(Closed) do your bridesmaids know your wedding date?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

WOW…that is really sketchy! She should respond to you…she should know that’d have anyone freaked out.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wow, that last convo is ridiculous.  Yeah, it seriously sounds to me like she’s doing it on purpose.  If she is clearly comparing that date to a calendar or something, she can obviously put this event down as well.  I would either buy her a planner with the date marked or make a joking comment like, “Geez, when are you gonna write this down?” and laugh about it. We’ll know you’re serious but she will think it’s joke but still hopefully take the hint. lol

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Eeeesh, I think at this point you have a right to ask what’s going on.  Not in a BZ way, but in a concerned friend way. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My Maid/Matron of Honor came to visit me 2 weeks ago and had to ask when our wedding was, but she wrote it down in her planner so hopefully no more questions?

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think that she is either very disorganized, has a memory problem, or being shady (how can you forget the date if you helped make the STDs).

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

YES! i have a blackberry and it does have a built in calendar! its really neat too! if not im sure “THERES AN APP FOR THAT” lol

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

One of my BM’s asked me at my shower last weekend.  It really annoyed me.  The rest of the girls know the date, or at least I assume they do.  But another Bridesmaid or Best Man had to be reminded that my shower was the upcoming weekend when we got together the week before.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

Eh, I don’t think it’s out of the question that she forgot/forgets.  Some people are just bad with dates.  I know that me helping with the STD would be unlikely to impress it in my memory – I would process the date only insofar as necessary to finish making the STD.  However I would write the damn date down somewhere and reference that anytime I forgot – I would suggest that to her.  🙂

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i have a couple that don’t know for sure and keep asking.. write it down!

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I hope so…you remind me that I should probablly send an email to remind them of it.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think it’s understandable that some people are bad with dates and always ask, etc.  At least it shows she’s thinking about it!  It would be one thing if she was like, “ok it’s the beginning of October is the first or second saturday?”  Something like that.  But that convo is alarming not just because she doesn’t know the date, but because she doesn’t know the friggin YEAR!  AND she is implying that she isn’t 100% sure she can make it (with the “oh crap” comment)

I would ask her about it for sure.  It isn’t BZ to say: In our last conversation you implied there might be a conflict with the wedding date, and you always seem to need a reminder about when it’s actually taking place — what’s up with that?

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

That conversation would really be freaking me out.  Fortunately, it’s still a little ways away.  We had an usher forget when it was and he bought tickets for a show that night. We still had enough ushers so we just cut him.  We didn’t feel bad about it.  Cutting him was more his own choice, but it was still annoying to remove his name from everything.  We found this out about two months before the wedding.

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