(Closed) Doctor bees, I need help! genital infection of hpv

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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liksye.liksye:  I would say that more than likely there is a lie somewhere. I know for a fact that no doctor would say he got it from a washroom.. And so if he’s lying about that, then he absolutely has something to hide. 

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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liksye.liksye:  You can’t get HPV from the bathroom, but that doesn’t mean he’s lying. He may be, but there could be other explanations (such as non-consensual). I would talk to him and ask him to come to a doctor with you, but not try and trap him in a lie. The last thing you want is for him to be defensive and for you not to get answers.

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2015

There really isn’t anyway of taking precaution from HPV, as even with protection you can get it. As it can lay dormant for years, most people don’t know they have it, unless they get symptoms or get tested.

I didn’t think men could be diagnosed with it though.  Just assume if you have it, someone you were close to has it, whether it affects them or not. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Did you ever fool around with someone other than him?  Oral sex or even just close contact?  If so, it’s possible you contracted it and passed it to him.  Even if you didn’t have any symptoms, you can still pass it.  My doctor says couples can pass it back and forth indefinitely. 

And the vaccine doesn’t always work.  I had it and still contracted the more serious strains and have to be monitored for a few years.  Luckily it’s very common and not a big deal if you stay on top of exams. 

There’s definitely a stigma around it though, so he might be feeling defensive but basically everyone will get it at some point.  Condoms can’t prevent it.  It can stay dormant for 20 years and flare up with stress.  So I wouldn’t go around accusing him of lying or cheating unless there are other reasons for you to think so, and in which case you should reconsider the relationship. 

Post # 24
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Busy bee

HPV is a pretty easy virus to pick up a lot of people have it and don’t realise as they have no symptoms. Getting it from a public washroom isn’t true but any sort of sexual contact can do it. Your reaction might be why he’s not telling you anything you seem to be very tightly wound over this and he’s scared to say he had a foolish play around with someone years ago. Simply sticking his hands down a girls pants when he was 15 and then toughing himself without washing his hands could spread it. He could have had it lying dormant for years. Try to take a breath and not accuse him of something that could have happened pretty innocently 

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

What does his father have to do with anything? 

Post # 26
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

No one on this forum can say for sure if he cheated on you or lied to you or not. Go talk to your doctor. Your doctor can explain how the disease is transmitted and while it may never be 100% known how your boyfriend was infected, you will get a better understanding from a scientific approach.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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liksye.liksye:  My cousin is a doctor and he told me that sex is not the only way a woman can contract HPV. I didn’t ask how or if it applied to males, though. Many people have HPV at some point in their lives so I wouldn’t panic too much. Take a breather.

You should be having regular pap smears/pelvic exams if you’re sexually active. You can be tested for HPV during this exam. I would urge you to be responsible for your body and your health. Someone very near and dear to me contracted HPV at age 26 and had a hysterectomy by age 27 as she had cervical cancer. Now this is very rare for a woman her age, but it can and does happen. It’s better to be safe than sorry.

 

 

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

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liksye.liksye:  No its not possible. If you have HPV then one of you has had sex with someone else at some point. If its not you, then it was him. So yes, he cheated on you or had sex with someone before you.

There are NO STDs that you can get from public bathrooms. Thats a ridiculously lame story.

Sorry you’re going through this. Dump him. Get tested for everything and get a pap smear. Chances are you will only have to have more frequent pap smears and you will clear it in 6 months – 1 year.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

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liksye.liksye:  No, hand warts have nothing to do with genital warts or HPV. 

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Talk to your boyfriend, and talk to your doctor. There is no way for anyone here to know whether or not he cheated on you or lied about his sexual history!

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