do you/will you call your (future) in-laws “mom” or “dad”?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 62
1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Also, when addressing cards to his parents, I make him write them!  And then have him sign both our names.  Haha, but if I had to do it for some reason, I would just write Mom and Dad and then sign his name first then mine. 

Post # 63
1928 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t have a good relationship with his parents so I will still be calling them by their first names. Though I am sure that my parents are going to want SO to call them Mom and Dad.

Post # 64
7175 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I’ll call FMIL by her first name.

FI started calling my mom “Mom” the day we got engaged.  It totally weirds her out – and she addresses cards to him with her first name, not mom.  I kinda think it’s cute he calls her mom, personally 😉

Post # 66
48 posts
  • Wedding: November 2010

I call my future in laws by their first names.  I would be totally uncomfortable calling them mom & dad.  That would just be weird for me.  

My fiance calls my parents by their first names as well.  

Post # 67
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

aww helllss no! Once my MIL told me it was ok for me to call her mom….I am rude and said “I have a mom.” Then proceeded to call her and FIL by their first names

Post # 67
1 posts

Even though my first husband’s (now deceased) parents were the same age as mine, it always felt weird to me so I usually called them by their first name.  With my second husband, that’s a bit more complicated.  I’m 25 years older than him so his parents are just a few years older than me.  Also his dad and I used to be friends but once we told him we wanted to get married, our friendship ended.  While we were planning to getting married, his dad ignored me and honestly we didn’t know if he would show up to the wedding but he was there looking very unhappy.  In fact just after the wedding ceremony his stop mom told me out right to not call her mom.  Not a problem, my current husband doesn’t even because they got married when he was 17 and now he’s 22.  Things are some better now with his dad, at least we can hold a conversation without him wanting to bite my head off but I still keep my distance.  No I don’t call them mom and dad but I wouldn’t have anyway.  

Post # 68
53 posts
Worker bee

Yea, I agree. That has always weirded me out for some reason! They are not my mom and dad, so calling them that would be bizarre. Plus I’ve known them for 7 years and they’ve always gone by their first names, so no idea why I would change that. 

Post # 69
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I’ve been calling my in-laws Mom and Dad since before we got engaged.  For me, the awkward part is when FH and I are alone and I say “mom” and then have to specify which one.  But other than that, I think that I was never comfortable using first names with people, so it would end up being Mrs. and Mr. which I thought was too formal.

Post # 70
949 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: Esplanade Lakes Ballroom, Downers Grove IL

Probably in time. But we just got engaged recently, so right now it’s still “auntie and uncle”.

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