(Closed) Does a “first look” ruin the “awe” moment in the ceremony?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m in the same boat. We have gorgeous waterfalls and the lake that I want to get pictures at but with a 3 p.m. wedding it’ll be near dusk by the time we get there. After thinking about it long and hard I decided I wanted to be old school and have his first look at me when I’m walking down the aisle so he gets the oohhhs and aaahhs when everyone else does 🙂

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I am in the same boat also. As is FH.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am in the same position – and have also decided that I would rather his first time seeing me be when I walk down the aisle. I don’t think either way is wrong, you just have to decide what is more important for you.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It didn’t take anything away from the walk down the aisle.  We still had googly eyes and tunnel vision so we only saw each other.  He will still think that you are beautiful even if he has seen you in the dress before.  I really think it is worth it because then you can take gorgeous pictures and you don’t have to worry about wasting people’s time after the ceremony.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If you expect to be at all emotional (i.e crying) then I would do a first look. That is what Fiance and I have decided to do. Then we can share that special first look moment together, by ourselves, without the added eyes of all of our guests. Plus, I didn’t want all the pictures of me walking down the aisle to be me looking red faced and sniffly!

I posted a thread about this a while back, feel free to read the responses:

Should I do a “First Look”?

 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ugh, we went back and forth about this as well. First we werent’ doing it, then we were, now we’re back to doing a first look. And that won’t change b/c all the logistics are worked out around it.

My sister just did it and it worked out famously. She was still shaking and super nervous when walking down the aisle, so I think that wow factor was still there for her.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Neither Darling Husband or I are all that emotional.  We did a first look, but let me tell you, when I walked down the aisle…oh boy, as soon as those doors opened and I saw him, it was like we’d seen eachother for the very first time that day.  There is something magical about walking down the aisle to your futurue husband (or seeing your future wife walk toward you) that makes everything else just disappear.  Im telling you, our first look took NOTHING away from the walk down the aisle.  If anything, there was less pressure for him to act a certain way while wondering if everyone was staring at him for a reaction.  We got the BEST photos from our first look – those are almost 100% of the photos we ended up framing and putting in our album. 

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t think it would ruin anythin. If anything, I think it heightens the moment by giving you some special time together, which you don’t have at the ceremony.

We didn’t do a First Look and I wish we had! It would have made everything less hectic.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am definitely doing a first look…it captures that moment of awe at a time when it’s just my Fiance and me, and we’re not being stared at by so many people. I think it’s a really special time and I’m SO looking forward to sharing it just with him. Plus, I think walking down the aisle itself will be a really special experience and he’ll still be blown away 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

oh, and much like you, our first looks photos were all over the place including an ice cream/coffee shop.  we got INCREDIBLE photos because we had a ton of time and no stress

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We did a first look and I am so glad we did. It did not take away from the moment when I walked down the aisle at all. In fact, it made it better!

I had “the Moment” twice – Once before we saw eachother for the first time and again when I was going to walk down the aisle. It’s still incredibly exciting!

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Reading all the other responses made me want to add something.  By seeing eachother before the ceremony, you get to spend that precious time together.  When you are walking down the aisle, everyone is watching you and then afterward, you have to deal with all the people.  You probably won’t have time to be alone until you go home.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I used to think so, but I don’t anymore.  In fact, I wish we had done a “first look” because it may have helped with my hubby’s nerves so he didn’t have his silly, Elvis looking nervous smilie in almost ALL of our pictures in the church.

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