(Closed) Do you/would you take separate vacations?

• DaneLady
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: August 2012

We usually do vacations together, but weekend trips here and there, sure we go separately if we want.  He goes to comic book conventions and I stay home with the dogs and have a night in with my girlfriends.  I had a ladies’ trip to the beach and he stayed home because he had a rugby game that weekend.

I don’t think I’d go off and tour Europe or take a week-long vacation to Jamaica or anything like that separately.  If I have that much time off or if it’s a big vacation, I want to spend it with my husband!

• deetroitwhat
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

Totally. My best friend and his best friend live in separate states and we have been alone to see them and were just talking about me going to Texas by myself. We still consider us two individuals. Don’t get me wrong I love our vacations together but we do not find it necessary to always be together when traveling.

• housebee
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: April 2013

I would prefer to travel/vacation with my husband.  We’re best friends, so of course I would want to share the experience with him.  However, I do have to travel without him sometimes in order to help take care of my grandmother (she’s older with Alzheimer’s), but if I had the choice I’d definitely prefer to have him with me.

• gelaine22
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: September 2013

I have a LOT of time off each year so I definitely would (and I do) take a girls trip. I think it’s healthy to get some time apart. My mom always did it when I was growing up and my parents have been married for 34 years.

• JBishop
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: August 2014

I’ve gone on vacations without him, including ones with my mom and some girlfriends and he’s gone on some family trips without me. It’s good to have some time apart and to have seperate experiences.

• dewingedpixie
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

I’m going to Disney Land by myself in January, Hubs will go home by himself for Christmas this year. We take most of our trips together but sometimes we go separate.

• This Time Round
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: December 2012

When I was young, and married the first time, I certainly would never have imagined my Hubby & I taking seperate vacations… but it can and does happen for many couples.  Especially so once you add kids (plural) into the mix.  It isn’t always possible for BOTH Parents to get time off at the same time… and for the kids to be off to.  Getting the whole family on the same page (and your Employers) can be a challenge at times.

So ya there were more than one occasion when we did this… often it was a case of my going somewhere not too far away with the kids (Campground, Rented Cottage) and My Hubby meeting us there for the Weekend… well a Longer Weekend actually… he was able to put in longer hours Tuesday to Thursday, and be with us all on the Friday and Monday.

Not ideal but a trade-off.

At other times in our Relationship, sometimes it was him and the kids, and me working.  His Parents lived in a different State, and he’d on occasion take the kids for a visit over their Summertime School Break while I’d stay behind and have to work.

When the kids got bigger, we’d let them fly out to see Gramma & Grampa on their own.

This time round…

My relationship with Mr TTR is structured a bit differently.

Altho we adore our Vacation Time together, very very much.  We also came to this relationship as adults with Adult Children and Elderly Parents, and a slew of friends on both sides.

So altho we vacation together a lot (we are semi-retired and travel is a hobby / passion for us) we also have times we get away without the other…

To visit family… or to go on an ALL Guys or ALL Girls Trip.

Those are a blast… he tends to go Golfing with the guys for a week, and I have some annual Weekends away with my Best GFs… and when we were all turning 50 we headed off to Disney without our Guys & Kids… IT WAS FANTASTIC

We are now thinking maybe we need to go on an ALL GIRLS Cruise sometime in the future.

Definitely a way to stay in touch with your younger more spirited self… amazing what antics you can get up to for fun when there are no Men & Kids about.

• deetroitwhat
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

@MrsPanda99:  I think it has to do more with our independence levels and the fact we started off long distance. I go to the movies by myself, no problem. Honestly time off makes me better for it in the relationship itself. I have more of a stance that I came into the world alone, and I’m leaving alone. If I can’t do things on my own I feel like I would have a problem… I kinda like myself 🙂 lol

• littlemisshostess
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: May 2013

like PP i wouldn’t do a week long trip to a tropical island but i do sometimes go home to my parents alone (esp if its like for a family bridal shower or something similar he wouldnt be invuted to)

he has gone home for jewish holidays that were midweek and i couldnt take the time off

basically to see family, or an overnight (ie drinking w the girls and we all sleep over so no one drives)  yes…. for a fun vacation not so much

• IzzyBear
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: October 2013

It depends…we would (and have) taken little weekend trips without each other. He’s done little “guys’ weekends” and I’ve done little “girl’s weekends”. But I doubt we will ever take legit, long vacations without each other.

• KH
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: October 2011

We plan most vacations together and invite each other on all trips, but honestly, many trips a year we do on our own. Work related ones are for obvious reasons (though we do accompany each other occasionally). But DH loves to do things I don, such as ski and golf. I highly encourage him to continue doing these (especially since he goes with his parents) and he doesn’t get upset if I stay home (since it would be very boring if I don’t want to do the activity). Unless couples have the same interestes, I think it is odd to turn down travel if the SO won’t go, or for the SO to go only to be bored.

• bearsreddy
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: December 2013

I go on trips without my FI… I’m in 50’s music etc and he hates it. I often travel to weekenders and to trips that take me out of my home country. I went to Vegas last year for a week for a weekender there. I do ask him but he declines most of the time and I don’t blame him seeing as he’d be bored stiff! He’s quite happy to let me go off and do my own thing with my girls 🙂 Most of his vacation time is taken up looking after his kids from a previous marriage during school hols anyway. So we don’t get to go away together much.