Post # 47
Imo it would be very pretentious (to the point of a bit wanky) to use the title in this setting.
I understand that you are proud of your qualification (as you should be!), but a wedding invitation isn’t the time or place.
Save the ‘Dr’ for your CV 😉
P.S. this would go for both men and women
Post # 48
That’s a really good point. Growing up, if I heard the title “Doctor” I immedietely assumed medical. I’m sure there are people in this world who don’t realize the title is associated with any doctoral degree and would be easily confused.
“Excuse me, I need a director of educational curriculum STAT”
Post # 48
I plan on getting my PhD and my fiance can’t wait until we can be addressed as Dr [my name] and Mr [his name]. I say if you’re having a formal wedding and you want to be addressed as such on your invitations, go for it.
Post # 49
I’ve never seen invites with titles for the bride and groom. I’d leave it off for that reason (nothing to do with who’s a dr. and who’s not).
Post # 50
Where did you get the idea etiquette hasn’t addressed titles for women let alone that it precludes you from using yours?
You can use your title if you wish. Look up old Miss Manners columns – this has been addressed.
Post # 51
I’m sorry, am I the only one who thinks it’s pretty shitty that so many posters here have implied that a PhD is somehow less worthy than an MD? At least in the United States, MD = Dr. PhD = Dr. It doesn’t really matter how you “feel” about it, that’s the way it is. I invite you to spend six years studying for a degree and see how you “feel” about it then.
Post # 52
- Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle
I’m about to get my PhD and I intend to put Dr. on everything!!!! I know I worked so hard to get the title and I want to show it off. You earned it and should too. Yay!
Post # 53
Agreed. These comments are ticking me off. I soon, soooo very oon will be finishing my (non-md) doctorate. I work in the medical field and all of my supervisors have used their titles. And all the MDs use it respectfully when talking to/about them in front of patients and in meetings. They’re on a first-name basis outside when chatting one-on-one.
We have put in the same amount of work/training into our education. My 10 years post-high school education are just as good as any other doctor’s.
Post # 54
My Fiance and I are both physicians…We are going to leave off the Dr title as well as the degree. Just Bride Lastname and Groom Lastname. No titles. But for our friends who are also doctors, we will likely address their envelopes as Dr. Friend Lastname.
Post # 55
If you are using titles in your invitation then use Dr. Or just don’t use titles at all (which is what we did)
Post # 56
I don’t think anyone is implying that the degree is lesser, and anyone who thinks that way has already demonstrated their own ignorance of the Ph.D. and its requirement of original research that other degree programs like the [American] MD do not have. I think some people are just acknowledging the etiquette guideline that states that it is not customary for Ph.D. holders to use their professional titles socially. I am certainly proud of my degree, but I’d also rather cut off my own toe than ever use my professional title in a social setting.
Post # 57
Thank you for the overwhelming and candid responses! After much debate (in my head), I decided to use our titles. I had ordered the invitations without, and it just didn’t feel organic. I then re-ordered them, with titles in all their glory, and couldn’t be happier:) Education is a big part of who I am; instead of dichotomizing it from one of the biggest days of my life, I have decided to include it!
As for Ph.D. holders – if you want to be addressed as Dr. – then go for it! As a great example, someone who owns her title, Dr. Jill Biden! I love it when I hear the address, “Please welcome Vice President Joe Biden and Dr. Jill Biden…” even in social settings!
It’s all preference, and I realize this topic has been polarizing. Thank you Bees again for all your support and valuable input! Happy wedding planning and will see everyone around on the boards:)