Post # 17
I’ve only heard of using titles (Mr/Mrs/Ms/Dr/Hon etc) for guests when addressing the invitations, not actually referring to the couple themselves. You wouldn’t put Ms Jane Doe and Mr John Smith invite you to their wedding.
Fiance and I are both doctors and just putting our first and last name on the invites.
Post # 18
My situation is not exactly the situation you’re in, but close. I’m the Ph.D. and he doesn’t have a similiar title. We didn’t list our parents on our invitations, and decided to go with something less formal when we dropped all titles completely and simply listed our names.
I would absolutely say go for listing both titles on yours, and I prefer the “Dr. Herfirstname Bonbonsparkes (maiden name) and Dr. Hisfirstname Bonbonsparkles”.
Post # 19
Id leave it off. None of my doctor friends have used it on their invitations. I just don’t think it is the place for it…i have a law degree and I get being proud of your accomplishments but it’s a wedding invitation not a CV 🙂
Post # 20
- Wedding: June 2014 - Catholic Church Ceremony & Restaurant/Bed & Breakfast Reception
I think it really depends on how formal your wedding (and the invitation are)…espeically if you are sending them to a good number of professional colleagues.
Post # 21
You’re a doctor? Screw etiquette. I would be dropping that into every conversation possible. I plan on getting my Ph.D and when I do, you best be believing I will be Dr. Meowton until people are sick of seeing me (which should be soon after).
If your invitations are following “formal” standards, then make a mock-up of each and see what looks better. I’m sure none of your guests are going to receive their invitation and tut about you placing you proper title in front of your name.
Post # 22
My Fiance and I both have degrees with “titles” but we opted not to use them. We will just be going by Mr. and Mrs. after we are married too 🙂
Post # 23
Thank you everyone so much for your honest feedback! I think there are valid points to both sides. I think I may just have to have two sets floating around since I can’t decide;)
Post # 24
To me, you should only use DR if you would otherwise use Miss, Mrs., or Ms. On an invite, people don’t usually put “Miss first name last name” so I would leave it off. I think it can sound super pretentious, like you were just dying
for everyone to know you’re a doctor. I got an invitation that said DR on it once, and almost everyone I talked to about it. Fiance and I are both lawyers, and we defintely aren’t putting “JD” on our invites.
That being said, I don’t think Dr. only needs to be reserved for professional settings. There are plenty of times outside of professional settings where “Miss” would be appropriate, and therefore “Dr.” would be as well (like the return labels, for example). I just don’t think the actual wedding invitation is one of them. If you weren’t a doctor, you would leave off prefixes entirely, so I say leave it off.
Post # 25
@bonbonsparklesMD: oh no please don’t Do this! My fiancé too has similar qualifications but we would never dream of doing this. why? Because everyone we are inviting already knows what he does for a living, and it comes off as braggy and showy, not a good foot to start off on.
Post # 27
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
Although I feel like you guys have earned the titles, it’s not really the place for it. Any other person wouldn’t send out an invitation that said “Bride Lastname, Teacher” or “Bride Lastname, Receptionist.” **Not at all knocking any professions those are literally the first 2 that came to mind!!**
Post # 28
Traditionally, medical doctors do use their titles socially, so I believe it is appropriate to use it on your wedding invitation – if you want to. I don’t think there’s any rule saying that you must.
Interestingly, non-medical doctors and others with advanced degrees are not supposed to use their titles socially. I don’t know why this is, but it does always come across to me as a little boastful when PhDs refer to themselves as “Dr” socially. I don’t feel the same way about medical doctors.
Post # 29
Thank you everyone for your response! I was researching invitation etiquette and had seen:
The honour of your presence is requested at the marriage of
Ms. Bonbon Sparkles
Mr. Bonbon Sparkles
Dr. Bonbon Sparkles
I have not come a wedding address like this if the groom will be using Mr.(if he is not a medical doctor) as his title should the bride just use no title or Ms. even though she is a Dr.?
Dr. Bonbon Sparkles
Mr. Bonbon Sparkles (no medical degree)
I never meant to imply that other professions are not as important and should not be addressed, only the Dr. (for a medical doctor) title seems to be something that has been mentioned (different invitation wording etiquette – yes, I’m overwhelmed by all the suggestions!) referring to the groom only and never the bride. So I didn’t understand. I was never that girl who dreamed of being married much less planning a wedding. I was always focused on academia. This is a whole new exciting world to me, that’s for sure:) I apologize if I came off like an idiot or worse, arrogant. Trust me, if anything, my attendings have taught me to be humble! I just want to understand etiquette and not offend my wedding guests.
I realize these days anything goes, and it is really a matter of preference. With that said, I want the wedding to be focused on love, being husband and wife, building a happy family together. What I do for my day job… I can mention on my business cards and return address labels, no doubt!
Thanks again Bees! You all have been so wonderful and I’m going to finalize my wording and order my invites:)
Post # 30
Only in a professional setting, in social settings it solicits eye rolls.
Post # 31
If your plan was to add titles regardless of the Dr (so if neither of you were Dr, you’d do Ms. and Mr.), then go for it. However, I’ve never seen an invite with any titles.
I’ve only seen:
I’ve also seen:
Or even full names (first, middle, last) without titles. So it really depends on if you wanted to include titles. I’ve just never seen it done that way.