(Closed) Do your In-Laws call you now that you’re pregnant?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m not preggo yet, but my in laws are helicopter parents (they hover) and we only live 3 miles away from them, so I fully expect it to get worse once we get pregnant. 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m afraid to announce my pregnancy to them because I feel like they would OVER DO IT with calls and visits and everything else lol

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m afraid to announce my pregnancy to them because I feel like they would OVER DO IT with calls and visits and everything else lol

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m afraid to announce my pregnancy to them because I feel like they would OVER DO IT with calls and visits and everything else lol

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

My in-laws and I had basically the same (distant) realtionship through my pregnancy.  Now that the baby is born, though, I hear from them and see them a lot more often.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is a good question.  I’m in the same situation as you… but I have a feeling it will be the same during the pregnancy and hopefully when the baby is born they put whatever they have against you aside and be there for the baby.  One can only hope.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

I have a great relationship with my family-in-law, so they’ve called me directly for years just to talk 🙂

My mother-in-law passed away a couple years ago- if she were still around, I imagine we’d talk a lot. My father-in-law was the first person to know we were pregnant since we found out in the ER when I went in for abdominal pains thinking it was a kidney stone- he’s an internal medicine physician, so we often call him with random questions, even though as soon as someone is pregnant, he refers them out to an OB.

Now, not only do I get calls from him, I get the occasional call from DH’s godmother and aunts! It can be a little much, but it’s all out of love so it’s cool.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I also have a distant relationship with the IL, and I would hope that they wouldn’t change when we get pregnant.  I don’t think I could deal with them all of a sudden becoming involved with our lives.  Plus, I’m 100% certain our parenting styles are going to differ and I’m not one to hold my tongue when they want to interject “advice”.   

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Usually they just call my husband but sometimes his mom will call me directly if there’s something she needs to ask and doesn’t need to talk to him.

Sort of funny: My Mother-In-Law called this past weekend to see if I wanted some Christmas decorations, I’d left my phone at home so she left a message, which she started “Hey, It’s ____, your mother-in-law, grandmother to your child…” It was cute and made me laugh.

His parents live closer than mine do. I’m sure once the baby is born we’ll have all the help we need and I’ll welcome it. I’m not really worried about her telling me what to do or anything – I don’t know what I’m doing so I’d glady let someone take over!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I’ve had lots of women tell me that their MILs call them more often during pregnancy even though they’re not especially close.  I find this incredibly insulting – that they’re only interested in you for reproduction.  They should be ashamed of themselves. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I love my family-in-law and we are very close.  His parents and sister were great and extremely supportive throughout everything we’ve been through (unplanned pregnancy at young age, moving in together shortly after finding out we were expecting, lending a hand with the kids, etc.).  I wasn’t married when I was first pregnant and my Mother-In-Law would call and chat with me or stop by if we were home.  She really didn’t call when we started dating because there was no reason to.  When we moved in together, she would call or stop by because we were together (as opposed to me living at home). 

She and my Father-In-Law were so good about my pregnancy.  I was so afraid they’d hate me and think I’d ruined their son’s life.  But, they were so wonderful through everything.  They never spoke poorly of me because of the predicament we found ourselves in.  They did everything to make me feel welcome and comfortable in their family.  Never told us that we were too young, never said anything negative about us as a couple, never put down our decisions.  They’ve always been super.  I am so grateful to/for them!  It could’ve been really bad … after all, I did get pregnant quite young and had 3 kids without benefit of marriage. 

When I was first pregnant and we moved in together, my Mother-In-Law would call and stop by to see how I was doing, if I needed anything.  She was great and so was my Father-In-Law.  My in-laws have always been there, helped out, stood by us, etc. and I talk to them frequently!  They call me, call Darling Husband, call the kids.  Usually, if Darling Husband is talking to his Mom, he’ll pass the phone to me and I’ll chat with her.  I am so fortunate to have them! 

I’m not pregnant now, but talk to Mother-In-Law on a regular basis.  She’s like my 2nd mom.  I love that I can talk to her and she has great advice! 

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