Post # 17
@joya_aspera: you just explained my vague “it depends” perfectly! I agree that a lot of it depends on the materials used, and if the style feels “engagement-y.”
When we decided to do a non-diamond ring, it was very important to me that it still have an “engagement-y” feel to it, so it’s a round sapphire with some diamond side stones. And of course once it’s paired with a wedding band, it will be that much more obvous.
ETA: I’m intrigued by the carved metal flower e-ring, it sounds lovely!
Post # 18
I asked a couple coworkers about this recently and we all agree that ring on the left ring finger means “engaged”. While I don’t have a problem with it–and most of the girls don’t have a problem with it either (except I get embarrassed when I start asking them about their wedding stuff as a conversation starter–it’s happened twice already), it’s just confusing for the guys (as single males). They wouldn’t ask the girl out because they would assume she’s taken/engaged since typically that’s what a ring on the left ring finger means (they don’t exactly keep up with fashion as much as girls do). It’s a lot of work asking every single girl if their ring is an engagement ring or just a ring!
Post # 19
@joya_aspera: I think this more or less articulates what goes on in my subconcious as well, good descriptions! although in “real life” I have yet to see an ering that is nontraditional! I think the bee posters are much more progressive in ring styles. I’ve been waiting to see a heart shaped diamond, rose gold anything! The only thing I have seen are some halo rings, but only with diamond or clear centers.
Post # 20
No, my aunt wears a ring that looks nothing like an e-ring on her left hand. It was a gift that she wore on her right hand and moved it to the left after her divorce. Another divorced friend of mine wears a band on her left hand, and claims people shouldn’t think it’s a wedding bad since there are no diamonds, but I have a feeling she wasn’t ready to let the “ring” look go completely when she divorced.
Post # 21
I’ve always assumed that any ring on the left ring finger indicates a person is engaged, unless it looks like a wedding band. In that case, I assumed they’re married.
Post # 22
@chowderbiscuit: + 1
To me it indicates engagement or promise ring if you’re over 18.
Post # 23
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
@shesho: Hm, that reminds me of when I was at a club in Montreal, many years ago. I wore a silver ring on my left ring finger. Some guy approached me, asking me if I was married!
Generally, I don’t associate rings to engagement/being married as I do know a few people that don’t wear any rings.
Post # 24
@squishee: it depends on what the ring looks like. If it’s a solitaire set in precious metal I may consider the possibility. Of course that’s not what everyone’s idea of what an engagement ring should look like. It’s just what I think of.
Post # 25
@squishee: I would say yes. I’m 40ish, and I told a friend of mine, who is single and looking that she needed to take her purity ring (3 stone purple amethyst) off of her left ring finger because the reason why men probably weren’t approaching her was because of it. No sooner than she put it on her right ring finger, did the men start coming out the wood works. So if you wear your ring on your left ring finger, chances are people are going to see you as attached.
Post # 26
I assume most rings worn on the ring finger on the left hand would be an engagement or wedding ring. I’m usually more reserved if someone is wearing a lot of jewellery in general or wearing lots of rings. If in doubt and I knew them to speak to I would questions whether they were dating/ married/ single rather than asking about the ring specifically to avoid embarrassment on either part. 🙂
Post # 27
I wore a pretty silver ring on my left ring finger for YEARS before Darling Husband proposed. Granted, he gave me the ring and we knew pretty early on we were stuck together so it was more of a promise ring than just jewelry. It was also the only finger it’d fit without resizing.
Post # 28
If it has a “size able diamond” I assume ering, and smaller diamonds I assume a promise ring.
usually gemstone rings alone I wouldn’t assume an engagement ring off the bat, but because of this site it would be in the back of my mind. When I see it will a wedding band is when I “know”
Post # 29
Nope. I only really wear rings on my left ring finger or middle finger. My right hand is too sensative. I always forget which side is relates to your marital status, I know in some places the right hand is the significant one.
Post # 30
I only assume that if it looks like a traditional Engagement Ring. Otherwise, maybe they are like me. I have always liked to wear rings on my ring finger. From a teen up until the present. It’s always been my fav finger to wear a ring on. But I would sometimes add a ring to my middle or pointer finger as well. Really depended on my mood.
Post # 31
@squishee: haha I just got back from the jewelry store. I’m getting a small heart diamond rose gold solitaire for my 30th bday!! I’ll come back and post it when its ready (custom making the setting).