(Closed) Do Your Parents Have a Favorite Child?

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Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Yeah. Favortism is big in my family. My dad was the least favorite of his siblings and it seems by extension that me and my sister were less favored by our grandparents. My sister is favored over me. I predict in 5-10 years when we both have children, hers will be favored over mine which makes me a little sad to think about.

Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Yes, and it’s me.

 

All though, i’m also the only child. So, there wasn’t much stiff competition. DH is entirely the favorite in his large family and his grandma is not subtle about it. She is also not subtle about the favorite of her 7 kids.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’m also an only child lol. 

My Fiance and his brother take turns on who the favourite is. His brother was an awful child, so it was Fiance for most of their childhood. Now that theyre adults, his brother still dotes on them more, so I’d say its probably him. 

My cousins are around the same age as me, and the eldest boy has ALWAYS been the favourite. Even when he was arrested for assault on a minority, still the favourite. Got a girl he barely knew knocked up, still the favourite. I’ve always felt bad for the younger gal, seems like she just always got the short end of the stick and can’t do anything right. Out of the 3 of us, the boy is still the favourite grandchild too. Which I always thought was annoying LOL.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My mum has never had a favourite. There’s never been much competition between my sister and I. The three of us have always been extremely close, so I think we always functioned more as a unit. We’re more like friends now than still maintaining a parent-child dynamic. 🙂 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I think it was pretty even when we were younger, but I’m probably the favorite now.  My sister doesn’t seem to make much of an effort to visit my parents/grandparents, so I’m closer with them now.  I see them a lot more.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I think my parents do a pretty good job of treating me, my older sister and my younger brother pretty equally.  I am close to my parents but I think my siblings are closer just because they talk to them more often, so I think they are favored a bit but I’ve never really thought that I was the black sheep.  We’ve all needed our parents at different times so looking back, I can remember specific instances where it did seem like one might have been favored over the others but they’ve always been there for all of us.

In my husband’s family however, it is clear his youngest sister is the favorite.  My husband is the middle of 5 and his younger sister is my age.  She’s very nice, but it’s clear her parents are wrapped around her finger.  She was a wild teenager and since her parents were busy with 4 other kids, I don’t think she got the attention she needed.  The armchair psychologist in me thinks her parents feel guilty for not being there as much as they should, so they really favor her now.  They paid for the majority of her wedding (which cost 3x as much as they gave us; not complaining, just saying), they gave her more money for a down payment for her house and now that she’s pregnant, they bought almost everything for the nursey.  The other siblings have seen this and it has caused some hard feelings, but his parents shower them with money too, so they really have nothing to complain about.  My husband is the only one that lives out of state and he said he needed to move away in order to gain some independence and keep a good relationship with his family.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Swaneset Bay Resort & Country Club

I wouldn’t say my parents ever really played “favourites” per say. I just know there have been times in our lives where all of us have needed our parents a little more than our other two siblings. We each have had our struggles where our parents have maybe given us more attention and support at the time but I wouldn’t say they ever singled one of us out continuously. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Unfortunately yes and I think it’s being shown to the grandkids.  I’m not the favorite and I think by extension my  kid is also the least favored; but I’ll be damned if I will let this happen any further.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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DanaWeddingGuest :  My sister was always my Dad’s favorite. Made it to all her games and concerts, but was always too busy for mine. Dont even get me started on the difference in gifts (my sister got a mini snowmobile one year for christmas so she could ride it in the back yard.)

There is also favoritism in my FI’s family. His oldest sister is his dad’s favorite, closely followed by his youngest sister. His mom favors his youngest brother. My Fiance seems to be held to the highest standards-he is expected to do the most work for his family while his siblings get the easy road. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I think my brothers would be slightly favoured. They are very easy going individuals whereas I felt my mother gave me a harder time growing up and she was far more critical of me. We have an ok relationship as adults but it is what I would describe as civil and superficial. My brothers are much more open with her.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Yes and it isn’t me. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I am a parent of a girl and a boy. My son would probably say my daughter is the favorite.lol I try to treat both equally and love them the SAME. However, because my daughter does so much better in school and behaves everyday, my son gets punished more so I think his perception comes from that alone. Apart from that, I really do treat them the same.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

My oldest brother is my mom’s favorite. I’m her least favorite, but she’d ever admit it. I think because I’m the only girl and I didn’t turn out to be like her and I ended up being closer to my dad whom she divorced so there’s bitterness there. I’m closest with my dad out of all of my brothers, but he treats us all the same.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Sauk Valley Resort

My brother is for sure the favorite when it comes to my parents and my dad’s whole family. He received significant financial support after high school, had his first two jobs handed to him by family, was kept on the car insurance to get it as cheap as possible after he turned 18, etc. I’d say theres no favorite on my mom’s side of the family, but we don’t see them much. 

Fiance was his dad’s favorite, but I think it was more that they were so much alike, and had basically the exact same interests. I think the younger of his sisters is his mom’s favorite, and Fiance agrees. I’m afraid when we have kids they won’t be loved as much as all the other grandkids, by my family and his.

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