(Closed) Doctor Bride! Invitation Wording help!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Doctor Bride: Should I include my title of M.D. (medical doctor) on my invitations?

    Yes - You earned it! It's time to change some outdated wedding rules!

    Only for a formal wedding - black tie

    No - only reserved for professional settings and not weddings (can seem pretentious)

    It's your day - do what your heart tells you and makes you feel happy!

  • Post # 47
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    Helper bee

    Imo it would be very pretentious (to the point of a bit wanky) to use the title in this setting. 

    I understand that you are proud of your qualification (as you should be!), but a wedding invitation isn’t the time or place. 

    Save the ‘Dr’ for your CV 😉

    P.S. this would go for both men and women

    Post # 48
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @merpitymerp:That’s a really good point. Growing up, if I heard the title “Doctor” I immedietely assumed medical. I’m sure there are people in this world who don’t realize the title is associated with any doctoral degree and would be easily confused.

    “Excuse me, I need a director of educational curriculum STAT” 

    Post # 48
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I plan on getting my PhD and my fiance can’t wait until we can be addressed as Dr [my name] and Mr [his name]. I say if you’re having a formal wedding and you want to be addressed as such on your invitations, go for it.

    Post # 49
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I’ve never seen invites with titles for the bride and groom.  I’d leave it off for that reason (nothing to do with who’s a dr. and who’s not).  

    Post # 50
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

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    bonbonsparklesMD:  Where did you get the idea etiquette hasn’t addressed titles for women let alone that it precludes you from using yours? 

    You can use your title if you wish. Look up old Miss Manners columns – this has been addressed.

    Post # 51
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m sorry, am I the only one who thinks it’s pretty shitty that so many posters here have implied that a PhD is somehow less worthy than an MD? At least in the United States, MD = Dr. PhD = Dr. It doesn’t really matter how you “feel” about it, that’s the way it is. I invite you to spend six years studying for a degree and see how you “feel” about it then.

    Post # 52
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

    I’m about to get my PhD and I intend to put Dr. on everything!!!! I know I worked so hard to get the title and I want to show it off. You earned it and should too. Yay! 

     

    Post # 53
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    cmbr:  Agreed. These comments are ticking me off. I soon, soooo very oon will be finishing my (non-md) doctorate. I work in the medical field and all of my supervisors have used their titles. And all the MDs use it respectfully when talking to/about them in front of patients and in meetings. They’re on a first-name basis outside when chatting one-on-one.

    We have put in the same amount of work/training into our education. My 10 years post-high school education are just as good as any other doctor’s. 

    Post # 54
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    239 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

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    bonbonsparklesMD:    My Fiance and I are both physicians…We are going to leave off the Dr title as well as the degree. Just Bride Lastname and Groom Lastname. No titles. But for our friends who are also doctors, we will likely address their envelopes as Dr. Friend Lastname. 

    • This reply was modified 6 years, 7 months ago by  khaleesi.
    Post # 55
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    1609 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    If you are using titles in your invitation then use Dr.  Or just don’t use titles at all (which is what we did)

    Post # 56
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    Buzzing bee

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    cmbr:  I don’t think anyone is implying that the degree is lesser, and anyone who thinks that way has already demonstrated their own ignorance of the Ph.D. and its requirement of original research that other degree programs like the [American] MD do not have.  I think some people are just acknowledging the etiquette guideline that states that it is not customary for Ph.D. holders to use their professional titles socially.  I am certainly proud of my degree, but I’d also rather cut off my own toe than ever use my professional title in a social setting. 

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