(Closed) Does anyone else ditch heels when they are with their spouse?

posted 8 years ago in Shoes
Post # 32
11515 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@nerdwife12:  I will usually wear my heels but I ditch them for photos and always come armed with flats.  There’s only a 3″ height difference and my favourite heels top 4″ so I usually end up at least FEELING taller than him, when we’re probably about even with both of us in shoes. 

He usually doesn’t care if I’m taller, as long as I look hot he doesn’t care 😉

Post # 33
2415 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

SO is crazy tall, so I like wearing heels if we are going out to dinner or to a family function or something. Other than that, it is flats every day. 

Post # 34
452 posts
Helper bee

I am 5’9″, DH is 6′. When I wear any kind of heels (and even more so with the really high ones I love love love), I’m just as tall or taller than him. I don’t like that. I love wearing (really high) heels at work, but I wear lower heels or cute flats with DH. 

Post # 35
9538 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wear flats most of the time purely for comfort. If I’m getting dressed up, I tend to wear heels. In flats my husband and I are the same height so any heel at all makes me taller so why not go with the killer 4 inch stilletos? That being said I only wear heels for short periods and when I know I’m not going to be on my feet too much. 

Post # 36
3723 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@nerdwife12:  I LOVE being tall. I’m 5’10” in stocking feet and I wear heels every day. When I go out, I wear heels as well. Flats don’t flatter me so unless I’m wearing jeans, I’m usually wearing heels.

Embrace the tallness and tower over the minions!

Post # 37
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My Fiance and I are basically the same height (I’m 5’1″ and he is 5’3″) so when I wear heels I am taller than him. I only wear heels on special occasions and for our wedding I have 1 1/2 in heels so I won’t tower over him 🙂

Post # 38
890 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I do the same thing. I have a bunch of flats cuz if I wear heels I’m as tall as him. I only wear heels if he’s not with me. I like wearing flats cuz your feet don’t kill you 10 min after you put them on! 

Post # 39
1309 posts
Bumble bee

I love wearing heels around him because they make me feel pretty, and he’s 9 inches taller than me so I can wear whatever I want.  But we take a lot of walks so I haven’t worn them in a long time.  We’re going to a wedding in October though, and I definitely plan on wearing heels then!

Post # 40
853 posts
Busy bee

I’m 5’9″ and he is 6′ I don’t mind being taller than him when I wear heels but he hates it. I wear heels everywhere else but if we are going to dinner or church I wear flats. He really hates it which I think is a little crazy but it isn’t something worth him being upset over So I just wear the flats.

I generally wear 5 inch heels so Im very tall with them on. I like being tall haha so I think it’s great when I tower over everyone in a room

Post # 41
9791 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t usually wear heels anyway because I’m already 6’0″ so I don’t really feel like I need anymore height.  DH and I are the same height.

Flats are more comfortable and I don’t have much desire to wear heels after knowing what they do to your body after extended use.  And because I don’t need to.  I already have the height!

Some dresses do look better with heels though so I might once and while wear some small ones.

Post # 42
544 posts
Busy bee

@nerdwife12:  I love heels, but I’m like you, I hate being taller than my fiance. I’m only 5’4 and he’s 5’6 so I don’t often wear them. I have to dress up for work every day so luckily I don’t have to give up heels altogether. But I’ll be wearing flats for our wedding..no way am I going to be towering over my groom in our wedding pictures.

Post # 43
433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

he’s ten inches taller than me and idc at all about looking too short..if i wanna wear flats, i’m gonna wear them!

Post # 44
4042 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@nerdwife12:  I just don’t do heels, so I have always worn flats. It can be tricky to find formal flats but my feet were happy and I didn’t have to change shoes mid wedding.

Post # 45
1826 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@nerdwife12:  I’m already taller than him at 5’11” and with my heels I’m generally 6’3″-6’4″.

My Fiance loves it! He jokes that it puts him at the ‘perfect’ height. lol

He also calls me his Amazon…nothing wrong with being a strong, tall woman!

My ex had what I call SMS…short man’s syndrome and freaked out every time I wore heels. It’s not like I suddenly grew after we were married! Personally I think that it just showed how insecure he was and there’s nothing more of a turnoff. I don’t dumb myself down or change anything about myself for anyone!

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