(Closed) Doctor Bride! Invitation Wording help!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Doctor Bride: Should I include my title of M.D. (medical doctor) on my invitations?

    Yes - You earned it! It's time to change some outdated wedding rules!

    Only for a formal wedding - black tie

    No - only reserved for professional settings and not weddings (can seem pretentious)

    It's your day - do what your heart tells you and makes you feel happy!

  • Post # 17
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    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’ve only heard of using titles (Mr/Mrs/Ms/Dr/Hon etc) for guests when addressing the invitations, not actually referring to the couple themselves.  You wouldn’t put Ms Jane Doe and Mr John Smith invite you to their wedding.

    Fiance and I are both doctors and just putting our first and last name on the invites.

    Post # 18
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    117 posts
    Blushing bee

    My situation is not exactly the situation you’re in, but close. I’m the Ph.D. and he doesn’t have a similiar title. We didn’t list our parents on our invitations, and decided to go with something less formal when we dropped all titles completely and simply listed our names.

    I would absolutely say go for listing both titles on yours, and I prefer the “Dr. Herfirstname Bonbonsparkes (maiden name) and Dr. Hisfirstname Bonbonsparkles”.

     

    Post # 19
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    1247 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Id leave it off. None of my doctor friends have used it on their invitations. I just don’t think it is the place for it…i have a law degree and I get being proud of your accomplishments but it’s a wedding invitation not a CV 🙂

    Post # 20
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Catholic Church Ceremony & Restaurant/Bed & Breakfast Reception

    I think it really depends on how formal your wedding (and the invitation are)…espeically if you are sending them to a good number of professional colleagues. 

    Post # 21
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    You’re a doctor? Screw etiquette. I would be dropping that into every conversation possible. I plan on getting my Ph.D and when I do, you best be believing I will be Dr. Meowton until people are sick of seeing me (which should be soon after). 

    If your invitations are following “formal” standards, then make a mock-up of each and see what looks better. I’m sure none of your guests are going to receive their invitation and tut about you placing you proper title in front of your name.

    Post # 22
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    1209 posts
    Bumble bee

    My Fiance and I both have degrees with “titles” but we opted not to use them. We will just be going by Mr. and Mrs. after we are married too 🙂

    Post # 24
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    @bonbonsparklesMD: To me, you should only use DR if you would otherwise use Miss, Mrs., or Ms. On an invite, people don’t usually put “Miss first name last name” so I would leave it off. I think it can sound super pretentious, like you were just dying for everyone to know you’re a doctor. I got an invitation that said DR on it once, and almost everyone I talked to about it. Fiance and I are both lawyers, and we defintely aren’t putting “JD” on our invites.

    That being said, I don’t think Dr. only needs to be reserved for professional settings. There are plenty of times outside of professional settings where “Miss” would be appropriate, and therefore “Dr.” would be as well (like the return labels, for example). I just don’t think the actual wedding invitation is one of them. If you weren’t a doctor, you would leave off prefixes entirely, so I say leave it off.

    Post # 25
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    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @bonbonsparklesMD:  oh no please don’t Do this! My fiancé too has similar qualifications but we would never dream of doing this.  why? Because everyone we are inviting already knows what he does for a living, and it comes off as braggy and showy, not a good foot to start off on.

    Post # 27
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    10430 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

    Although I feel like you guys have earned the titles, it’s not really the place for it. Any other person wouldn’t send out an invitation that said “Bride Lastname, Teacher” or “Bride Lastname, Receptionist.” **Not at all knocking any professions those are literally the first 2 that came to mind!!**

    Post # 28
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    447 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

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    @bonbonsparklesMD:  Traditionally, medical doctors do use their titles socially, so I believe it is appropriate to use it on your wedding invitation – if you want to. I don’t think there’s any rule saying that you must.

    Interestingly, non-medical doctors and others with advanced degrees are not supposed to use their titles socially. I don’t know why this is, but it does always come across to me as a little boastful when PhDs refer to themselves as “Dr” socially. I don’t feel the same way about medical doctors.

    Post # 30
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    781 posts
    Busy bee

    Only in a professional setting, in social settings it solicits eye rolls.

    Post # 31
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    2851 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

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    @bonbonsparklesMD:  If your plan was to add titles regardless of the Dr (so if neither of you were Dr, you’d do Ms. and Mr.), then go for it. However, I’ve never seen an invite with any titles.

    I’ve only seen:

    Jane Smith

    to

    John Doe

     

    I’ve also seen:

    FirstName MiddleName

    to

    FirstName MiddleName

     

    Or even full names (first, middle, last) without titles. So it really depends on if you wanted to include titles. I’ve just never seen it done that way.

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