Does anyone else feel guilty for not enjoying pregnancy?

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

pinkshoes :  lol I’m not enjoying your misery but I am SO excited that you are going through this:) how far along are you now? I think of you often and am sending all the positive pregnancy vibes your way. I hope the rest of your 9 months is not too uncomfortable:)

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

Prettysmile40 :  Don’t you just love all the labels…I’m due on April 28th 🙂 I’m absolutely terrified of delivering but glad it’s almost over!

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I hate being pregnant. My son was absolutely worth it, and I’m sure his sibling will be too, but I still don’t like the experience itself. I’ll be their incubator for as long as they need, but if I could get the same result by finding them in baskets on the doorstep, I’d be all good! One thing that’s helping me this time around (I’m 10.5 weeks) is remembering the initial weeks after my son was born. He would cuddle into me and relax in a way he wouldn’t for anyone else, because I was home. He knew my heartbeat and movements in a way no one else could, and I was the most familiar thing to him. That was pretty awesome. But I’m still looking forward to getting this one out in September and being completely done with pregnancy and birth!

Post # 22
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

YogaMama :  lol. thanks.  I’m 10w5d nwo and been miserable for like month now.  But I will take it!  I’ll take anything this pregnacy wants to throw at me as long as it ends with me alive and a healthy baby haha

Post # 23
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Bumble Beekeeper

Prettysmile40 :  I also took a couple years and IVF to get pregnant and while my pregnancy was fairly easy, the few times it wasn’t I didn’t feel guilty about hating it at all! It’s rough on your body and anyone who thinks it is sunshine and roses all of the time is either (a) super lucky or (b) delirious. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee

I’m convinced people who say they love being pregnant are lying because they like how it makes them look. I loved the FACT that i was pregnant, but hated pretty much every minute of it. I was super sick well into my second trimester, which was pretty much immediately replaced by absurd swelling. I had some bleeding scares and was pretty anxious the whole time that something would go wrong.

Now I have my 7 week old and I love her to death, but honestly not loving the newborn phase too much – it’s exhausting. I think we would do a lot of service to women if we would all be more open about our struggles – there is something in our society that stops us from being honest about how hard pregnancy and motherhood are – and so much to gain by being open and honest about it. When I finally opened up to my friends. I found they felt the same way.

Post # 26
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Hell no! Pregnancy sucks!

Post # 28
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Bumble bee

I’m not pregnant yet (not trying yet either), but it generally seems like a pretty not fun time to me. 

Post # 29
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Busy bee

I sometimes feel guilty about this too, bee! I was sick until 19 weeks or so so that was less than enjoyable. Pregnancy looks a lot more fun and glamorous on Instagram and mommy blogs. I just feel bloated and uncomfortable most of the time. Summer can’t get here fast enough!

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I didn’t with my first and I don’t again with my second. Everyone makes it sound like the entire experience is magical and that you need to be so eternally grateful but the truth is your body goes through so much change in such a short amount of time, it’s very difficult to “embrace” the beauty of it. There are SO many things nobody tells you about and when you ask about it everyone goes, “Oh yeah!! Isn’t that the worst?!” so everyone knows, but nobody wants to admit it because we all think we have to be overly in love with the process of pregnancy. Don’t feel bad, it’s freakin tiring and the opposite of glitz and glam. 

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