Post # 1
This is a bit weird, but my bridesmaid and best friend of 16 years keeps asking me when my wedding day is. It’s like she can’t remember the date. I have told her repeatedly when it is over the past year and a half, and now it’s 5 monhts away. She still text messages or emails me every month asking me when it is. Granted, she is a busy lady and we hardly see each other because of our busy careers. But we email every day, and she was even the one who designed my STD’s. Do your bridesmaids remember your wedding day? Or do they need constant reminder?
Post # 3
Does she have memory problems? Most adults would write it down or put something on their computer calendar instead of asking you 5000 times.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I’m not sure if my girls remember the date, but my fiance sure as hell can’t remember it. Sigh.
Post # 5
MMM they better or else they better tell me now if they wanna be in it!
Has she heard of a pen? she needs to write it down and maybe stick it somewhere she can see it every day or once in a while.
They should know since they are in the wedding, I’m sure she doesnt want to double book herself so she should write it in her planner.
Post # 6
yes, they do. sometimes they give me countdown updates on my facebook. it’s pretty amusing.
Post # 7
I would put it in huge letters on top of every e-mail you send her.
Post # 8
Umm has she heard of this little thing called a day planner or calendar? lol. That’s odd that she keeps asking you, it’s almost as though she wants you to know it isn’t important enough to remember. I’m not trying to start something, I’m just saying, short of having memory loss issues, I find it hard to believe she *actually* forgets your wedding date every month lol.
Post # 9
If she’s super busy she must rely on a calendar. Send her a meeting invite on google calendar or lotus notes or outlook or whatever she uses.
Post # 10
The bmaids do, but the Groomsmen are clueless … even after save the dates went out. She will be there, don’t worry!
Just remember that your wedding day will never be as high a priority to someone else as it is to you. She’s not forgetting on purpose or to be offensive/rude. It happens even among closest friends.
Post # 11
Hmm, does she HAVE one of your STDs on her fridge or something? Maybe she really just has a bad memory and needs visual reminders. Or maybe she’s been asked to do other things that weekend and just wants to check. I know I do the latter when it comes to other friends weddings quite a bit.
Post # 12
At first one of my BMs couldn’t remember but she was busy planning her own wedding. Now that she’s married she’s got it down 🙂 There is one groomsman that I have to remind all the time though. He even took the wrong weekend off of work AFTER the STDs and invites went out.
Post # 13
@ Ms.MedinaJr – Exactly, I feel like asking her if she’s ever heard of a pen! The dumb thing is that she owns a blackberry, so I’m sure that device has a built-in calendar? Doesn’t it?
@ shaydenise – I also find it very hard to believe that she actually “forgets” my wedding date every month, considering she designed my STD’s. I mean, I’m not asking for her to make it the center of her universe, I just want her to put it on a calendar somewhere so she won’t double book on the day of. Her forgetfulness is irritating me.
@ Mermaid 1082 – The weird thing is, our groomsmen know exactly when the wedding is, they even know the time and location, etc.. but this one bmaid does not.
Post # 14
Yes, they do. I would be offended if they didn’t. She should write it in her planner or something.
Post # 15
PS: this is what our recent conversation looks like:
Jade: When’s your wedding date?
Amber: Lol. October 9th.
Jade: This year right?
Amber: Yes ma’am.
Jade: Oh crap.
Amber: What’s wrong?
… no reply …
Should I be worried??
Post # 16
Oh that would have me worry. Is she normally flighty?