Post # 1
Do you find yourself excited/happy, or nervous/worried for your doctor appointments?
I have my 2nd appointment on Friday. I’m excited to hear the baby’s heartbeat, but also in the back of my head I hope they won’t tell me something like the baby quit growing and I just haven’t miscarried yet. Anyone feel the same?
Post # 3
@abbyful: I always feel excited the days leading up to it, however, the night before and when I’m sitting in the waiting room, I always get that sinking feeling.
I hate it, but I just can’t let some of the negativity go. I always think it’s because I had a loss, that it makes it worse.
Post # 4
Definitely both, and like mwitter said, I think it’s because we’ve had a loss. I’m excited to see the baby again during out NT scan on Friday, but at the same time I’m almost sick thinking about it. I’m so terrified I’ll get it and they’ll tell me the baby died or was measuring weeks behind.
Post # 5
@abbyful: I was always extremely nervous before my doctor’s appointments, and excited/happy after. I think I only started feeling confident going into appointments in the last handful of weeks or so (and I’m 32w1d).
I even remember sitting there before my gender scan–my husband was trying to make jokes because I was so nervous about it all, and my Mom was ripping articles out of magazines in the waiting room, and I lost my shit. I was convinced that we would go in to find out the gender, and they would say that she had died.
My BEST advice is to do everything you can to resist the urge to google “missed miscarriage” over and over. Now that you know it does sometimes happen, you don’t need to keep reading about it. I wish I would have stopped myself, because I wasted a lot of weeks in terror, rather than just trying to enjoy it.
Post # 6
Every time they get out the doppler for the heartbeat, I start sweating.
Post # 7
With my previous appointments (6 weeks and 13 weeks), I hadn’t really let myself get too excited about the pregnancy as I knew there was a chance something could go wrong. So I went into those appointments kind of excited, kind of nervous, but really more with a relaxed attitude of whatever happens, happens.
Now that I’m 19 weeks and have the A/S next week, I’m extremely excited but also super nervous. I keep thinking about all the things that could have gone wrong in the 7 weeks since we have seen the baby and wonder if we’re going to get bad news. Because I’m nearly halfway through, I have allowed myself to get excited about this baby now and grow somewhat attached, so if something bad has happened, I will be devastated.
Post # 8
Your second paragraph resonates so much with me.
Post # 9
In my area, you only get to see your baby on the ultrasound once– at 20wks. We didn’t get to hear the heartbeat until 12 weeks. The waiting/not knowing has been so hard and stressful! I was so relieved/happy/relaxed after I heard the heartbeat at 12 weeks that I slept 12 hours that night lol 🙂
Post # 10
Early on it was a miz of all of the above. Now that I have only about 6 weeks left, I look forward to them so I can hear the heartbeat. = )
Post # 11
Early on, I was equal parts nervous and exicted….I was SUPER nervous for my 10 week appt (ultrasound) as I had not had an ultrasound since 6.5 weeks.
Now at 22.5 wks I look forward to the appointments to hear the heartbeat. After my next appt at 26 wks, I’ll be going every two weeks, so I’m sure that will get old quickly.
Post # 12
I have my first appointment on February 17th which is a over a week later than when I was hoping to get in, so that is making me really antsy and nervous. I’m just really paranoid something will go wrong in that time, but I’m also excited for that date to finally get here and I can hopefully get some peace of mind.
Post # 13
This thread is exactly how I feel. I have about two weeks until my NT scan. I’m so nervous and excited about it. The waiting is the worst part since there’s so much time lapse in between appointments. I know that I should feel confident that everything is fine, but I’m a nervous worrier by nature, so it’s hard not to. I keep saying to myself that all signs indicate that all is well with the morning sickness, fatigue, cramps, and pains. If I don’t say that, I would start to get really worried and fear the worst.
Post # 14
Both. I was definetly more nervous in the beginning of my pregnancy, and it has gradually become more excited than anything, but I still worry, especially when I am waiting for test results like I am now (glucose).
Post # 15
My very first appt is on Feb 6 & I am counting down the days. I am excited to have the ultrasound done and hear the heartbeat, but I am terrified of possibly receiving bad news. It’s my very first appt, so I believe that’s normal.
Post # 16
I am always nervous! I was slightly calmer for my second appt. but both the doctor and the nurse commented on my high blood pressure and heartbeat. I feel the exact same way as you! I’m worried that they won’t see anything or the baby is too small!