MemberI think your age and your divorcee statuses are irrelevant.
What do YOU want? If you both want the formal proposal, then do the formal proposal. If it’s something you want but you’re not sure he does, tell him that and let him decide if he is able and willing to give you that. If it’s important to you, tell him that. If you’d rather just go buy a ring together and call it done, do that.
MemberI’m my husband’s third wife. I expected, and got, a proposal. I didn’t really consider something other than that.
MemberIm a divorcee .. fiance has proposed before but they broke up prior to the wedding
We discussed it but he was hell bent on a proper big proposal and he definitely delivered!
MemberMy 2nd marriage, his first. We’re in our early 40’s but both of us wanted that experience. He didn’t get down on a knee, but there was definitely a proposal. If you don’t feel it’s necessary or important, you can get engagaed without one; all you have to do is agree you are getting married.
MemberThis will be my second marriage, my FH’s first and he proposed. Nothing big and it was discussed & planned prior; I believe my feelings of keeping it low key was based off it being my second engagement but also older and wiser! I wanted the proposal because I am a sucker for that kind of “romance” but it’s never rule.
Do what’s best for you & your SO. It’s okay to celebrate getting it right this time!
MemberMy Father-In-Law is divorced and remarried. He did a real proposal for his second wife: balloons, the ring, the knee, everything. He was 45 years old and he complained about his knee afterwards, but he did it, and she loved it and cried a lot. It was a lot like a first proposal.
I think every couple deserves a moment like that, whether it’s the first, second, or twentieth marriage. All up to you guys if you WANT it, but every couple deserves it.
MemberI voted all engagements should start with a formal proposal, but I consider a conversation in which two people agree to get married a “formal proposal”. Someone said “will you marry me” and someone said “yes”, so…