(Closed) Does Any Of This Really Matter?????? Rant…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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4653 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Girls get a clue and stop worrying about the silly things and start worrying about hwo to make that marriage work!


In My Humble Opinion I think telling people to get a clue is not very nice… Yes I agree some people do go a bit over board over little things but it is their right. We all hope that this is the only or last time we are getting married to why not do it the way you want it to?

Post # 5
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283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I totally get what you mean. I hear it all the time from brides to be getting engagement rings that “have to be over 10K or else!” or wearing a certain designer wedding dress or how much you spend on shoes, whatever. I think the only people who are going to judge you at your wedding (or whoes ever wedding, you know what i mean) are the brides to be attending as guests. Will anyone else know or care if the dress was bought at a “second class” bridal store, probably not. Lol, people do get a little snobbish about dumb things but some people have a loooottt of cash to spend and like a pp said, its ususally a once in a life time thing and brides will be brides. Tongue Out

Post # 6
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785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@chl8tchip:  Thats EXACTLY what I’m screaming!!! Who cares where you got your dress from and honestly, if someone does actually cae where it was or how much it was, they don’t need to be at my wedding to begin with.

Post # 7
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2254 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@chl8tchip: I’m perfectly fine with people being excited about their dress and rings and all wedding related things because this an online forum designed for people to share their ideas and opinions. Granted, not everyone is going to like or agree with everyone else. That being said, I think it’s perfectly fine if a bride wants to boast about her wedding. Yes, I agree that some people can go overboard but its natural because wedding planning is an exciting and chaotic. If you truly have an issue with a thread and its contents, the easiest way to resolve this is to just not open it. If you think it violates the board rules, alert a PM.

Post # 8
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719 posts
Busy bee

@chl8tchip:  My personal philosophy in life is that I don’t spend a lot of time loving things that can’t love me back because in reality they have no value.  Don’t get me wrong, I want a nice dress and shoes  and all that, but I try to keep in perspective that these are all “things”  and that the day after the wedding, they will serve absolutely no function in my real life.  I had a friend tell me that I should go cheap on the minister so I could have  a more lavish cocktail hour…I told her the food was not going to be what I remembered of my day, the ceremony is and that’s where I want my focus to be.  Just one girl’s opinion…..:) 

Post # 9
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1352 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m not going to lie… I like material things. Marriage is still the most important thing to me but I won’t pretend I’d be happy getting married wearing a brown paper sack LOL

Post # 10
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719 posts
Busy bee

@MrsPom:  I wouldn’t either, I just try to see things in more of a “big picture” kind of way. I don’t think I’ll be going to my death bed wishing I had spent that extra $100 on my wedding shoes!!  🙂 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@speechgal44:  Lol I know what you’re saying, I’m just glad this time next week I will be a married woman and all this wedding stuff will be over!!!!!!

Post # 12
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719 posts
Busy bee

@MrsPom:  I just had this discussion with my BFF yesterday about people’s attitudes towards money and material things.  I said I’ll probably go to my grave without 2 nickels to rub together, so I’m hoping I don’t need any cash in the afterlife!   🙂 

Post # 13
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5221 posts
Bee Keeper

I see your point in this- and I agree that at the end of the day, it is ALL about your marriage and your committment to each other. 

 

That said– I think WB in particular is a great place to get all of those ” oh my gosh my dress is 2k over budget!” things sorted through. You get a lot of great feedback from people totally removed from your wedding and who do not know you.

I don’t have a problem with ladies venting about the cost, pouring over budgets and getting feedback because a lot of it has helped me in my day to day planning. Sure, there are those brides who only want the wedding and have put ZERO thought into the actual marriage, and it can be easy to lose sight of what is most important.. but I think a lot of people posting on this board know the full on importance of marriage and may have an issue they want to blow off steam about to unbiased strangers!

 

Post # 14
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I bought my dress used even though my Future In-Laws offered to pay for it new. Which would have been 4x as much and required twice as many alterations (its already altered to my height and taken in to the right amount courtesy of the previous bride who has the same measurements as me). I *might* have gotten it in ivory instead of white if I bought it new, but I really don’t think that they extra money is worth it. Just because its there doesn’t mean I have to spend it. But if other girls want to go into debt to get a pnina than thats up to them.

Post # 15
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1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

yep, sometimes I feel like some people here live in an entirely different world than I do. sometimes it makes me feel bad but I know its not the average at all. 

Post # 16
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210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree with you fully, and I’ll be damned if it’s any more wrong to say something against the extent to which materialism is sometimes taken than it is to whine about your ring not being big enough, etc.  I just try to stay away from those threads. 🙂  You should check out the blog “A Practical Wedding” if you haven’t already; you’d like it.

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