in the early stages) will only stress him out more and I don’t want to put pressure on him.
If we have difficulties, I’d make him more involved with that type of knowledge at that point.
Post # 10
Oh he definitley knew. It didn’t give him any anxiety or performance issues – he was just excited that he got to do it way more. haha.
Post # 11
When we first started TTC, we tried to keep things casual so I didn’t tell him. Of course I knew when I was ovulating (or, supposed to be ovulating) so it was impossible for me to be casual, but I didn’t want to put a ton of pressure on my husband.
Now that we’ve been TTC a long time I am more up front about when I’m supposed to be ovulating, etc. It’s really helped me because that way I’m sharing the responsibility with my husband. I was starting to feel so much pressure with trying month after month and it helps that I can talk it out with my husband.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride\'s residence
We’re not TTC yet but I still tell Mr. D, haha. We’re data nerds, so charting is kind of fun.
Post # 13
He’ll definitely know. We’re not TTC yet, but Mr. Artichokey is anxious as I am so it’s pretty likely he’ll want to time everything perfectly. Plus, he’s a scientist and the idea of tests and accuracy windows and probabilities are something he loves. I think he would buy OPKs now if there were any point to using them.
Post # 14
Same here. He doesn’t check my charts or anything, but he always is on top of my cycle. He usually knows when my period will start before I check my app – the guy’s good!
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
When we are TTC I don’t plan to tell him. For me, I don’t want DH to feel like we are “baby making” instead of “love making”. I can be somewhat OCD about a lot of things, and I know for sure him knowing when I’m ovulating would be a HUGE turn-off. Our plan for the beginning at least is to just stop all preventitive methods and see what happens. I’ll be tracking (because I’m OCD) but I want to try and let it happen more “naturally” and not so much as a calculated thing.
Post # 16
@indibee: “He usually knows when my period will start before I check my app” <–
oh mine does too, because I am threatening to kill him!