(Closed) Does anyone else feel like their life is standing still ?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m with you. I try to stay positive, and tell myself it is a GOOD thing that I’m in the calm of the storm. When big things happen in life, such as engagement, babies, promotions, etc, as much as they are positive things, they also bring other things with them such as stress, drama, and a feeling of walking into unknown territory.

I would say ride the wave, as much as you possibly can. Start reading a new book, take up a new hobby, and the time will go by alot faster. I know this is much easier said than done, as I say these things to myself & poorly practice them.

It will and always starts moving again!

Post # 4
Member
1327 posts
Bumble bee

Yeah I feel like this very often, even though thigns are moving forward. No suggestions, just your not alone.

Post # 5
Member
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I sometimes feel like this and in the past have felt like that for longer periods of time. Then I realized something. I control me and my destiny so I did things that I could do to make myself better, my career better, my relationships better.

I planned a weekend away with my then Fiance, I started researching on certificates that would help in my career. There are so many certificate courses in all fields both online and at schools.

I took up a new exercise routine

And before I knew it, it felt like all the good things were happening to me. I got noticed at work and received a bonus, I fit in my clothes better and I enjoyed a really great fun weekend with my Darling Husband.

 

Post # 6
Member
451 posts
Helper bee

I am exactly with you.  I’m starting to get restless.  It’s everywhere, but it doesn’t help that one of best friends (who was living with me and in school just over a year ago) has just gotten married, has a kick-ass job in the field she likes, and is having her forever house built.  

It’s hard not to compare ourselves to other people… I think we just have to try to remember that everyone goes at their own pace, and that isn’t a bad thing.  We’ll have our moments, too, and we have those to look forward to. Like PP said, though, it’s much easier said than done.

It does suck… but we’ll get through it.  Keep your head high 🙂

Post # 7
Member
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Your life isn’t about other people’s milestones. It’s about feeling engaged and satisfied with your own steps. Are you feeling challenged enough at work? If not, ask for a promotion or change jobs. Are your hobbies engaging enough? Take classes and try something new.

But most of all, stop basing your expectations on what everyone else is doing. Their life isn’t yours – your actions and decisions are your own!

Post # 9
Member
3421 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

I have kind of FORCED my life to stop. I had TOO much stuff going on so I said stop. I just wanted to have a period of time where I actually got to go home after work and relax. That’s the plan for the summer but now I have been coming to the conclusion that I won’t be ready to go back to grad school until I am engaged. It is all I can think about so why fight it. I feel like once we have celebrated the engagement I will be back in the right mind to put my all into school.

So would you say this is the opposite?

It feels like so much can stop while we wait for the ring. But it is just our perception of time. Time never stops. Even when we do. But sometimes it is ok to stop. We are allowed to smell the roses.

But in regards to your job, SEIZE that sh*t girl

 

Post # 10
Member
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Lulume:  Then I say go do that! A good wallow session can help to. 

Some of the certifications (actually a lot) can be cheap. Even a “How to be a good supervisor/manager” class looks good on your resume and can be cheap.

Post # 11
Member
2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Preach it sister. I feel the exact same way lately.

Post # 12
Member
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Lately I’m feeling very burnt out. I’m about to finish my Bachelors in December, I work, I play college sports, preparing for certification tests, I’m in a friend’s wedding, I start my Masters in January…

I feel very overwhelmed.

Ideally, I wanted to wait a year to start on my Masters to give myself a break, but I received a scholarship so I have to start ASAP.

I can understand how hard it is seeing other people getting promoted, getting engaged (this is tough), etc. It’s hard especially when you feel like you’ve been doing the same thing for a very long time. I’ve often felt like that when college feels to be dragging on and on.

But I really liked ThreeMeers’ suggestions! A new exercise regimen, asking for a new position at work, getting involved in some community clubs…I think it will break the monotony. 🙂

Good luck, girl.

Post # 13
Member
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes and it’s hard not to feel down about it. Friends getting married, having babies. My SO has been having financial troubles which forced us to move back into our parents homes. It feels like i’m a teenager again.

Post # 14
Member
276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Don’t worry, you’re def not alone!.. I feel the same exact way and have felt this way this whole year… I’m not happy at work, been doing the same thing for 10 years, and all of the other stuff.. So we’re in the same boat…

Whenever I see someone I haven’t seen in awhile we always just talk about what’s going on in there lives because I literally never have anything new to report!.. Besides the occasional vacation or concert I’m going to :/

Lame.. But I do know eventually those things will start happening for me… I just hope I don’t have to wait too much longer.. And I hope you don’t either! 

Post # 16
Member
3830 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I felt like this for sooooo long. And now that we’re engaged, i wish i could go back and slow things down and just enjoy myself! Now i have to be super busy planning this wedding and dealing with family dramas and everything else, i wish i appreciated the carefree life we had before.

Lol its such a double edged sword!! 

The topic ‘Does anyone else feel like their life is standing still ?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors