Do your parents stay with you when they visit town?

posted 2 years ago in Family
  • poll: Where does family stay?
    At a hotel : (21 votes)
    19 %
    With us : (67 votes)
    61 %
    Family stays with us even when I’m not there : (21 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 31
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    79 posts
    Worker bee

    At a hotel, it’s much better this way.

    Post # 32
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    1140 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    Wouldn’t worry me none. Is it a slight inconvenience? Sure. Is it inappropriate? Nah. 

    Post # 33
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    1229 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    tomkitty :  I don’t get why you think that your mom staying at your apartment with your fiance is inappropriate. Seems like you are worried he will be…tempted by your mom? That’s definitely the vibe I’m getting from your posts and talks about propriety. And I don’t see what your mom’s age has to do with anything. Just like a 20 year old can crash in someone’s apartment, so can a 64 year old. There is nothing wrong with it due specifically to age, as you seem to be implying.

    We’re pushing 30 too and mdy mom stays with us when she visits, and we have a tiny apartment in a big city (though still a 1 bedroom). She sleeps in the living room/kitchen area, so there is no privacy for her, but she changes in the bathroom. It’s not a big deal. My dad has also stayed with us in this way too. I wouldn’t have any issues with the situation you’ve described. 

    Post # 34
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    9588 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    With us, since we have a guest room. If that changes (not sure what we will do when we have a kid) they’ll stay in a hotel.

    Post # 35
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    366 posts
    Helper bee

    His stay with us, mine don’t. We live in a tiny 1-bedroom. 

    Post # 36
    Member
    366 posts
    Helper bee

    jannigirl :  I’m confused. Where did OP say she was afraid her mother and her Fiance would get it on? I thought she was just commenting that it’s awkward to share a small space with people you don’t know that well, because, hell… it can be awkward even with people you know well. Did I miss something? Is she afraid of cheating? 

    Post # 37
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    3832 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    If your fiance was cool with it then it would be fine. But obviously he’s going to feel awkward, and I don’t think that’s unreasonable of him. 

    We have a guest room (which is actually the master bedroom so it even has an ensuite) so family would definitely stay with us.

    Although, even when I lived in a 1 bedroom flat in uni my parents and brother came to stay with me! I let my parents have the bedroom and my brother and I slept in the living room. I’m close with them all so it wasn’t weird, just a bit stressful for me. My parents have no concept of privacy so they don’t care 😛 

    Post # 38
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    1279 posts
    Bumble bee

    therobinsparkles :  I think it’s because in first post the emphsis is on the sex of the parent. The question is if it’s innapropriate for her mom and Fiance to share a space alone for one night because they are of different sex.

    Post # 39
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    1229 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    therobinsparkles :  OP didn’t directly say that she thought her Fiance and her mother would get it on, but she commented on the opposition of gender and has a focus on where they will change clothes (as if they can’t do that in the bathroom and will somehow end up naked together).

    She also kept talking about propriety and whether her mom staying there would be inappropriate.

    Put all of that together and it’s not hard to see where posters might draw the conclusion that OP might be worried about inappropriate behavior while nude.

    Post # 40
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    366 posts
    Helper bee

    rez123 :   franklymydearidont :  Oh. Haha, I think ya’ll are reading too much into her post, as she clearly didn’t mean it that way. I love my FIs parents, but I think staying in a loft with them would be awkward af too. Not for sexual reasons or because they’re older…but just because …!! I guess I just enjoy my privacy. 

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