Post # 1
My parents and FH’s parents have never met each other, but that’s another story. I’m pretty sure that when they do finally meet each other, they won’t get along. My parents are more liberal and not very religious while FH’s parents are the exact opposite. FH’s parents are also aware of my somewha complicated relationship with my mom (she doesn’t like FH, she’s constantly on me about losing weight, getting a tan, she’s never actually given me a comment without a baited hook and how my mom tells me that I’m an adult, but still sometimes treats me like a child and wants me to do things the way she would do them, my mom has never invited FH over for anything and acts like it bothers her when he comes around, she also talks down to FH when he is at their house etc). FH’s parents are more laid back about that. They are very supportive of FH and I. They include me in everything. They realize that FH is an adult and typically stay out of his business.
I feel like things won’t be pretty. My mom has even doubted the seriousness of FH’s mother’s health problems and thinks they are somewhat inferior because they ruined their credit early in their marriage and have never tried to repair it (FH’s mom was 17 and his dad was 21 when they got married and their credit was ruined while FH’s dad was dealing with an alcohol addiction).
I know that our parents don’t have to like each other, but it would be nice considering all the drama I’ve already dealt with since getting engaged.
Post # 3
They haven’t met, so I don’t know. But I don’t think there will be a problem. My mom and FI’s parents are all pretty friendly and easy going.
Post # 4
they havent met either, and plus my FI’s parents are divorced and with married again. so my parents have to meet to set of parents instead of one. ive told them all that i want them all to met before the wedding but for some reason none of them are really excited about it
Post # 5
I am in the same shoes as you are. My mom is overbearing and is not that fond of my FH. My FH’s mom knows all the background. But they have met a few times, and although they would not be GOOD friends, they can all get along for the few hours that we are all together. And truthfully I dont care after that as long as they put on their smily faces during the time at hand.
Post # 6
I have to honestly say they all tolerate each other. I dont know if any of them actually “like” eachother. We have a very strange family dynamic going on. My FH is from NY and moved here a little over 6 years ago and was adopted into a family. When we got together and got Pregnant his real dad decided to move to Cincy to be closer to his grandson.
FH dad thinks everything is a compitition and annoys pretty much everyone at some point.
FH adopted parents are very laid back and fun to be around but have a lot of family drama inside there biological family. But otherwise are supper funt o be around.
My mom is a alcoholic who likes to get under everyones skin. Mine the most. FH adopted families last name is Bittner and for a while my mom called them the “Bitchners” for whatever reason.
My dad is very relaxed tho and kinda gets a long with everyone, He is always the nice guy who dosent cause trouble.(dont ask me how him and my mom are still married)
Post # 7
I also want them to meet before the wedding. I’ve been trying to get my parents to agree to a dinner or something for the last two years and my parents are not excited about it at all. I’m pretty sure they’d be fine never meeting them or having anything to do with them. But it sucks because I get tired of telling Future Mother-In-Law that my parents are really busy every time she asks about a meeting.
That’s really all I want too, but I know how my mom is, so I’m not sure if she’d be nice for a few hours.
Post # 8
They have only met a handful of times, but they get on well enough. My parents are very different to his though, much more liberal and very outgoing, I can’t see them ever becoming friends.
Post # 9
Yea, they get along for the most part though they’re very different. DH’s family are right wing, NRA supporting, country type of people while my mom is the complete opposite. They can tolerate each other but I certainly wouldn’t go as far as to say that they’re friends.
Post # 10
My dad and FH’s dad get along really well! They golf together and really like to talk and BS and drink beers when we has get togethers, it’s cute. FH’s mom lives in another state, but she loves my dad and my stepmom – they’ve only met once. My mom is crazy so no one likes her lol but everyone is civil.
I think that it’s important that everyone meet, but they don’t need to be BFFs.
Post # 11
I agree. I want them to meet at least a few times, but I have no idea how to get my parents on board with that.
Post # 12
@SouthernGirl: My situation is very close to yours, even in concern to your parents’/his parents’ attitudes and relationship with you and your FH. It’s not the greatest situation, but they very rarely have to interact, and they manage to be civil when they do. DH and I have been together 5 years, and I can only remember them having to get together one time (when we got married).
Post # 13
Sometimes I feel like I’m strange because our parents have never met, but I do feel better knowing that I’m not the only one. Maybe it’s best they not meet until the wedding? Then they’ll have to be quiet and won’t have much time to interact? I’m sure my mom could be civil for a little bit… maybe.
Post # 14
Yes, they all get along great 🙂
Post # 16
I’m from BC and my Fiance is from CA, so ours have never met either – our Mom’s have talked on the phone a few times and get along great. His parents are coming up next week to meet my parents and spend about 4 days together – I’m SOOOO excited! I think they’ll get along great, they are incredibly similar. My parents are also going to CA this summer to spend time with his parents at their family cabin.