(Closed) does any body else face the ‘Too Young’ stigma

posted 10 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 17
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561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Don’t worry, I’m 19 and already married to my 23 y/o husband.  ๐Ÿ™‚ 18 months is plenty of time. I got engaged in December, and got married in April- 5 months & had a full blown 120 person wedding, so it’s possible!

When I went wedding dress shopping, one saleswoman said “Ooooh! Prom Season!”..bitch. Another woman, at another store was helping me into a dress and she got this awful look on her face and said “Oh sweet Jesus, i’ve made you look like a child-bride”. Wtf?

Don’t let anyone make you question your relationship because of your age. DH and I had been dating for 2 & 1/2 years when we got married, and had lived together about 6 months before that. On our own- paid our own bills, worked 40 hours a week, and were comfortable. We’re adults in every sense of the word, but since I had just graduated people assumed I was pregnant- I wasn’t, and still am not. The idea that if you knock someone up you have to marry them is so 1970 lol

DH and I are celebrating his 23rd birthday, and our 2nd month of marriage this month, and laughing about how I’ve now been out of school for a year. It works for us, we’ve just got 10 more years than most people to spend together ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 18
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90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Please don’t let rude sales people bring you down. There is nothing wrong with getting married young. I’m currently 26 and my husband is 27. we’ve been friends since i was 12 but we started dating when i was 16; three years later; he proposed but I moved in with him before getting married. We ended up having a civil courthouse marriage a year later and are planning or convalidation ceremony for this year. We did deal with comments as well but we just brushed them off. I look a little older than my husband but i still think this lady’s comment was uncalled for. We were at a store register and while the cashier was ringing us up she looks at us and tells me “how cute; is this your boy toy?” so rude….. 

Post # 20
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2128 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

wedding vendors all thought I was too  young. Like ten years younger than how old I actually am. Just ignore it and go to places that will respect you. 

Post # 21
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561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@PinkMagnolia:  This!

I look younger than I am, which is young to begin with but my moms wedding gift to us was a new king sized mattress, so she went with us to pick it out/pay for it, we went into one furniature store, and the woman asked if we would rather have seperate twin sized beds. We looked at her funny and said “Why wouldn’t we want to sleep together if we’re married?” she literally looked like she saw the devil, she said “OH! I thought you were brother and sister- you’re just SOOOOO young! You’re old enough to get married?!?!?!?”  We look nothing alike, and we took our business elsewhere because that annoyed me lol

Post # 22
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m 23 and my partner is 26, we both copped it from an old friend of my Mum’s who commented on our Facebook announcement (as we have a lot of old friends interstate) that we were way too young. Pfft…I think she’s just angry as she’s quite a bit older and only just got married 4 years ago.

Just ignore rude people, and if you can’t, go elsewhere ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 23
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yes and no.  I get flack from people who have no idea who I am (sales people, etc.) because I’ve been told that I look between 16-18.  Once I say I’m 24, most people are much more accepting…   but I’ve never put much stock in the opinions of people who don’t know me.

Post # 24
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797 posts
Busy bee

I think it’s a question of where you are from (what part of the country/world) and the standards that apply. I’m from a metropolitan city and getting married at 25 is considered very young. As a modern, educated woman, there are expectations for me to settle into a serious career before getting married. I think that what gets to us so much about people saying we are “too young” to be married is that little nagging voice in the back of our heads saying “what if I am?”. At the end of the day, IMO there is no “right time” to get married, you have to do it when it feels right for you, you have to trust your gut!

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