my “what he is”(dont ask lol), is a Navy vet…our landlord is Pakistanian, and while he and his wife are AWESOME, esp as LL’s go…he always gets a wierd look on his face when my “WHI” talks about the Navy. and when our lil step bro told our LL he was going Army, our LL actually told him “what an ignorant choice, when you can continue your education”…so, that put a prickle in our relationship, but still…he’s in the BIG oil and gas industry(and has 6 years of college), and his wife, we just learned, is a medical examiner/GP, so I can somewhat understand what he meant, and I just pray he meant it in a different manner lol…
As for the divorce rate…I’m not popping bubbles here, or bashing Google. But I will tell you from PERSONAL(not applicable to all), experience, that EVERY SINGLE person that I, my “WHI”, and all 4 bff’s we each have, are all divorced, and as well as every person we can remember knowing, or keep in contact with.
A pre-deployment affair with my XH’s g/f is what caused my divorce. i recently learned, he was in a race to “secure a child”, and since I refused to get off BC, he started messing around. Needless to say, we’re divorced, he has a child with his XGF, and is married to what we like to call a “card chaser”
it’s all in how you and YOUR FH handle it…it’s gonna be hard. anyone who says it’s easy, and no big deal, is covering emotion so as not to seem like it’s an issue, OR have extra activities on the side keeping them occupied.
to all you ladies. I have lived on 2 military bases, and have friends across the US, and in Japan who could tell you horror stories. and I am not exageratting. BUT, those are all of our stories and experiences, and no 2 are the same.
i wish you all good luck, and happy engagements!! again, I recommend CinCHouse.com that site is awesome, and can help with everything you can imagine…finances, relationship problems, deployment support, pregnancy support, anything you can dream of. and if it’s not on there, ask, and those ladies will find it!!!