(Closed) Does anyone else feel kinda awkward about…

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would initially say yes it is, but after seeing my SIL shop around for wedding gowns and buying her Tiara when she is not engaged, Ide say go for it! Keep it secret though. It can be your hidden hobby until he pops the question! : ) We spent 25,000 on our wedding and my parents paid for 10,000. We had 160 people come. So if you keep it small and simple you probably can do it in that price range, but its gonna be hard!

Post # 4
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I did it before my husband and I were officially engaged. We had decided we were getting married, and even had a venue in mind. All we were waiting for was the ring, and I contacted the venue to see what their packages cost. I’m glad I did because that left us plenty of time to set a reasonable and realistic budget based on actual information.

I say as long as you’re doing it to scout out the cost of certain venues, what’s the harm? If you’re looking to see what dates are available, that would be pushing it for me, but also not the worst thing in the world 🙂

Post # 5
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I haven’t contacted anywhere, but I have looked at a few places that show their costs online just for fun. I think I would feel weird about contacting places without the full proposal and idea of when the wedding will take place since some of that information will determine the cost.

In terms of setting a budget, I truly believe that you set the budget that you want to spend and find a way to make it work. I wouldn’t build my budget around how much things cost in my area, so it’s a moot point for me, but if it helps you plan and get orgaized then I don’t think you should feel weird about it at all.


Post # 6
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We were in the same boat and I let my mom in on the secret because I knew we would be depending on a lot of her contacts to get good deals.  That led to us finding out the venue would be free, so we reserved it even before we were officially engaged!  Now that felt weird!

Post # 7
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Well, you can e-mail and just request their price list.  That’s what I’ve done.  I do have a date though, so it makes things easier.  I don’t feel weird because I’m not actually talking to anyone. Just e-mail communication and no one has asked for more detail.  I give them the date and my e-mail address and they reply with the price list. 

Post # 9
2408 posts
Buzzing bee

nope. i just emailed and asked for information. only one person followed up to see how things the planning was going so if you want to get quotes, i say go for it. it’s all in the spirit of research!

Post # 10
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I emailed around and was able to get price estimates without actually having to show them a naked ring finger! But, otherwise, i’d probably just say i was engaged and the ring was getting fixed or cleaned or prongs checked or something to explain its absence

Post # 11
1385 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We went together before we were technically engaged, but we’re super planny-people so we like to get the lay of the land before jumping in! :o) I say visit away!

Post # 12
3587 posts
Sugar bee

I say why not? I do it all the time. it’s good to see what the prices are going for these days and see which ones can fit in your budget.

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