Post # 1
I’m not really that near to TTC yet – maybe in the next year – but I can’t help but read the birth stories here.
I do notice that getting en epideral or c-section is quite common. At least in the different threads that I’ve read.
Is it uncommon to go the natural way now?
Giving birth doesn’t scare me that much, but getting a giant needle or being cut open definitely does!
Post # 3
@MrsGatito: My cousins wife gave birth naturally for both of their children. We are TTC now, and I am 80% sure I am going to try to do a natural child birth.
Post # 4
I think it depends on where you are. In the US, childbirth has become more and more medicalized. Most pregnant women here see an OB, not a midwife. Most women here give birth in hospitals- which increases the chances of getting epidurals, which in turn increase the chances of having other interventions and eventually, in some cases, c-sections.
From what I have heard, women in Europe who are considered low-risk often see midwives.
I am in the US and had an unmedicated birth in a hospital with a midwife. For me, it was the best of both worlds… I was in the hospital so if something were to go wrong I had access to help. I also wanted to avoid the ‘cascade of interventions’ so I went over a week past due to avoid being induced. I was able to contribute to my own birth by having a plan in place and keeping an open mind in the event things did not go according to plan. It was a conscious effort to have a med-free birth, and it took a great deal of mental preparation and support to accomplish my goal.
Post # 5
I’m definitely gonna go natural if possible. I’ve seen my sisters go through natural births and one epidural… i’d rather go the natural route… the epidural slowed down her labor and she was in labor for 22 hours.
Post # 6
I did 27 hours of hard labor all natural, with the decision to give birth all natural. Unfortunatley other plans were in the making. My DD was very big and my uterus was very small. She adjusted to the ideal position for coming out naturally, until her booty squished the umbilical cord and she flatlined.. twice. An emergency C-section was the only option I had to give birth to a healthy, live baby. Yes, elective ones have become common, but sometimes situations arrise that the birth of your child has to be put into the statistics of giving birth via c-section. She is perfect and healthy now!
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s uncommon. It’s just that epidurals are much safer than they used to be years okay so if you have a solution that can ease the pain then it makes the decision to go natural harder. For me personally, I had to have pitcoin because was contracting but not dialating so when my contractions got too intense I had an epidural and delivered a perfectly healthy baby girl.
Post # 8
Natural birth in the United States is not common at all. Around 30% of births are cesarean deliveries, more in certain states. In New York, the rate is as high as 50% in some areas. Less than 10% of women see a midwife vs and OB, and only 1% give birth at home.
I am in the minority, choosing a midwife and having my baby in a birth center naturally, so long as everything goes according to plan. I wouldn’t choose a hospital birth unless there was a medical necessity for it. I’m even planning on doing a breech delivery naturally if baby doesn’t turn.
Most women in our country don’t KNOW anymore that there are options. They are just told from forever that you go to the hospital and the doctor is the one that knows best and that an epidural helps with pain. No one is warned of the many risks involved in this way of doing things.
Post # 9
@DaneLady: I was in the hospital so if something were to go wrong I had access to help. I also wanted to avoid the ‘cascade of interventions’ so I went over a week past due to avoid being induced. I was able to contribute to my own birth by having a plan in place and keeping an open mind in the event things did not go according to plan. It was a conscious effort to have a med-free birth, and it took a great deal of mental preparation and support to accomplish my goal.
This is my plan exactly, actually, haha. 🙂
Post # 10
I fully intended to go without, and prepared extensively, but every situation is different and an epidural does not have to be the end of the world, either. I had a very positive experience, with no pain, C section or downside whatsoever. I was still able to push and was fully engaged in the experience.
Post # 11
I just think a lot of women don’t educate themselves. They just go along with whatever their doctor or nurses tell them.
I personally attempted a natural birth, but being that it was my first time, I totally expected my labour to be long. When I felt insanely out of control pain at 4cm, I thought there was no way in hell I could make it through to 10. Little did I know that my labour was progressing insanely fast, and when they got the epi in, I was 10cm. lol
Labour is such a crazy experience, and when you’re in that excruciating, “I don’t want to do this phase” and people are offering meds to help, they are hard to resist.
Where I live, many women do go natural, mostly because their labours progressed so fast that they couldn’t get medicated, and all of them say that with subsequent labours, they’ll go med -free again.
I just think that we all need to educate ourselves ahead of time on risks and the natural progression of labour. If you don’t understand what is happening, of course you’ll allow your doctor to lead the way. But knowing that an epi or birthing/labouring laying down can slow labour or when c-sections are NOT necessary is SO important.
I spent months reading birth experiences and stories from nurses (and “My OB said WHAT?”) to get an idea of how the “system” works. I think it benefitted me greatly, and I had an awesome birth. Sure, I did end up with an epi for all of about 60 minutes, but the other tools I gained (I feel), allowed my labour to progress fast and effectively!
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
I don’t understand why this is even a question. Everyone is entitled to give birth how they see fit. So what does it matter what’s “common” or not? I just see this thread going downhill. :
FWIW, I think as long as the mother (and father of course) come up with a birthing plan they are comfortable and confident with, that’s all that matters. It’s such a personal choice and it should be one that is between the parents and doctormidwife. who cares what’s common and what’s not. when the time comes, handle it in whatever way you think its best.
Post # 13
My mother had me in a hospital (sans epidural/low intervention – though she did have an epesiotomy), but had my sister at home with a midwife in attendance. I watched my sister’s birth.
I don’t know at this point if I will or will not have a child, but if I do, I will be going all natural unless there are SERIOUS (life threatening for me and/or the fetus) complications that require intervention. A c-section is a last-resort option (with medical induction being the second-to-last-resort), as far as I’m concerned. I haven’t decided yet if I’ll go to a hospital then tell the staff they aren’t allowed to touch me without explaining beforehand exactly what they’re going to do every time they do something, and obtaining my explicit consent for each contact (yeah, I’m an asshole) or if I’ll just stay at home.
Post # 14
A girl I worked with gave birth at home, with her husband, dula, and dog (yes, her dog) watching a few months ago. Dula didn’t even have to intervene during the actual birth, mother was able to do it her herself.
I’d say that is about as “natural” as you could possibly get.
(I should add she grew up with a lot of horses and helped many foals come into the world so I think she was far more prepared for the realities of the birthing process than your typical new mom in her mid-20’s.)
Post # 15
I will be getting induced early at 34 weeks because of very dangerous liver complications… I am undecided on the epidural. More so because I’m terrified of back labor and some other things. But I am still on the fence about what I want to do. But I’m facing a very long labor possibility because of being induced early.
The only problem I see with women who are set on natural births is that when it doesnt go there way, it seems a lot of the women have a hard time dealing with accepting the new birth plan. And it seems unfortunate to be hung up on something so out of your control when you have a beautiful healthy baby to be enjoying.
Post # 16
I guess I don’t see an epidural as being un-natural, really…
British women would usually see midwives during their pregnancy and would only be delivered by a doctor if something was going wrong. We usually deliver in hospitals though.
Pretty mych everyone I know has had an epidural, but they were only allowed to have them at about 7cm dilated, as far as I’m aware… ie right towards the end of the process.