(Closed) Do you/did you tell your SO when you are ovulating?

posted 9 years ago in TTC
  • poll: Do you tell your SO when you are ovulating?

    Yes, he knows!

    No, only I know!

  • Post # 17
    2774 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    If we ever actively TTC and I have to monitor my ovulation, I feel the same as Mrs. KMM.  I wouldn’t tell him in the early stages (to keep things feeling fun and spontaneous, and to avoid pressuring him or making him feel like he had a job and a deadline), but would get him more involved in the process if we had been at it for awhile and pregnancy wasn’t happening.

    Post # 18
    373 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I did last month (which was the first month of ttc) but this month I’ve decided to keep it a secret just so it didnt seem like such a chore for him. I’m hoping it happens soon though cause this is exausting 🙁

    Post # 19
    1263 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My DH has wanted baby #2 forever, so now that I have finally agreed to officially start trying, he is all about it and wants to know everything. I feel bad sometimes though, because I don’t want him to feel pressured during that time, or feel like its a chore but he hasn’t had any complaints yet so I guess it works for us.

    Post # 20
    607 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    When I was charting to avoid, I told him, because after O we didn’t have to worry abotu birth control. Now that we are in the early stages of TTC, I won’t really be telling him. He really doesn’t want to get too worried about it (we’ve heard horror stories and performance anxiety and drill sargeant like BDing). So for the first few months I probably won’t tell him, at least until after the fact, but if it takes longer, then he will be more in the know. 

    That said, I did explain to him how we missed the window this month since he was away. I offered a biology lesson but he declined and took it at face value.

    Post # 21
    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I don’t have to tell my husband; he can totally read me, and always knows, lol.

    Post # 22
    5117 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    @Sea_bass:  Haha! So true! But now Mr.Indi knows a full week ahead of time before chocolate-sour gummies-Lifetime movie marathons kick in. And I’m thinking he counts the days after it ends to see when the no pants party really kicks in, LOL.

    Post # 23
    126 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My Fiance gets really excited when I talk about my temps and how likely it is that I’ll get pregnant on specific days. For as much as I want to get pregnant, he wants it just a little bit more 🙂

    Post # 24
    338 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I tell him now because we are using FAM to avoid. But once we are TTC, I won’t tell him.

    Post # 25
    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I voted yes 🙂 I think my SO enjoys knowing, he is very much in the spirit of having a baby and he likes to know when we should give it “extra” times.

    Post # 26
    1272 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Mine knows, for a few reasons… firstly, there have been a few months when he was unwell at the time, so he wanted to know why I was making him have sex – secondly, my cycles are all over the place, so I decided to use OPKs and couldn’t hold it in when I finally saw positives, and thirdly, i wanted to share the stress and pressure of all this, it didn’t seem fair how much of this whole process falls on the woman.

    Totally understand why you wouldn’t tell him if he had performance issues though!!!

    Post # 27
    136 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We are TTC but I still want there to be fun in BDing. I voted no, but if he asked or really wanted to know I would certainly tell him.

    Post # 28
    842 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Even before we were together, DH was my best friend.  I talk to him about pretty much everything.  So yes, I tell him when I hope to ovulate (hasn’t actually happened yet).  Before we started TTC in July I talked to him about how I’d like to try the Sperm Meets Egg Plan, which involves BDing on a certain schedule.  It was way easier having him know the plan than to try to seduce him every other day. 

    He never really felt pressured, I don’t think.  But then we never did get a positive OPK, so I was never like, “I’M OVULATING NOW GET OVER HERE” lol.  Although it did take us a really long time to give up on O, so after about 3 weeks of every other day it started to feel like a chore.  If we only had a week or so of that it would’ve been fine. 

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