Post # 1
Long story short… I have a friend who recently found out she was pregnant. She didn’t find out till she was 4ish months along. She’s not a huge girl but is on the fluffy side. Now that she knows she’s pregnant, I hear this all the time…
“Ugh. I’m so pregnant.” Constant tummy holding from her. We go somewhere and she has to tell everyone she is pregnant. It never stops. She talks about how huge she is… and in reality, I think she looks exactly the same. Maybe a little more defined but it’s not like she didn’t have a belly to begin with.
Am I being rude? Unreasonable? Or would you find it annoying too. It’s to the point where I honestly don’t want to be around her.
Post # 3
I’ve never been annoyed by any pregnant friends just for the reasons you mentioned. But just because she had a belly before she got pregnant doesnt mean she doesnt feel bigger/heavier now. I think you should try to be a bit more understanding… maybe I’m biased because I’m pregnant and feel yucky right now
Post # 4
I’d find it annoying, too. It seems like this is the Summer of Babies, so it feels like I’m constantly hearing about other people’s pregnancies and seeing five million status updates a day on Facebook.
I’d tell her that while you’re happy/excited for her (even if it’s not true), you’re feeling a little overwhelmed with the constant baby talk.
Post # 5
But it’s not all pregnant people. My sister is pregnant, cousin just had a baby, another cousin just found out she’s pregnant… IT’S HER.
She seriouosly complained that a certain store didn’t have parking for expectant mothers. SERIOUSLY?!
Post # 6
Sometimes it does get annoying. Like how many times do you need to tell people that you are eating for two? I’m sure they can see that!
When I was pregnant, I did hold my belly a lot. I think it’s just an instinct thing and not a I’m trying to be annoying thing. I didn’t talk about it all the time though.
Post # 7
Did you start calling the unborn child by it’s name? The baby is never referred to as the baby, he, etc. It’s always his name. I find that kind of odd.
I think I’m more used to other people referring to your unborn child by it’s name. I mean, I know exactly “who” she’s talking about when she mentions anything pregnancy related.
Post # 8
Idk, she is probably just excited. And just because she wasn’t tiny before she got pregnant, doesn’t mean she doesn’t feel a lot bigger. She may also be worried that ppl think she is just heavy if she isn’t really “showing” as pregnant. So, she may be self conscious about that too and want to make sure they know why.
Post # 9
Pregnancies can be just like weddings where some people expect the world to focus on them and not the other way around. As a first time mother she might expect to be treated differently now that she is pregnant. Not everyone acts that way, but some do. Aren;t there some brides who feel that during their entire engagment they should be put on a pedestal? Same concept.
Personally as a pregnant woman, I do call my “unborn child” by his name. I talk to him regularly and my Fiance calls his name when he is speaking to him. I see absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Not to sound rude, but is there some jealousy between you that makes you feel this way towards her and not any other pregnant moms to be? This sounds personal as opposed to generalization.
Post # 10
I’m constantly annoyed by my new mommy friend. I know it’s a huge, life altering thing..but come onnnnnnnnnn. I don’t need you to text me daily pictures of him. Especially when I get a picture of the two of you laying on the couch cuddling, while I’m at my bridal shower. You know, the one you never RSVP’d to and didn’t show up for?
Post # 11
I don’t find all pregnant women annoying but there are definitely a few I could do without. For example, unless you saw her ever growing belly, you wouldn’t have even known my Future Sister-In-Law was pregnant. I never heard her complain about a thing beyond the occasional heartburn. My friend, on the other hand, pretty much complains non-stop. I’m sure she’s uncomfortable but constantly complaining about it isn’t going to make it any better.
What annoys me more is when you’re with more than one pregnant woman and you’re the only one not knocked up and all they talk about is being pregnant. The absolute last thing that I want to discuss is the horrors of pregnancy and child birth.
Post # 12
There are a handful of people who act like they are the fist people on earth to get pregnant and whine about everything. Most don’t annoy me, but I had to hide a friend’s newsfeed on my FB because she complained every.single.day about it.
Post # 13
@SFreeman2187: Honestly, yes some do. It’s the attention whore ones that bug me the most. As someone said before, the ones that want everyone to know how special they are tend to grate the most. After seeing and hearing so many pregnancies this summer, when I’m pregnant, I intend to avoid the attention whore route altogether like no fb status updates or belly pictures. I think that there’s a fine line between being excited about your pregnancy and being a total attention whore about it.
Post # 14
It depends on which pregnant friend. I think all pregnancies are different and maybe some people really just are that much more uncomfortable than others, but yes the over sharing can sometimes get old. I’m trying to learn from others experiences about how I hope to handle things when I go down that road.
Post # 15
@brox: Funny you say that! I have not posted one belly or sonogram pic on FB. Other than a few mentions of the pregnancy I have not said anything. Mainly because this has been a difficult pregnancy so I would be posting all time and I see other people doing it and get turned off by it. My hospital stays were not up there and unless you go through my posts you would not even know about the baby. So not all of us are like that.
Post # 16
Only the ones that were annoying before they got pregnant.