(Closed) Does anybody else feel guilty asking a flower girl’s parents to pay for things?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I feel the same way. I definitely would feel uncomfortable asking them to pay $200 for a dress. I mean a bridesmaid sure because they can hopefully wear it again but a child will grow out of it and its too fancy usually to wear to anything anyways. One thing you might consider is getting a dress made for the flowergirl, it will be a lot cheaper and you can still get the type of dress you are hoping for.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I agree with you, I didn’t want to make my sil pay a lot for the flower girl dress, but she actually was the one looking at expensive dresses. I suggested looking at places like TJ Max, Ross, ect, but she was way more picky about the dress and wanted her daughter to look like a princess. We finally found a dress on amazon that was adorable and didn’t cost too much.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My SIL offered to pay for her daughter/our flower girl’s dress also, but in the end I purchased it. I was split on it; the BMs and GMs were paying for their outfits, why not the Flower Girl, right? I found one that I loved for $115 at Nordstroms and ordered it for her, so I ended up paying since I found it. 

I really love the 1st dress you ordered. Could she wear it with a pair of tights? JCrew Flower Girl dresses ARE super expensive… perhaps you could show them the one that you like and then you and your BIL/SIL can look for one similar.

I see your wedding isn’t until June. You could 1. wait to see if it goes on sale. 2. wait for the Easter dresses to come out and look for something cheaper in the flood of floofy spring dresses. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

The only real way to solve the feeling bad part is to buy it for her yourself. That’s what I did for my daughter’s wedding, but the dress was only $30. and the shoes were a few dollars more. I also had the hair flower made on Etsy as well as a silk flower petal bag and paid for those as well.

 I would never have paid $70. let alone $200. for a flower girl’s dress that gets worn for so short a time. I would have spent way more hours on the computer than I did looking for a better deal if the bride found something she loved, but everybody was pretty easy going about it and it looked beautful on her. 

http://www.flowergirldressforless.com/mm5/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=Flower-Girl&Product_Code=6036W&Category_Code=White

Here’s the dress we got, but in a toddler size. She was only 2 at the time.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

we are jusy buying my flower girls dress… her mom is unemplyed right now and i know they dont have alot of extra money and i want my fg to get a dress that she lies and looks amazing on her! although i dont plan to spend more than 75 dollars, im sure ill find something perfect!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - The Atlantic Beach Club

I think it’s normal to have the parents pay, but I felt uncomfortable asking my brother to pay for the dress, shoes, tights, etc. So I bought everything, except the shoes. I’d say just do whatever you feel comfortable with. I think the cost also has somethign to do with it. You could offer to pay for X amount, if you go for an expensive dress.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My bro and SIL paid for the dress for my niece and it didn’t bother me.  My SIL was thinking I would choose a MUCH more expensive dress then I was looking at, and so was very happy with the purchase price!  The dress was only about $35 and included a flower hair circlet.  I have no idea what the cost of the shoes was…  I loved the dress and so did my niece!  Pic:

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I dont have a flower girl but my 3 younger cousins are involved in our wedding (2 ushers an 1 ring bearer). My aunt and uncle have always been like second parents to me and my cousins more like brothers. The thought of my Aunt and Uncle having to buy the boys outfits and what not for our wedding never really crossed my mind, then again we are asking that they wear something specific but it can certainly be worn again (khaki pants, white button down shirt, chocolate brown argyle sweater vest, chocolate brown argyle socks, etc…). If I even tried to offer to pay for their outfits, my aunt would never let me. Besides, they have more money than they know what to do with so this is certainly not something that I will loose sleep over.

A flower girl dress is a little different though since she will never wear it again. I didn’t read through all of the PP but I thought I saw someone mention TJ Maxx. DEFINITELY check there. I was there last weekend shopping for baby outfits for my friends kid and saw a slew of adorable white dresses for little girls. Being TJ’s, you’d probably find one for $30!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

I’ve never thought flower girls look like mini brides,unless they wear a veil and tiara,that is! lol

My daughter’s wedding colors were black,white and fuschia, and the BM’s wore fuschia dresses. The dark color on the Flower Girl was awful,so we went with white. It really depends on what you like.

What color is your dress and the BM’s? That dress looks like yellow or peach to me and really looks limp, and even with pressing will have no body.  Did you show her Mother and does she like it?

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’d feel super guilty! Fiance and I are paying for EVERYTHING for our little flower girl…even child minding for the evening reception.

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