Post # 1
I was thinking about this, because while Darling Husband is very involved, he’s only gone to about half of our apts so far. He’s a teacher that works about 35 mins from the dr’s office, so he has to take at least a half day off for each appointment. He went to the 1st apt, the 1st sono and the 2nd sono. The others I’ve gone to solo. Initially I didn’t pay attention, but for the last 2 apts I did and didn’t see anyone else there alone. It doesn’t bother me, especially with my stand in wedding ring, since mine don’t fit anymore. We just didn’t think it was worth it for him to miss so many days, especially since he’s a coach and can’t hold practice or coach a game if he wasn’t in school that day, even though he lists his time of for my apts as family illness, not personal illness.
Post # 3
My husband has been to every appointment with me, but our doctor’s office is a short walk from both our workplaces, so it’s not a big deal for him to miss an hour of work. I do appreciate having him there as sometimes he asks questions that I forgot to ask.
Post # 4
My husband has been to all the big appointments and a few of the others but not all. I don’t mind going alone. It seems mixed at my doctor’s office but it does seem like lots of dads show up (which I think is awesome).
Post # 5
Darling Husband and I do spend a lot of time talking about the pregnancy. We also keep a running list of questions to ask, either by calling the nurse at the office or at the next appointment if it can wait. Darling Husband couldn’t really be more involved than he is. It is nice to see so many dads there for appointments, though.
Post # 6
My Darling Husband travels for work and is out of town all week so whenever I am pregnant, I already know he won’t be able to make most appointments (unless I could somehow schedule all of them on weekends). I don’t think its a problem if he can’t make everything so long as he is still involved in and excited about the pregnancy.
Post # 7
Oh no way. My OB is right around the corner from my office, which is an hour away from where Darling Husband works. He comes to sonograms and procedures (like the amnio) and I imagine he’ll show up to one or two appointments during the 3rd trimester so he has a better idea of what to expect for labor and delivery, but I have no desire to make him drive out here for one of these 20 minute interim exams where I pee in a cup, get weighed, listen to the heartbeat, and ask a few questions. I’ve noticed that whenever we go to the specialist’s office next door (for big ultrasounds or procedures), EVERYONE has their partner there (which makes sense, since that specialist doesn’t really do any routine care), but at my regular OB visit there are plenty of women there without their partners. It seems to be mainly the women who look REALLY far along that have partners there for the regular visits. If Darling Husband worked right near me, I’m sure I’d make him come more often, but I don’t feel at all bad about the amount of stuff that he comes to.
Post # 8
My husband didn’t go to the first appointment with me because I thought it would be longer and I scheduled it during school hours (he’s a teacher).
He did go to the last one since we could hear the heartbeat and he an my doc really seemed to get along. I imagine he’ll go to most of them with me since next time we might be able to find out the sex, and if not that time then for sure the appt after. I liked him coming with me because he asked WAY more questions that I would.
He may not go as often once they are more frequent and just “check-ups”. My Dr’s office is really close to my work and I can schedule earlier appts if he doesn’t come with me.
Post # 9
My husband came to my first doctor’s appointment and second ultrasound (not the first). It’s not really convenient for him to come to all the doctor’s appointments and they are so short that I don’t really feel the need for him to be there. The night before an appointment we talk about any questions and I check in with my doctor. He has been very supportive thus far and I feel like it would be unneccessary for him to come to every appointment.
Post # 10
Since we both own our own businesses and can make our own hours, Darling Husband always went to my prenatal appointments!
Post # 11
He went to the first three or four appointments but after that he only goes if it is going to be something new/exciting (i.e., finding out the sex of the baby). I left it up to him if he wanted to go and for the most part, he doesn’t care if they aren’t doing an ultrasound. He even skipped the last ultasound since we already know what we are having.
Post # 12
My husband went to all my appointments with me, but we work together. And my OB’s office is right in between our house and the office.
Post # 13
He went to the biggies– The first one, anatomy scan, CVS, 20 week, and all but one of my bad baby house US’s. As a high risk mama, there were just too many to go to them all and my husband was a bus commuter, so that made it hard! He only missed the 5 minute quick ones.
Post # 14
We’re also one of the lucky couples…Hubs’ hours are VERY flexible, since he works from home. He’s been to all the appointments, & since he’s going to be the primary care giver once my vacation & maternity leave days are up, he wants to make sure he’s invovled in every step. As a teacher, I try to schedule all the appointments during my prep period, which luckily lands on the last period every Tuesday & Thursday, so it really works out.
Post # 15
My hubby insists on going to every appointment. I don’t really want him too because he has to take a half day which cuts out his vacation time. I actually have no problem going alone if I had too. Most of them are just check ups anyway. Nothing to dramatic. Now if it were an ultra sound then I would make sure he was there. Other then that I have no problem being alone. Actually I kinda like doing things alone. =)
Post # 16
@mrstilly: just a question, but why is it important to you to be wearing a wedding ring at your appointments? you noticed you were the only person there alone, but you had your temp wedding ring on…why is it important for you to let others know that you’re not a single parent or having the baby sans a husband?