Post # 1
My future FI and i chose the diamond for my ering together and we designed it and custom made it together because he was really conscious about if i would like it or not because he had no clue about jewellery whatsoever.. I told a couple of friends that we custom made my ring and they kept asking about carat size and diamond specs and price and although i do not mind telling them, they never want to talk about their diamond details and price and when i asked them about theirs in return they told me they dont know.. Do you think it is actually true they dont know or they just want to hear about my diamond and not tell about their own?? Should i respont that i dont know to whoever asks me??
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
If these people are your friends, why are you questioning their motives in auch a suspicious manner?
As to your question, yes, my friends and I have discussed our stone specs in generalities. We have not discussed cost. Since I am the only one who was involved in creating her ring, I am probably the only one who knows that detail anyway. But if they asked, I would tell them. They are my dear friends, and I know that their questions are asked with innocent intentions.
Post # 3
One friend sheepishly asked about the carats because she was curious so I told her. My friends at work asked about the stats and price! We do work in jewelry so the stats question was a genuine curiosity, they love stones.
The price I always say I don’t know. Which is true… I don’t know the exact dollar amount just the ballpark (which I don’t share in real life).
obvi the bee is a different story and we over share when it comes to jewelry!
Post # 4
I’ve been asked about carat size. Not about specs or price..
I would answer ‘I don’t know’ because I truly don’t. I know the ballpark price and I know the specs.. But, not off the top of my head.
Why so suspicious?
Post # 5
One of my coworkers guessed the carat size (pretty spot-on actually). He has a girlfriend who just moved in – so I suspect he might be shopping for rings if he got that close size-wise.
My mom’s boss asked the specs (minus price) but she loves jewelry so I think it came from a good place.
Other than that, no one has asked… And certainly not guessed the price. I wouldn’t know the price if they did though – I only have a general idea.
Post # 6
Brunette26: “Do you think it is actually true they dont know or they just want to hear about my diamond and not tell about their own?? Should i respont that i dont know to whoever asks me??”
To you second question, do whatever you feel comfortable with. It will vary based on the person asking and the kinds of questions asked, but just adjust accordingly.
If my BFF asked, I’d tell her. If my boss asked, not so much.
As to your first question, who knows. It wouldn’t really matter to me because it wouldn’t affect my response — which, as I mentioned above, would be whatever I felt comfortable sharing with those folks.
Post # 7
Close friend or not, it’s still a rude question. If you don’t want to share, just say “You don’t really know.” “Why they would ask,” is the unspoken thought at the end of the sentence!
Post # 8
Brunette26: I don’t think anyone has asked – maybe one or 2 people who aren’t yet engaged asked about what size the center stone was or the tcwt but that was more because they had no clue. I think one person said ‘so that’s about 1ct right?’ and i corrected them (center is .5ct and tcwt with halo it .79 – but it covers like a 1.5 solitare)
Post # 9
Some of my family and close friends have asked specs and price and I told them because they’re my near and dear.
However my boss looked at it and said “that’s gotta be 2 carats! How much did he spend!?” I found that a little rude so I said I didnt know how much he paid but it is certainly not 2 carats (it’s only 1.3)
Post # 10
Brunette26: I have had a couple of friends and coworkers ask about the stats. I usually tell them I don’t know unless it’s someone who I know has been looking at rings with their boyfriend and is genuinely curious (like my best friend). I’ve also had friends and coworkers randomly make comments trying to guess the carat size (like “that’s 1.5 carats, right?”) and I always just tell them I have no idea, which is true since my fiance never told me the carat size.
Post # 11
I’ve had a few friends ask. It doesn’t bother me, I am happy to answer any of those questions. I can see why people don’t want to answer them, though, it’s just not a discussion topic I’ve ever had an issue with.
Post # 12
No one has asked me specs about my stone yet, it’s a moissanite, but I’d gladly share! I don’t think that’s offensive at all.
Asking what someone paid for something is rude though. This is true about anything someone might purchase, especially large, investment purchases, that’s just tacky.
Post # 13
To echo lovekiss, if these people are your friends, then you don’t need to be suspicious about their “motives” or, they’re not really good friends.
Just do whatever makes you comfortable. I’ve never really been asked about much else besides the type of metal, setting, and cut of the diamond. I don’t mind telling people about that stuff or ct size (I would balk at the price of the ring–that’s sort of overboard–and I don’t know it anyway) and all that, but only if I’m asked.
Post # 14
Brunette26: my friends tend to be more on the nosy side but only had one or two friends who asked the carat size. I quickly said “I didn’t ask” and my left it at that. I would think most people know not too ask, it’s a bit intrusive. One friend asked me where FI bought the ring and I found that a little invasive.
Funny enough guy friends are more open about talking about ring sizes, prices, etc.
Post # 15
I haven’t had anyone ask me any specs, but I think if I were talking about my custom designed ring they probably might. Thats kind of a different ballgame.
I only know the specs of my diamond because it was certified and I also had it appraised. If I didnt have those little pieces of paper, I wouldnt know the specs.