Post # 1
Hello! I’ve been a longtime lurker but I have never posted anything before. But basically I am very worried at the moment and could use some reassurance from those who have been there, done that. I found out I was pregnant on 11/25 after two rounds of clomid! I know I have a longer cycle as I was loosely tracking for a while and had done one previous round of clomid so had somewhat of a baseline to go off of. I believe I ovulate around day 22 of a 35/36 day cycle. So that puts me a week later than standard due date calculators (I.e. My doctor says I am 7 weeks 1 day right now based on my LMP but I believe it is more like 6 weeks 1 day). That’s not super relevant to the question but I guess it plays a role.
After seeing my doctor (actually not my normal doctor but one of the other practitioners at the office) to confirm the pregnancy with a urine test at their office, she ordered an ultrasound for the following week (would have been 5 weeks 3 days by my calculations, 6w3d per them). I expressed some concerns with this as I expected we would not see anything, she said if we didn’t see anything she would order a follow up US for the next week. I also asked about a comparative hcg as I thought that was standard, she told me there was no reason for that unless complications were suspected.
So I go for the ultrasound. The tech does a transvaginal and as expected….we see nothing. Well not nothing but only a gestational sac and the start of a yolk sac, got a date of 5 weeks (again, my calculations put me at 5w3d, but I know it’s not a perfect process and dates can be somewhat off). I would have loved to have left with something a little more definitive but it was what I expected. Also, I do have a recovered uterus so I know that can make accurate ultrasounds a little more difficult.
i called my doctors office on Monday (yesterday) to follow up on the ultrasound and see if they wanted me to go in again. I also asked them if disappearing symptoms were normal. On Friday and Saturday I had some awful nausea going on most of the day. It was really difficult to eat, though I never there up. Also, for pretty much the whole week prior my boobs felt super heavy, swollen and sore. Then Sunday I had some minor nausea in the morning that resolved for pretty much the whole day until about 9pm. My boobs also felt almost normal. Since then my symptoms are back but no where near as intense. I explained this all to the nurse, who would relay it to the doctor and get back to me.
flash forward to today, after a days worth of telephone tag I finally talk to the nurse who says the doctor would like me to go for an ultrasound Thursday or Friday of this week (6w3/4d). I asked why this week, I didn’t really want to waste my time and it would be difficult for me to take time off work, etc. then the nurse told me they want me in for the ultrasound because they are worried (didn’t say, but missed miscarriage was her implication) because I said my symptoms have stopped. I again explained that they are decreased and want to know if that’s normal (which from what I’ve read online and according to my friends with kids, this is pretty normal). But regardless I am now freaking out. I took another pregnancy test (thank goodness for internet cheapies!!!) and it’s dark as ever which gives me some reassurance. I am just hoping some go you lovely ladies can give me some additional reassurance until I go for the ultrasound Friday. I am also going to call back tomorrow and ask for an hcg test for some piece of mind (seems to me that should be their first course of action….but I’m not a doctor so what do I know). Well if you stuck through this hella long post….. Thank you! And thanks in advance to anyone who replies!
Post # 2
I don’t know much about Clomid or any of those medications or similar procedures but I know from friends that they usually do a hcg test and then another hcg test in 48 hours to see if the numbers are doubling. Definitely request a hcg test. That should give you some peace of mind. Good luck 🙂
Post # 3
My symptoms ebbed and flowed during the first trimester. Some days I was fine, other days I wanted to die. Of course, I flipped out inbetween a little. Even in my third trimester, I have days were baby kicks put me doubled over, and other days where I am fine (though baby still kicks) and I start wondering if something is going on (which it isn’t, I am just nervous as heck)
I had to go in for dating ultrasounds, and at 6 weeks 3 days, in my ultrasound I got to see the baby’s heartbeat, which was cool.
Post # 4
Measuring early can be a sign of an impending poor outcome, reduced symptoms can be too. At this stage there’s no way to know which you will be, a friend of mine pregnant at the same time as me had early meayrents, bleeding, no symptoms and now has a toddler from that pregnancy, I had the same and had a miscarriage. Early pregnancy is impossible to predict and if it were me, having had bad outcomes, I’d be grateful they care enough to check rather than let the unknown drag on. I really hope you have a good outcome from your pregnancy and wish you all the luck, it’s such a stressful time.
Post # 5
It sounds like they are not really paying attention, and that everything is as it should be. You know your cycle better than anyone, and I would trust that over using your LMP. This really is too early to see anything, and I personally would vote for waiting a week and then going in for an ultrasound. I think I was able to see a heartbeat just before 7 weeks though, so you may be able to see something this week. I think it’s a great sign you saw the beginning of the yolk sac, and that this doctor is just not listening to you! I also had symptoms that would come and go and for the most part felt completely normal for the first trimester. Hope to hear a happy update soon!
Post # 6
thank you for your reply! You’re right, I am glad they are checking on this I just feel like at this point blood tests would give them a better picture than ultrasounds would.
that’s exactly my issue, I feel like they truly are not paying attention to me or actually hearing what I am saying. I asked about waiting a week and the nurse told me I could but if I call back the following week with more similar questions they would just ask why I didn’t go for the ultrasound. She was pretty insistent that I get it done this week so I will probably do that (& then seriously consider if I am staying with this practice).
thanks for the reassurance. I have read a lot of similar stories on various message boards so it’s good to keep in mind that symptoms do fluctuate.
Post # 7
You need to calm down. You’re telling them things & they are taking you at your word. Chill. They only want to do the test because you called them & told them you thought you were having problems. They want to reassure you, so they order an ultrasound. Just take some deep breaths. Enjoy the moment.
Post # 8
Hi there. I’m a doctor but obviously not your doctor and don’t know the specifics of your clinical situation. But going off what you’ve said, I can give some very general advice.
I’m confused as to what the actual “issue” is? You had an US and you were given a date (this is the appropriate way to date, LMP etc is just used prior to the US to give an estimate).
Regarding your symptoms, these sound normal for first trimester. Also, do you mean reteroverted uterus?
You are still in early days. Miscarriages do unfortunately happen, often early, so I can understand that you are stressed especially if it’s your first child. Also the “phone tag” would warrant a doctor requesting to see you again because they are probably just wondering what is going on with you and why you are so stressed. Any good doctor would do that.
All I can suggest is to try and relax, attend your appointments as suggested, and have some faith that your medical professional knows your case intimately and knows what they are doing.
Don’t do anymore cheap HCG tests as they just measure over a low HCG threshold, your doctor can do a quantitative HCG test which is what gives the information required about the progression of your pregnancy.
All the best! x
Post # 9
thanks, I am trying to stay calm. What really has me freaked out is that I thought this was a fairly normal issue (fluctuating symptoms) and only asked because1. I was already on the phone with them and 2. They deal with this a whole lot more frequently than I do. I figured they would tell me it’s normal and to relax, didn’t expect the response I got and honestly at 6 weeks it seems unlikely that an ultrasound will really give anyone the answers we are looking for. But I will definitely try to chill!
Post # 10
the “issue” is that I am very nervous and looking for reassurance from internet strangers until I go for the ultrasound and have (hopefully) some actual reassurance. I’m not terribly pleased with this doctor but she is not the normal practitioner I go to, just the person whose availability worked with mine. With regards to the phone tag, that’s just how this office works. You leave a message for a nurse and they get back to you. I can’t always answer my phone when they call back so when that happens I have to call them back, leave a message and the cycle starts over, hence phone tag. It’s not an indication of the severity of my issue/phone call, just a poor system.
As far as the pregnancy tests are concerned, I have a few leftover from buying them off Amazon. And taking them gives me some minor reassurance so I will probably continue to do that. As of right now my doctor is not doing any hcg blood work because I agree with you, that is the better option.
sorry, I do mean a retroverted uterus, darn spell check. I suppose a recovered uterus would be awhile different set of issues, lol
Post # 11
I saw the heartbeat at 6 weeks so this ultrasound may be reassuring. Either listen to your doctor or find a doctor you like better but it’s not fair to them to call with concerns and them get upset that they are taking them seriously.
Post # 12
the home HCG tests should not give you any reassurance as even in the worst case scenario (miscarriage) they would still be positive at this time.
please just wait for your appointment. perhaps keep a diary of your symptoms etc and any questions you have and take that to the next appointment. if you don’t like your dr perhaps you can change? xo
Post # 13
Unfortunately all you can do now is wait and see. Trust me, I know how stressful this part is! At 6.5 weeks, there should be a good heartbeat so hopefully you get to see/hear that! Keep us posted!
Post # 14
Oh and I wouldn’t read too much into symtpoms. It’s still pretty early for full blown morning sickness.
I also have a retroverted uterus and it doesnt really matter. You may not start showing as early because of it, but that’s about it.
Post # 15
I am listening to my doctor and will have an ultrasound this Friday. In the meantime I was looking for some personal stories from those who have been pregnant to calm my nerves. I am glad to hear you heard a heartbeat at 6weeks, that’s good to know.
I am aware that they would still show a positive.
just as a side note, I really only went to this doctor for annual checkups until this past summer when I started having irregular cycles after going off birth control. The increased frequency of visits has definitely made me realize I’m not a huge fan of them or of their nurses bedside manner. Switching doctors issomething I will definitely look into going forward because this is not the first time I have been disappointed in them.