(Closed) Does anyone else feel like they’re being taken more seriously?

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Yes, definitely! 

I’ve been working since I was 20 (and look young) so suddenly people notice the engagement ring (ha – and the reading glasses) and treat me differently.  I get a lot fewer “oh, you’re so young!” comments now at work too.  I’m 27 but work in a very male-dominated field and work with senior partners all the time, so maybe that’s it.

Post # 4
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Yes, I feel that I am definitely taken more seriously and sometimes it scares me as I still do not think of myself as an adult.  That is what happens when you are 27 and still in school, you still feel a bit like a kid.  It is nice though when my advisor understands when I need to take a break to spend more time with my Fiance.

Post # 5
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3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I feel like my Future In-Laws take us more seriously now.  I’m pretty goofy/not very adult-like so not many people take me seriously….

Post # 6
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522 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I stopped getting carded at restaurants when I started wearing my engagement ring…LOL. It’s nice considering I’m 27 and they used to scrutinize my driver’s license for minutes before handing it back to me. But anyway, yes I find that I am taken more seriously, especially by my older, married coworkers.

Post # 7
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5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m really hoping the ring will help. People still ask me if I’m 12, or if I’m in high school. Doesn’t help that I’m 5′. 

Post # 8
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476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m still getting the “you’re so young,” but it has helped with my mom.  She has always treated me like a little kid and now she seems to be treating me like a woman.

Post # 9
Hostess
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

My Fiance and I are definitely taken more seriously. I am a grad student and since most of my classmates are older and married, they treat me more seriously because I’m engaged…it’s a little strange.

Post # 10
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426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

In general people I meet assume I am 8-9 years younger then I am.  That is fine in day to day life.  I really don’t mind it.  But it does bother me when Im working.  I work with new people all the time and eight out of ten people (based on my appearance) will assume I am just out of school or just starting out in my job.  A lack of trust is sometimes a result and I have to re-assure them I have been doing my job for 10 years.  I make a huge effort to look professional and age appropriate with my clothing and style when Im at work.

After I got married new people I meet (if they notice the wedding band) will tend to take me a bit more seriously then otherwise…. or at least thats how it seems.  

 

Post # 11
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5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I feel like I am taken more seriously. Before getting engaged, my family treated me like a child. Now they treat me like a young adult. It is not like I am suddenly more responsible, but they now see me differently.

Post # 12
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651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

haha, the Fedex delivery man at work asked me today “Are you old enough to be working here?”  Sigh…so no, I guess I’m not being taken more seriously yet.  I’m 5 feet tall with baby face, people always think I’m in high school, but I’m actually going to be 25 in May.  Maybe an e-ring would hel, ha.

Post # 13
Member
474 posts
Helper bee

I hope a Ering makes people take me and my relationship more seriously. I feel like people do not see my relationship seriously because we aren’t engaged.

Post # 14
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66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Definitely!  Once we got engaged I noticed a change…  People treated me like my actual age (instead of 5 years younger) once I had some diamonds on my finger.  And now that we’re married, people treat me differently when I say anything about “my husband.”  If they haven’t noticed the ring, saying husband really changes how they act (very strange, but I’m not going to complain).  I love getting so say husband, and I don’t mind that people are finally treating me like an adult!

Post # 15
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96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Fiance and I have definitely noticed this change. People are basically treating us as a “grown up” unit now, instead of just two “kids” still dating. It is making everything with trying to get our lives together much easier. I feel like people trust us to make our own decisions and live with the consequences without trying to push us.

Post # 16
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231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

yeah no one even took me that seriously after having two kids one which has a rare syndrome and requires responsible parents… now that im planning the wedding and they realize i have an income all my own to pay for the wedding myself im suddenly an adult… ive been working since i was 15 im 23 now, and going through a change of career from gemologist to doctor… i still get carded at the beer and liquor store except by the one women, she is my neighbour and our fiances are friends

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