- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
And by things I mean an expensive dress, shoes, etc.
My niece is going to be my flower girl, and when I talked to my sister-in-law she was like “Just let me know what dress you want and we’ll pay for it”.
I just feel SO guilty asking them to pay oodles of money for a dress she will likely never wear again!
My original pick was a J.Crew “Everyday” dress that had a champagne silk overlay and jersey material underneath- I figured it would be really cute, and comfortable on her.
It went on sale and only cost about $70, so I ordered it in her current size and a size up, and I’m going to have her try it on this weekend at Thanksgiving.
However, after seeing it in person, I’m not sure how well it will work on her. I’m nervous it will be too short, the silk is not nearly as flowy as it looked online, and the dress is cute, but somewhat underwhelming. I also ordered her a little salmon colored cardigan to wear with it, and I planned to have her wear brightly colored shoes, and I’ve debated getting a silk ribbon to have her wear at the dropped waistline in one of my wedding colors to punch up the color of the dress a bit more…. but we’ll see.
Trouble is, since then, I’ve found another J.Crew dress that I love, and it’s an actual flower girl dress. However, instead of a cool, easy $70, it’s nearly $200. I just can’t imagine asking my brother and sister-in-law to spend $200 on a flower girl dress! That seems outrageous to me!
Has anybody else had guilty feelings like this? I just don’t feel right asking someone to spend that much on their child for my wedding. A flower girl isn’t a necessity, so requiring one and then demanding that she have an expensive dress just seems unfair.