(Closed) Does anyone else feel guilty buying things that are 'frivolous'?

posted 4 years ago in Money
Post # 31
3092 posts
Sugar bee

Absolutely not.

Post # 32
1387 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My husband probably wished I did! Like PP said – we pay our bills have no debt except my student loans. We have the cash flow available – so why not spend it. Darling Husband has a stressful job so we take a 1-2 week vacation every year so he can relax. 

Post # 33
40 posts

I think before I buy.

I am a sucker for pretty things and things on sale, but I think about what I really need the item for first. Do I have something similar, will this last me a few years (if it’s “trendy” I usually put it back) is the quality worth the cost, can I get it for less anywhere else? Once it passes all those tests, it’s mine!

As for vacations, never a twinge of guilt. If we’re able to travel and enrich ourselves culturally or mentally (even if it’s under an umbrella with a drink), it’s a deserved break and hopefully sane few days away. 

Post # 34
1017 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Foreverblonde345:  Omg that sounds like a nightmare!  You could still buy something if you really want it!!!!!!!  Maybe if you expect it to go badly then it will end up being ok 🙂

Post # 35
422 posts
Helper bee

I don’t really do frivolous. We’ve a had a lot of major expenses this year (IVF, buying a home) so all of our “fun” money has gone to both of those things. The only “frivlous” thing I’ve bought in  the last two months is 6 skeins of yarn for a baby blanket I’m making.

Probably the most frivlous thing we’ve ever done was go on a cruise for our 5th anniversary. It was our first vacation since our honeymoon, but we desperately needed some time to reconnect and that did the  trick. Otherwise, unnecessary purchases aren’t something I do.

Post # 36
5884 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

chrissybee:  Yes, I do.  Both because I don’t like to waste money (and it’s so easy to fritter it away on a scarf or a latte or whatever) and because I don’t like to have clutter in my house.  I have enough stuff!

I track my spending.  it’s a practice that keeps me honest about how easily that $20 dress and those $40 shoes can add up.  I’ve also cleaned out my closet enough times to know that buying this thing that was “such a great deal” usually results in it collecting dust.  It’s not that I can’t afford to buy these things, but I recognize that the purchase doesn’t truely make me happy and doesn’t align with my values of not being wasteful.

I try to shop for clothing from a list, the same way I would grocery shop.  I keep a list of the items missing from my wardrobe on my phone, then when I go shopping I try to ONLY look at things that are on the list.  That way, if I know that I need a new pair of good black dress pants I can go out there and find the perfect pair.  Even if they cost a little more, that’s ok since I didn’t buy 3 different pairs that were “a good deal” that I didn’t really like.  Well, that’s the idea anyway.  My implementation is of course not perfect.

But vacations?  I don’t feel guilty about spending on that.  Or on good quality food.  Or on other things that are a fit with my values.  I feel guilty when I waste money on “shiney things” that aren’t really what I want and need.  I want to be someone who is a concious consumer.  In general, I find it really helps to just stay out of the stores!

Post # 37
1450 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

Depends on the thing. For reference, my husband and I don’t make a lot of money. We are debt-free, but have very little savings. I do feel bad buying material things, but I don’t feel bad about, say, the $2,500 we spent on our honeymoon, or the $100 we’re going to spend this weekend to go to a music festival. It may sound backward, but stuff eventually loses its worth – clothes go out of style, furniture falls apart, etc. But the memories I have from spending time with my husband will last forever, so I feel less guilty about spending our limited funds on experiences rather than stuff. 

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