Post # 1
So, just as the title says, I usually feel pretty awkward talking about my wedding. Even when other people bring it up and ask me about it. I’m afraid people will think I’m bragging, or think I’m one of those brides where everything is always about the wedding all the time. So I generally stay away from talking about it at all. But then I think that I’m missing out on my “wedding year” I should be able to talk about it and enjoy it and ask opinions, but I guess I just alwasy assume no one really wants to hear it, and only ask to be polite. Does anyone else feel like this?
Post # 3
@CanadianBride456: I feel awkward about it when people who I am not inviting bring it up (ie coworkers) Otherwise I try to not bring it up but I happily talk about it when people (who are invited) ask me about it lol
Post # 4
Yes! I hate it, we’re having a really small wedding (<60) so it’s pretty much just family and a few friends and it seems like everyone who’s asking me about it is not invited. I’m also not super into planning like I thought I would be, so I’ve passed a lot off to the planner and my mom so a lot of times people ask me things I don’t even know so I come across super flaky.
Generally the words I use to steer the conversations away from wedding talk are “super small” “chill” and “simple” lol I think everyone thought I would be having a 300+ person, $200k, mega fancy wedding with a $20k Vera Wang gown and Blue Mercury filled swag bags as favors. Luckily, they kinda lose interest when they find out I’m not.
Post # 5
@CanadianBride456: The only two people who I talk about my wedding with all the time is my Mom and my fiance’s Mom. They are both so supportive and interested in every little detail and they do not ever get sick of hearing about my ideas or things I have chosen. I use a filter when I talk about it to my FI (he does not want to know every little detail) and my sister (MOH) who has her own busy life with two small kids. Everyone is very excited about it, but I get that not everyone needs to hear about it all the time. Aside from that I only ever speak about it with say co-workers or acquaintances (or anyone who will not be invited), if I am directly asked how things are going.
Post # 6
I do sometimes. I try not to talk about it too much with people not really close to me ie BM’s and stuff.
Post # 7
@CanadianBride456: Yes!!! I have a few close friends who are also engaged, and we can kind of gush amongst ourselves, but I try not to talk about it much to anyone else. I could go on about colors, linens, flowers, music, ceremony things all day…but whenever someone I’m not super close to asks, it’s always “Oh everything’s coming along! We are just on the hunt for limos now.” which is the truth, but I don’t know how in depth of a response people want. Oh well.
Post # 8
@CanadianBride456: I do get a little awkward when people who aren’t invited ask. But I also get sort of awkward when people who are invited ask because they want to see photos or know details about things and in my head I’m going “IT’S A SURPRISE, YOU CAN’T KNOW”
Post # 9
@WhatMaeBee: My stock response is pretty similar to that. “Oh, it’s good! We have a lot done, just ironing out the details now.”
Post # 10
@CanadianBride456: I totally get that and thats why I use this site! haha I feel like people could care less usually about the details and will be annoyed if I mention anything so I only bring things up if someone asks whats new with planning or how is it going and ONLY if they are invited (if not I dont want to rub details in their face so I just usually say a nice Oh great thanks for asking and move on)
Post # 11
Yep, I’m on the same boat with you! I still have a lot of single friends and I avoid the topic like the plague. I don’t want to be that bride/friend who comes off as being self-centered and all of a sudden, the world revolves around me and MY day, and MY dress, etc. I knew brides that were like that and it was really annoying. One of things that annoy me the most is when people ask me if I’ve picked out the dress yet or not. I’ve made the mistake of saying I did, and they’ll ask me for the style and pictures. I guess I’m one of those brides that just want it to be a surprise for all my guests. I mean, I even went and picked out the dress ALONE, without other people’s opinions. I don’t really want to be sending everyone the link to my dress and going, HERE IT IS!!! I even had a friend ask me if I’ve picked out my bridesmaids yet or not…and she offered herself up as a bridesmaid for my wedding in an almost passive agressive way…”When I get married [she’s single], I’m going to have five bridesmaids and you’re definitely going to be one of them. So, who are you going to ask to be your bridesmaids?” Ugh, so much unsolicited wedding talk! That’s what weddingbee.com is for!!! If I’m not in the mood to talk about it, I get off the site! LOL!
Post # 12
Whether I’m invited or not, I enjoy hearing about weddings- so when someone (aside from a total stranger) gets awkward talking to me about it… yea, I kinda get offended. Like, A LOT. They should be happy I even care enough to ask and show interest in their life.
Post # 13
@CanadianBride456: I think it’s two very different things if a bride is always bringing up her wedding, vs. if her friends are asking her about it. Some people aren’t super-interested in weddings, and they won’t ask you about it. Others (like me!), love hearing about friends’ wedding planning, and think it’s fun to hear all the ins and outs! I think it’s safe for you to assume that if anyone asks, they’re not just wanting to be polite – they really want to share in your joy, or commiserate your stresses – they care about you, and they know that wedding-planning is a big part of your life right now!
Post # 14
I’m in a really awkward situation where i don’t really feel i can discuss my wedding. 2 of my 3 bridesmaid’s are having severe troubles in their very long term relationships. One of them has been married for 4 years but with him for over 15 yrs. They are both having such a hard time that i really don’t feel comfortable bringing it up. They don’t ask either. I did have a chat with both of them to see if there was anything I could to to help them, but i do really feel like my wedding day will be nothing more than an ordeal for them (in two weeks time). I hope we can have fun and giggles on the day and enjoy being girls! Gah, It sucks.
Post # 15
@CanadianBride456: YES! I feel exactly the same!!
Post # 16
A single male colleage of mine is 32, he recently made a comment in passing about how he thought he’d be married with kids by now. Now I feel awkward when anyone brings it up around him..
Also, when people who aren’t invited ask how it’s going….