Post # 1
We are so torn about hiring a DOC. But after my sisters wedding this past weekend (which was Fabulous!) I realized just how quickly the day goes by and how much stress is packed into every minute. I thought I was organized, and of course found myself behind schedule, undressed, clueless about where I was supposed to be. And I was only the MOH!
So Bees, Please vote and give feedback. If you had a DOC, was it worth it? If you didn’t, do you wish you had hired one?
Post # 3
Other than the decision to marry Mr. Cosmo, this is the only decision that I have made, and set in stone! I absolutely want to have a DOC! I want everyone, including my Maid/Matron of Honor and Parents/Family to have as much fun and to spend as much time together as possible.
Post # 4
I didn’t have one, but didn’t need one b/c my venue’s wedding coordinator and florist did most of the stuff I would have asked a DOC to do.
Post # 5
i think i’ll hire a doc and i work in the industry :D. i need someone to keep everything on track time wise and make sure that all the important items are taken care of (toasts, cake, garter, bouquet). i also would like someone to put out fires so to speak without asking me about it. i don’t need to be bothered about five roses instead of six or anything like that on my wedding day. i also don’t need to know that there are six tea lights instead of votives, i just would like someone to fix it so i can be in bridal bliss. i also like the fact that someone else will be responsible for overseeing the set up and breakdown and know EXACTLY what i want because i will have sent pictures, etc.
Post # 6
our wedding was low-key fairly small (60 gsts) and i planned everything in advance and hubby pretty much served as the DOC with help from family and the catering manager. =)
Post # 7
I’m surprised by the responses – it seems like many are OK without a DOC. I have been getting the opposite impression as of late..
Post # 8
hiring my DOC was the best money I spent at my wedding!
Post # 9
hiring my doc was really the best thing i did. i had a lot of decor that needed to be set up beyond the flowers and ceremony and I had a larger bridal party that i really needed someone to coordinate it all.
i was moh and bm at quite a few weddings prior to mine. and each one i really felt like a slave with all the work i put into it. the weddings were not fun. so i wanted to make sure my bms didn’t feel that way.
Post # 10
I hired a DOC for my wedding, and I am really torn about it. She was invaluable before the wedding, literally saved us big time with regards to hotel rooms and vendor recommendations. She was always willing to help out ahead of time, even though this service was not included in her fee. (She was just that nice.) I was surprisingly disappointed in her help on the day of the wedding, so much so that it has really colored my memories of the event. To be fair, I think the issue was with my expectations of the service she would provide. She showed up on time and helped deal with a snafu with the bridesmaids’ bouquets. But I thought she would be there to shield me from my family and take care of me. In reality, that’s what an awesome Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaid does. I suppose I was really organized and didn’t need that much help (I had an awesome caterer, too), but…
My advice, at least consult with a wedding professional before your event. Many DOC are starting to offer an “a la carte” service where you pay by the hour for things like advice on vendors and help drafting a day of timeline. If you need more help than that, go ahead and hire a DOC, but be clear on your expectations. Expecting her to magically get my family in line was probably not fair to her.
Post # 11
I am also in the wedding industry, and I have already hired a DOC. I have actually hired her full service package. Weddings are very stressful and I want all the stressful stuff to be taken care of without me even having to be bothered about it. It does cut into the budget, but I know that it is money well spent. I will be able to just relax and enjoy my day and so will everyone else.
Post # 12
I hired a DOC because on my wedding day I just don’t want to think. I want to ENJOY! 🙂 I really don’t want to be bothered by anything. I want to be in lala land with my husband!