- 6 years ago
I am wondering if anyone else gets uncomfortable going to certain events like weddings, showers, engagements parties, etc.?
I’m 30 years old, in a relationship, but I’m not engaged yet, and I don’t have any kids. I feel like people look at me as defective, because I’m 30, unmarried and not a Mom.
I get uncomfortable at events because I constantly get questioned about why I’m not married, or when I am getting married, or why don’t I have kids yet, and when do I plan to. I hate answering these questions…because I don’t know the answer, and it’s so rude! It makes me feel inadequate, even though I know I’m not, I feel like others think I am. I feel like they think I’m not as much of a woman as they are because I don’t have a husband and I haven’t had a baby. Do women feel this way? Do Mom’s and Wives think they are superior to women that aren’t Mothers or Wives? Maybe it’s just me, but because of this, I get really bad anxiety and I can’t even bring myself to go sometimes…I feel somewhat selfish, but it’s honestly so uncomfortable for me, that I just can’t do it.
I skipped a baby shower today for these exact same reasons. I was ready to go with my Mom, had a gift and everything and at the last minute, I just decided I couldn’t do it, and I had her go without me and just deliver my gift.
I went to a wedding recently, and I just felt so out of place, I feel like everyone is looking at me like the Old Maid….I know I’m not old, but it’s like society looks at me like I’m unacceptable! That’s what I feel like.
Does anyone else ever get these feelings? Or are ya’ll just super happy to go to these events and those personal questions from people don’t bother you?