(Closed) Do your friends ask you about carat size -diamond details & price of your ering?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do your friends ask you about carat size -diamond details & price of your ering?
    Yes : (22 votes)
    28 %
    No : (56 votes)
    72 %
  • Post # 2
    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    If these people are your friends, why are you questioning their motives in auch a suspicious manner?

    As to your question, yes, my friends and I have discussed our stone specs in generalities. We have not discussed cost. Since I am the only one who was involved in creating her ring, I am probably the only one who knows that detail anyway. But if they asked, I would tell them. They are my dear friends, and I know that their questions are asked with innocent intentions.

    Post # 3
    9699 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    One friend sheepishly asked about the carats because she was curious so I told her. My friends at work asked about the stats and price! We do work in jewelry so the stats question was a genuine curiosity, they love stones.

    The price I always say I don’t know. Which is true… I don’t know the exact dollar amount just the ballpark (which I don’t share in real life).

    obvi the bee is a different story and we over share when it comes to jewelry!

    Post # 4
    4698 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I’ve been asked about carat size. Not about specs or price..

    I would answer ‘I don’t know’ because I truly don’t. I know the ballpark price and I know the specs.. But, not off the top of my head.

    Why so suspicious?

    Post # 5
    681 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    One of my coworkers guessed the carat size (pretty spot-on actually).  He has a girlfriend who just moved in – so I suspect he might be shopping for rings if he got that close size-wise.

    My mom’s boss asked the specs (minus price) but she loves jewelry so I think it came from a good place.

    Other than that, no one has asked… And certainly not guessed the price.  I wouldn’t know the price if they did though – I only have a general idea.

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 2 months ago by  Consultette.
    Post # 6
    8891 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2017 -  California

    Brunette26:  “Do you think it is actually true they dont know or they just want to hear about my diamond and not tell about their own?? Should i respont that i dont know to whoever asks me??”

    To you second question, do whatever you feel comfortable with. It will vary based on the person asking and the kinds of questions asked, but just adjust accordingly.

    If my BFF asked, I’d tell her. If my boss asked, not so much. 

    As to your first question, who knows. It wouldn’t really matter to me because it wouldn’t affect my response — which, as I mentioned above, would be whatever I felt comfortable sharing with those folks.

    Post # 7
    10959 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    Close friend or not, it’s still a rude question. If you don’t want to share, just say “You don’t really know.”  “Why they would ask,” is the unspoken thought at the end of the sentence! 


    Post # 8
    11641 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Brunette26:  I don’t think anyone has asked – maybe one or 2 people who aren’t yet engaged asked about what size the center stone was or the tcwt but that was more because they had no clue.  I think one person said ‘so that’s about 1ct right?’ and i corrected them (center is .5ct and tcwt with halo it .79 – but it covers like a 1.5 solitare)

    Post # 9
    1943 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2018 - City, State

    Some of my family and close friends have asked specs and price and I told them because they’re my near and dear.

    However my boss looked at it and said “that’s gotta be 2 carats! How much did he spend!?” I found that a little rude so I said I didnt know how much he paid but it is certainly not 2 carats (it’s only 1.3) 

    Post # 10
    211 posts
    Helper bee

    Brunette26:  I have had a couple of friends and coworkers ask about the stats. I usually tell them I don’t know unless it’s someone who I know has been looking at rings with their boyfriend and is genuinely curious (like my best friend). I’ve also had friends and coworkers randomly make comments trying to guess the carat size (like “that’s 1.5 carats, right?”) and I always just tell them I have no idea, which is true since my fiance never told me the carat size.

    Post # 11
    284 posts
    Helper bee

    I’ve had a few friends ask. It doesn’t bother me, I am happy to answer any of those questions. I can see why people don’t want to answer them, though, it’s just not a discussion topic I’ve ever had an issue with.

    Post # 12
    1144 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    No one has asked me specs about my stone yet, it’s a moissanite, but I’d gladly share! I don’t think that’s offensive at all.


    Asking what someone paid for something is rude though. This is true about anything someone might purchase, especially large, investment purchases, that’s just tacky.

    Post # 13
    2600 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    To echo lovekiss, if these people are your friends, then you don’t need to be suspicious about their “motives” or, they’re not really good friends. 

    Just do whatever makes you comfortable. I’ve never really been asked about much else besides the type of metal, setting, and cut of the diamond. I don’t mind telling people about that stuff or ct size (I would balk at the price of the ring–that’s sort of overboard–and I don’t know it anyway) and all that, but only if I’m asked. 

    Post # 14
    333 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Brunette26:  my friends tend to be more on the nosy side but only had one or two friends who asked the carat size. I quickly said “I didn’t ask” and my left it at that. I would think most people know not too ask, it’s a bit intrusive. One friend asked me where Fiance bought the ring and I found that a little invasive.

    Funny enough guy friends are more open about talking about ring sizes, prices, etc. 

    Post # 15
    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I haven’t had anyone ask me any specs, but I think if I were talking about my custom designed ring they probably might. Thats kind of a different ballgame. 

    I only know the specs of my diamond because it was certified and I also had it appraised. If I didnt have those little pieces of paper, I wouldnt know the specs.

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