(Closed) Does anybody have advice for the Engaged Encounter Weekend?

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

No direct experience, but a friend of mine went and she said they pack a LOT of material into those couple days, so expect that. Get lots of sleep! And good lucK!

Post # 4
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Get ready to cry!!!

Post # 5
335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Just be prepared to write and be open.  We really enjoyed it, but we didnt’ really cry that much.  be prepared to eat a lot of junk food and i’m not sure if you’ve been to other retreats, but even though there are tons of other couples there, it really is about you and your fiance.  there’s not a ton of time to make friends with others. 

we just went with open minds and hearts and i was so pleased/touched/joyed with how involved my husband, who is not Catholic, was with all the writings and learnings.

i loved it!  when you come back, PM me and I’ll send you a prayer we did at the end of ours that we also read at our wedding. 

one other random thing.  someone brought a Taboo game, so it was fun to play with some other couples on one of the nights.  All the best to you two!!!

Post # 6
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sit by other couples that will laugh and joke around with you and if you have a chance to sneak off during a long break to grab a coffee, do it!

But in all seriousness, our engaged encounter weekend didn’t bring up some huge glaring difference that we need to work on, it really just reaffirmed that we are on the same page and that was suprisingly, really nice.

This other couple got into a battle about something and that was a little wierd.

I think the best advice I can give is to go into the weekend looking forward to spending time with your guy, dedicated time that you both have to be there and you’ll get through it together.

Post # 7
365 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It will be emotionally exhausting (in a good way) so be prepared for that.  Like PP said, just be completely open with each other and definitely get some sleep. 🙂 Fiance and I LOVED our experience – I hope you enjoy it as well!

Post # 8
788 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

This advice might be too late if you’ve already left, but my biggest piece of advice is to be really real with your Fiance. It took me a few writing sessions of my Fiance telling me what I wrote sounds scripted and doesn’t really sound like me, but I finally stopped trying to make my writing sound pretty and just opened up to him completely. Those were the discussions that stick with me the most, the ones where we were just completely honest with each other. For us the Family Planning part was the one that really opened a lot of communication lines. We really did grow closer after our Engaged Encounter, hopefully you will too! Good Luck!

Post # 9
1668 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We just went to the engaged encounter a few weeks ago. I LOVED it and my Fiance thought it was ok (which for him, means he loved it). It was an emotionally exausting weekend because you spend most of the weekend writing what you truly feel. We would listen to a short talk, then go our own way for about 20-30 minutes to write and then talk to eachother. We really learned to be totally open with each other, and my most favorite part was the Betrothal Pledge. 

Be prepared to eat a lot of junk food, get little sleep, and pour your guts out to your Fiance. If it didn’t cost $235, Fiance and I would go again.


On a side note, on Saturday night after the prayer service, we were asked to stay in the chapel and pray as a couple. One guy got so angry, he stood up and yelled “F*** this!” and left. The girl got up and followed him and we could all hear them fighting in the hallway….needless to say, they weren’t there on Sunday.

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