(Closed) Doctor bees, I need help! genital infection of hpv

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 31
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Blushing bee

The only person that is going to be able to answer your question about your bf’s sexual history is your bf. It is your choice as to whether you will believe him or not, but rather than jumping off the deep end and assuming the worst, perhaps now knowing that, besides sexual intercourse, HPV can be contracted either via oral or hand-to-genital contact – you can continue with your line of questioning intelligently as opposed to simply being reactive as it absolutely does NOT mean that he simply cheated on you. Consider perhaps the possibility that something has happened to him before that he may have seen the relevance of before now (something embarrassing even!) – that is not outside of the realm of possibility and seeking the truth rationally is much more reliable than making it up on your own – you can already see how toxic that has the potential to be to your relationship. 

Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Doctor here. Either one of you could have contracted it from sexual interaction. Like rubbing genitals, grinding, whatever. So while you guys both say you are virgins that doesn’t mean that you didn’t engage in other types of experimentation. 

With that being said, it’s really not a big deal. Get regular pap smears to monitor yourself. 

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

“Dump him” seems like a big step to take when you don’t know the whole story. I would talk to him.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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savealife:  seems like he’s lying or with holding info and potentially putting her at risk then “dump him” is correct. 

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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liksye.liksye:  Thre is something wrong with this. there is currently no test to diagnose HPV infection in men…. So I’m not sure what you mean, do you mean he has genital warts?? HPV testing is available for women but not men. Have you tested positive for HPV?

The only FDA approved test for HPV is to test cells from the cervix during a Pap smear, there is not blood test in men etc. Further HPV doesn’t present as an exterior genital lesion…so whatever he’s got, provided the lesion is a symptom….I’m pretty certain it’s not HPV…

I think the two of you should go to your primary care physician together and get some information….because something is VERY WRONG with this story…

 

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Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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jily:  i was thinking the same thing.. There is no actual test for a male.. Women get diagnosed through a pap..I think the OP said he had a lesion and symptoms.. I’m guessing genital warts? Bc I think that would pretty much be the only way u can tell that a guy has a strain of HPV.. 

with that said OP, u should get tested and talk to ur OBGYN. Chances are he didn’t cheat on u, HPV is extremely common, but u have to stay on top of it and keep going for check-ups.. and if he’s saying he got it from a bathroom, that’s horse shit.. 

Post # 37
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Busy bee

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jily:  This. The only thing I can think of is he had a past girlfriend, fling, or whatever who called him to let him know that she tested positive for HPV and that there’s a possibility that he could have it too. Then he, without a wide knowledge of STDs, said that he went to his primary care physician and tested positive for it when there’s no way that’s possible.

I echo what others have said, educate yourself and continue to (rationally) talk to him.

Post # 38
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Helper bee

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jily:  Warts are considered lesions. A lesion is any abnormal change in tissue. HPV 6 and 11 cause majority of the cases of genital warts. 

Post # 39
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Worker bee

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jily:  HPV can be confirmed by a biopsy of a genital warts, actually, a diagnosis will show in the presence of abnormal cells.

OP, it’s completely possible that your partner just had a form of sexual contact with someone before you two got together. I would recommend refraining from sexual contact until you get yourselves sorted.

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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bankerswife:  So will an anal pap smear however, the diagnosis of HPV is generally secondary to telling the patient that they have genital warts…

Post # 42
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Blushing bee

All warts are caused by HPV but there are different strains that prefer different areas of the body, it may not be completely impossible to transmit a wart from the hand to the genitals in theory but it’s just not common. Not common enough for a Dr to think that’s what happened.

That brings me to my point, having the HPV isn’t the big deal, but rather the dishonestly from your partner. I HIGHLY doubt that a DR would tell your guy that he got HPV from a toilet or from the warts on his hands.  This leads me to believe that the explanation for the infection may not be a simple innocent one.

 

When someone tells me a story and it doesn’t add up, it’s made up. You need to figure out WHY.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 4 months ago by  jbella.
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Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Men can carry HPV for decades without showing signs of it.. it could have been from anyone he was with… If he says you were his only sexual parter then he was probably lying. But just becuase the wart or whatever it was sprung up during the time you were together, doesn’t necessarily mean he was unfaithful while he was with you.

Best bet is to visit a doctor together and ask questions. Also, get tested for everything while your at it.

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