(Closed) Does anyone else feel like their life is standing still ?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Yes. No advice. Just yes, exactly.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think the grass can almost always seems greener on the otherside, time to fertizilize and water your grass!! ๐Ÿ™‚

I have felt the same way as you, and I still do! I try to remember that I’m not at the bottom of the barrel, things could always be worse…and I will take stagnant over things getting worse! Remember to take time each day to be thankful for things that are in your life now, otherwise the things you are waiting for later down the road may not be enough either.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I do! Even though I have my wedding coming up, I feel like I don’t have anything else going on. Fiance got a new job and is going to apply for grad school for the during semester, so he has a lot going on, but I don’t. Maybe I’ll start volunteering again once the school year starts.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I really understand how it feels. I’m not in this position relationshipwise (although I feel I can’t move my relationship forward until I have my job situation more settled and Boyfriend or Best Friend wants to move things along pretty quickly so that’s stressful) but I feel stuck because, for some reason, I’m unhireable. I live with my parents and while I love them, they do live in retirementvillage and I have no friends. I have several friends getting married and while I am going to one wedding soon, I got really sad when I saw pictures of the bachlorette on FB and I realize how much of I’m missing–but I’m not missing it for anything important, I’m just missing it so I can hang out on my parent’s couch and write yet another cover letter that will ultimately get rejected. Ugh. And I had a really awesome life just a year ago. I was living on the other side of the world, completely independent and doing good work. Now, my parents micromanage my job search, like a little kids who hasn’t done their homework properly. It’s humiliating.

On the plus side, I really do enjoy my volunteer positions, have met great people that way and am gaining very useful skills. I just wish I could get paid for it!

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Yeah. I totally feel you.  I am unemployed and job seeking with no success (early days but still).  SO says he wont propose until after I graduate (which I have but the ceremony isn’t until September); but realistically we don’t have the money right now either, not whilst he’s supporting us.  I’m heavier than I’d like.  My friends are all 7000 miles away “living life” including one couple who we need to shell out the best part of £3000 (US$4500) just to go to their wedding (we want to, but it doesn’t help our financial situation).  Sometimes life feels so crap.  Other times though, I’m loving it! Ce la vie.

Post # 22
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Blushing bee

I think one of my favorite things about the Bee is that so many people can relate to my life and put what I’m feeling into words.  

 

I definitely feel like my life is standing still.  Like my life is staying the same and everyone else is growing up and moving on around me ๐Ÿ™

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

Yep – I had a huge freakout in January because I realised that for the first time ever, NOTHING changed in 2011. Nothing has changed in 2012, yet – but I’m hoping that 2013 will be the year it gets gooooooood.

Sometimes I feel as though I’m willing my life away – but I hate being stuck in this ‘get up, go to work, come back from work, sleep’ cycle.

The only thing I’ve done to help with this is start Project Life – it’s a scrapbook type thing that helps you document day-to-day things and it helps to look back on your life and think *hey – i forgot about that!* and remember the little good things. like the time you sat outside with a cup of tea and enjoyed the sunshine – that kind of thing. It helps a bit ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I also feel the same way sometimes. Two friends just had baby showers, 2 engagement parties this month, one friend just got engaged and our close friends just bought a house. I’m constantly feel like I’m also in a stand still. But then my SO reminds me that we have great cars(4) a beautiful apartment and a awesome furbaby! Lol all my friends are just getting these things and we have had them for a while. I mean I guess all I’m trying to say like PP your not alone!!

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

EVERYDAY I DO!!

Post # 27
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Blushing bee

I felt like that for a few years, especially after I graduated college. I had a hard time finding a job, so took the first one offered, which wasn’t relevant to what I wanted to do and paid so little. I was super unhappy and finslly got to a point where I decided things needed to change. I lost weight and felt happy in my own skin for the first time…ever, got a new job and was proactive in my dating life. I just switched jobs about 6 months ago (love it) but have since put on the weight (18 lb…boo). But starting to feel that life is again standing still. Maybe I should dust off those running shoes…

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

@vanillahoney:  Running is so so good for you. You get runner’s high and everything. It increses your serotonin levels and metabolism. my mom lost 35 lbs by running and weight watchers. RUN!

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Sapphire-Dreamer:  This.  Running is honestly one of the best things I’ve ever started to do for myself. ๐Ÿ™‚

 

I look at the friends buying houses, etc, and feel that small twinge, but overall I feel like my life took a huge step forward when I left a job I hated and took a leap of faith when I moved to another state away from my friends.  I sometimes feel like life is going on without me there, and it is, but I have a life here now so it’s all good.

Post # 30
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Busy bee

@Lulume:   i feel that way all the time but theres little i can do =)

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

i feel the same way…everyone’s lives are taking shape and whirling around me and im just here.

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