MemberIf we ever actively TTC and I have to monitor my ovulation, I feel the same as Mrs. KMM. I wouldn’t tell him in the early stages (to keep things feeling fun and spontaneous, and to avoid pressuring him or making him feel like he had a job and a deadline), but would get him more involved in the process if we had been at it for awhile and pregnancy wasn’t happening.
MemberI did last month (which was the first month of ttc) but this month I’ve decided to keep it a secret just so it didnt seem like such a chore for him. I’m hoping it happens soon though cause this is exausting 🙁
MemberMy DH has wanted baby #2 forever, so now that I have finally agreed to officially start trying, he is all about it and wants to know everything. I feel bad sometimes though, because I don’t want him to feel pressured during that time, or feel like its a chore but he hasn’t had any complaints yet so I guess it works for us.
MemberWhen I was charting to avoid, I told him, because after O we didn’t have to worry abotu birth control. Now that we are in the early stages of TTC, I won’t really be telling him. He really doesn’t want to get too worried about it (we’ve heard horror stories and performance anxiety and drill sargeant like BDing). So for the first few months I probably won’t tell him, at least until after the fact, but if it takes longer, then he will be more in the know.
That said, I did explain to him how we missed the window this month since he was away. I offered a biology lesson but he declined and took it at face value.
MemberI don’t have to tell my husband; he can totally read me, and always knows, lol.
MemberMemberMy Fiance gets really excited when I talk about my temps and how likely it is that I’ll get pregnant on specific days. For as much as I want to get pregnant, he wants it just a little bit more 🙂
MemberI tell him now because we are using FAM to avoid. But once we are TTC, I won’t tell him.
MemberI voted yes 🙂 I think my SO enjoys knowing, he is very much in the spirit of having a baby and he likes to know when we should give it “extra” times.
MemberMine knows, for a few reasons… firstly, there have been a few months when he was unwell at the time, so he wanted to know why I was making him have sex – secondly, my cycles are all over the place, so I decided to use OPKs and couldn’t hold it in when I finally saw positives, and thirdly, i wanted to share the stress and pressure of all this, it didn’t seem fair how much of this whole process falls on the woman.
Totally understand why you wouldn’t tell him if he had performance issues though!!!
MemberWe are TTC but I still want there to be fun in BDing. I voted no, but if he asked or really wanted to know I would certainly tell him.
MemberEven before we were together, DH was my best friend. I talk to him about pretty much everything. So yes, I tell him when I hope to ovulate (hasn’t actually happened yet). Before we started TTC in July I talked to him about how I’d like to try the Sperm Meets Egg Plan, which involves BDing on a certain schedule. It was way easier having him know the plan than to try to seduce him every other day.
He never really felt pressured, I don’t think. But then we never did get a positive OPK, so I was never like, “I’M OVULATING NOW GET OVER HERE” lol. Although it did take us a really long time to give up on O, so after about 3 weeks of every other day it started to feel like a chore. If we only had a week or so of that it would’ve been fine.
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